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writes:Hi guys, I'm rubbish at reading the signs! So any advice would be great!Met a boy on holiday about 10 weeks ago, he told me he really liked me, he lived in the same area as me, and wanted to meet up! I was in a complicated relationship at the time, so completely turned him down! He begged me to just talk to him as a friend, but I said it would make matters worse for me! Plus my friend thought he was really good looking, so I basically palmed him off to my friend. He was quite gutted, and messaged me the same night to say he wasn't drunk, he genuinely liked me.Anyway he text me when I got home, but due to my rocky relationship I didn't really reply or when I did I didn't make conversation. However the relationship ended around 3 weeks ago, and he's text me or messaged me every single day since. sometimes he will message me and then when I reply he won't reply for an hour or two? Even though it says he's online.I don't understand why he would make the effort to text me everyday yet not reply to me when I write back?I'm confused as to if he's interested or if he's not? He compliments me alot, and has made it clear he finds me attractive. Yet he hasn't been suggestive or at all out of order, especially when I was in the relationship.I'm just confused as to if he see's me as a friend, if he likes me, or is he doing this to hundreds of other girls? Many thanks.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (16 September 2013):
 maybe he's doing the same thing to you as you did to him, but intentionally. you ignoring him and not replying made him even more interested, didn't it? he constantly messaged you, etc. but now he's not replying to you and is keeping you waiting and not being at your every beck and call, and it's gotten you suddenly interested to the point where you're posting online about it. he's probably doing it intentionally to get you interested. and he's definitely playing his cards right. lol. because it's clearly working.
either that or he's met someone else. anyway, just play it calm and back off a bit. he'll probably come running back. it's that damn push/pull game. i swear, i hate dating lol.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (16 September 2013):
You ask a lot of questions which we don't really have the answers to. You should ask yourself if you are interested in him or not and if you do like him, then maybe you should be the one to ask him out. Perhaps he is waiting for you to actually make a move rather him having to make all the moves...I mean it is obvious they he likes you but you have not identified your own feelings. You should figure that out at least.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2013): I would say he's not responding to see if you will chase after him- as far as he knows you've turned him down romantically and are just interested in him as a friend... It gives him more of an indicator that youre interested if you pester him til he responds, the way people do when they really like someone! :) Are you genuinely into him, or are you just confused as to why he's not giving you the usual unconditional attention? Like AB said I think you should really think about if you do actually want to date him...
If so, make a move, flirt and build up to it, then just ask him straight out :) good luck xx
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (15 September 2013):
 I'm sorry but I really know as much as you!
Does he know that you've split with your ex?
Just because a status shows someone as on-line it doesn't mean that they're actually there.
What, from his behaviour, is making you think he's stringing you along as well as other girls too?
I think you need to be clear and tell him that you're now single and would he still be interested to go out sometime.
Wait for his response and take it from there, however, before you do, please be sure you really want to date this guy because you've palmed him off once and it would be unkind to start something then decide you're not ready to date yet.
I hope this helps ABx
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