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writes:I have been looking for a mew job for a while and my boyfriend new this. 18 months ago an aquaintance suggested I speak to her brother who wanted someone to join his small business. I met with him that same day and he offered me a job. When I called my boyfriend that night the first thing he said was: "Who did you sleep with to get the job?" He was very angry I don't know why, he knew I was looking. He also wanted to know why I hadn't told him before and I explained it all happened on the same day. He didn't accept that as a good explanation.I think he was rude and insulting, he won't admit doing anything wrong. I was angry about it especially as he has no reason for accusing me of anything like that. And for some reason we were talking about it and now he says he never said any such thing and is not the type of person who would say that! Is he crazy or am I worrying too much about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 September 2013):
 he's crazy.
I get blamed by my husband for conversations he has in his head and he yells at me about things he THINKS I said.
I have taken to recording our conversations so I have proof.
I'm married to him and totally committed to making this work or I'd leave his insanity.
as for "who did you sleep with to get the job?" my response would have been "everyone but you and the janitor"
consider that it will only get worse with him.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 September 2013):
 He's crazy.
No-one should react like that if their significant other just got a new job, he should have been proud of you and happy that you had found a job.
Instead he was rude, disrespectful and cynical towards you, showing a complete lack of care for your feelings. And now he is denying he ever said it - what a jerk.
Cant really offer you anything constructive I'm afraid. He is being a total ass if I'm honest, to act like that and the deny it is not cool. Not entirely sure what you can do about it though, if he wont admit he said it then you are at a stand-off. Perhaps forgive him this one time but if he does anything similar ever again and speaks to you like that again he is out of the door.
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reader, llifton +, writes (17 September 2013):
 He was being rude and cynical. He probably thinks that man hired you because he thinks you're hot and that maybe you have or will have a thing. basically, he let his insecurities get in the way of being happy for you. he is in the wrong and his behavior was out of line. I can't imagine responding that way to my significant other if they told me they found a new job.
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