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writes:Utterly confused and hoping someone could please shed some light!Been flirting with a guy that works in a store I shop in once a week. Really felt a lot of tension between us, definitely a connection. Two days ago we spoke for quite a while. He complimented me and then said 'don't tell your boyfriend!' so I said I don't have one. Anyway the whole time we were looking into one anothers eyes amd he was acting quite excited and clumsy? It was very flirty. This has been going on for a few months btw, started with him staring at me and then progressed. So I handed him my number, been psyching myself up to for ages anyway and it felt like the right time. Around the time i'd predicted he'd get home he text me. We exchanged a couple of texts and seemed to be getting along... But then after my last one he suddenly stopped? I sent one 24 hours later making a joke of how long it takes him to reply... nothing. So it's been almost two days and I don't get what's happened. My friend said his phone could have broke so I decided to give it a quick ring to see if it was switched on and it is off. So it could be that? Although very bad luck for his phone to break just as we start talking... I can't stop wondering if i've done something wrong. Plus it took me so long to take it to the next step and now it's just come to a standstill :( So just wondering if anyone could shed some light? Thanks in advance.
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (28 June 2013):
 The fact that he's a rubbish communicator and blows hot and cold at this stage doesn't bode well for a potential future relationship. It would really do my head in if I were in your shoes.
My advice is to get out before you form an emotional attachment to him. Can you go to another shop instead?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just wanted to update. So I went into the store on Monday. As I got to the door I noticed him in his coat going back into the store as if he'd finished, was just leaving and had forgotten something? Anyway he stood at the checkout and waited for me to pay. He said Hi -my name- and smiled. I half expected him to wait outside and explain but he didn't. So I left without getting any answers and was even more confused seeing as it looked as if he was leaving, had seen me approaching so went back in to see me and then said hello? Anyway a few minutes later he rang me. He gave me an explanation saying he's basically really rubbish at texting, it's not his thing. The conversation flowed really well and he basically said that he liked me etc. And also that I shouldn't think he was being ignorant if he doesn't respond in future. So Monday night and all day on and off on Tuesday we texted, flirted a lot etc. But as conversation would get flowing he'd suddenly cut off and stop replying. I found it really frustrating so I just said to him yesterday 'seen as you're such a useless texter, fancy meeting up?' So he replied 'Yes we can do, are you around now?' I replied no, but I can do tomorrow (as in today) eveming? But then nothing. This was at 1 p.m yesterday btw. I sent another last night saying 'Yes -my name- tomorrow sounds fun, lets meet at 7' as a. joke,but still nothing. So now I really don't understand. It's gone right back to square one and my mind is boggled. I'm thinking about just forgetting about it tbh, its screwing with my head and I feel like i'm being strung along? Argh!!
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (22 June 2013):
Five days is a good length of time. Just don't be tempted to ring the number again, hidden number or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. I'd like to think he is interested just given the way he's acted around me for a while now and especially after how he was the other day and the fact he text me. I expected either a text to say 'sorry if i've given you the wrong idea, I have a gf' or something if he wasn't interested but he didn't, he was very flirty and the last text was 'I can tell just from these texts you're somebody I'd like'... then after my reply nothing. I have checked the phone again (privatised my number!) and it goes straight to voicemail. So I'm hazarding a guess that something happened to the phone... which is extremely unlucky!
I could next go in on Monday which will have left it five days and i'd wait to see if he approached me to explain? Is that too soon?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (22 June 2013):
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Good for you making the move and giving him your number. He used it too so I would stop stressing, carry on as normal and see what happens when you go back to the shop.
His phone could be off for various reasons so if he's single you don't have much to worry about. Wait for him to contact you now, don't be a desperado. He's interested.
Good luck
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (22 June 2013):
I don't know about this. I mean, it's possible of course that his phone it's broken but I wouldn't bet on it. It has happened to once that a guy gave me his number, I texted and he didn't reply and I later found out he had lost his phone, so of course it's a possibility. But there are also other possibilities so for your own sake it would be better not to get too hung up on this guy.
If something like this happens to me, I've noticed that my female friends always try to find a reason other than the guy it's not really interested. Broken phone, message not arrived, family emergency etc. They tell me he's still interested but just busy, or confused or whatever. My male friends will usually shrug their shoulders and say they're sorry but he probably isn't interested. I appreciate that the girls are trying to make me feel better but actually they are just giving me false hope and in the end that hope makes the disappointment more painful and harder to bear.
I think you should work on the assumption that he received your message but just didn't reply. Don't text or call him again unless you hear from him with a decent and plausible excuse. If you go into his shop I guess you could ask him if you wanted to but I would act a little bit cooler towards him and wait for him to say something. If he says his phone was broken and could he please have your number again, then go for it, but otherwise I think you should accept that he might just be a big flirt.
I know it took all your courage to give him your number and that's great that you did. Even if it doesn't work out with him, it's good practice for the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2013): Ah, flirting with someone in a shop... love it. I have done this before. From experience if they are willing to take time out to talk to you, he is definitely interested! So don't worry about that.
Try and keep yourself busy. Try not to text him or call him, in case his phone is back on or whatever. Just hold out until you see him again - which you will very soon. Take your mind off it - He's interested, and that is the most important thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. I didn't consider the bill, that could be a reason! I'm trying not to worry and forget about it but it's just been playing on my mind
I can't get there for another 6 days either but can't imagine 6 more days of this!
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reader, llifton  +, writes (21 June 2013):
 maybe he didn't pay his bill and it's temporarily disconnected. i wouldn't freak out just yet. he seemed interested. he texted you right away after he got your number.
you could pop up at his work, as you said you said you go there about once a week, anyway. would be a good excuse to run into him. maybe he can disclose the reason why his phone is off.
either way, you just started talking to this guy. try not to worry so much about it.
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