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writes:Please help me. I'm on the verge of an extreme breakdown. I posted here a weekago, but things got even crazier. It started by my boyfriend sending a pic to his ex, and calling her beautiful, etc, I did the same after I got upset about it. I eventually called him out, he tried to sugarcoat it and say he felt bad for her. Even though she was callig him sexy, etc. Well I confessed about me sending a picture too, and he literally ignored me from monday to friday. He says the reason he did was to tell me face to face hes on love with me. So we get on the phone, and he tells me he loves me to death and is in love with me, but feels cold towards me. Says he doesnt know if it will change. Says he cant imagine losig me, but doesnt want me to wait around for something that may not happen. So we get face to face yesterday finally, he drove up here from where he's training. He cried for like three hours of the 12 hours we talked, and said hes gonna miss me, and doesnt feel like hes making the right decision. He says he doesnt want to lose me. But before he came up on the phone, he admitted he was talking to a girl that works at the store hes training in. He basically stalked me before we got together. He was my manager. He looked up my address in the computer and came to my house. He followed me around while we werd both on shift. I overlooked it all. He said he doesnt see what kind of person this makss him, to leave someone who makes him so happy. He cried on my chest and told me he was in love with me. I dont understand whats going on. I told him to call me when he finds himself. Does he feel like im just going to wait around now, while he talks to some othef woman and has his fun with her?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (17 September 2013):
 Lifton is right - this part of her post is spot on:
"You seem like the flavor of the week. Now he's found other women to replace you in his need and desire for obsessing."
He clearly is obsessed with women, and needs more than 1 in his life at a time to keep him occupied. He had you and his ex at the same time, when you found out about his ex he dumped you and moved on to a new girl at work. Sounds like he uses his work as a personal catalogue of women he can date - a supermarket with shelves stocked full of women where he can take his pick depending on what he feels like that day.
He is one of these men that are simply incapable of being faithful, he needs validation from multiple women in his life all falling at his feet to be with him. When you text your ex, that was a sign to him that you no longer worshiped him so he needed to look for a new disciple that would flatter him and pander to his every need.
You are better off without this jerk in your life, dont wait around for him and dont take his calls if he ever tries to speak to you again. He will always have loads of women on the go, he cannot be trusted and you were just 'flavour of the week'. Now the new work colleague is his current favourite, but I'm sure she will be replaced in the coming weeks/months when he finds a new victim from work.
He really is a waste of space and there is no point in trying to continue this mess, he is a user and abuser and will only bring pain and drama. Get rid and move on - you can do better.
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reader, :)31215 +, writes (17 September 2013):
 I dont see any good coming from this relationship! He seems very obsessive. I suggest you leave him and find someone you can fully trust.
It will be hard at first, but I hope you fond the strength. X
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reader, llifton +, writes (17 September 2013):
 I remember your post about this man from a little while ago. I think there's something off about this dude. My opinion of him then was to get away, and my opinion now is the same. He's not an honest guy. Sending pics to another girl and calling her beautiful, etc. and now he's seeing some other girl in the store where he's training. He seems extremely obsessive. he finds one girl to obsess over until he can get another one to replace her. You seem like the flavor of the week. Now he's found other women to replace you in his need and desire for obsessing.
This guy is not healthy. You should strongly consider dropping him. I don't see any good coming from him or this relationship.
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