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writes:I can't tell my friends about anything. I told one of my friends about a crush recently.....she told her entire family. My secrets have gone viral. The trouble is, her family know who I am crushing on....they could tell him ANY MINUTE now! I am so scared.I have such a big crush on my teacher that I have started to search him up on google. I follow him on Twitter, I look at his Facebook, I contact his friends....I am BESOTTED! I need advice!
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reader, llifton  +, writes (17 September 2013):
 Calm down. It's not the end of the world. So your friend told her parents. So what? What are they gonna do? Tell the whole world? I assure you they have better things to do than worry about who a teenage girl is crushing on this week/month. I'm sure they don't care.
This isn't as big of a deal as you're thinking it is. Just relax and calm down about it. All will be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2013): You're caught up in a downwards spiral, branching one paranoid bad thought off from another... them knowing you have a schoolgirl crush (EVERY person has them) isn't that bad, really!... her parents as responsible adults are not going to think twice about this... They would have had them themselves. Seriously why would they have any reason to cause trouble? most parents would forget it Nd be concerned what's for dinner later, truly lol! But you are fixated and obsessed with this guy, which is not healthy for you... He's employed to protect and guide you, and it can't go any further at this stage. I think every single person has been in the situation where somebody unsavoury at school knows about their teacher crush and for obvious reasons are cacking it! Well for some reassurance, the girl who knew about mine was not that much of a nasty person... Cos to go round spreading it is a seriously s***ty thing to do really... And much different from telling your parents... Think about it, If you have something personal on your mind you're guna share it with your mum/ dad right, not everyone in the year? What do you mean by viral? Whos supposed to know? If you've been messaging his friends then he likely already knows... Not because anyone's gossiping but because a lot of schoolgirl crushes go too far and end up blackmailing their teachers, getting them into trouble.... Don't be concerned for them... People forget stuff, whatever happens it'll die down. (Likely nothing l happen) Be concerned with being happy and comfortable with yourself. Have you got someone like a parent figure you can talk to about your feelings? I used to get very fixated on guys when I was younger... To the point of packing my bags and going across the mojave desert to fimd jas mann haha... you. Then I got all sorts of therapy, grew out of some of my anxiety and learnt that things can only hurt you if tpyou let them...A bit extreme but everyone woman/man girl/ b gets these infatuations..If this happens a lot and you feel like it's ruining your life(you seem very distressed about this guy) then I advise getting some therapy... Maybe the school counsellor... Just for someone to listen and talk to, who will be able to professionally support you. Stop panicking! Talk to people about your feelings/ thoughts. It's all going to be ok! 100% take care of yourself! Xxx :)
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (15 September 2013):
 You need to slap yourself in the face, really hard!! STOP LOOKING HIM UP ONLINE, STOP CONTACTING HIS FRIENDS, HE COULD GET INTO A LOT OF TROUBLE AND LOSE HIS JOB!!!!
You will get over this, it's a crush, also i think you need to look into finding new friends if they can't keep your secrets to themselves.
If he finds out, hopefully he'll have enough sense to nip this in the bud quickly, but that means you backing off. Delete him from twitter, block him on facebook right now or he could lose his job and end up never being allowed to teach again!
Sorry if any of that seemed harsh, but people who 'love' their teachers, have no idea how much damage it could do!!
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