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writes:I have this teacher who always seems to put himself down, but i'm not sure if I should try to make him feel better. At the beginning of the school year, my teacher was talking about how he coudldn't wait to get home and see his puppies because they seem the happiest to see him. As soon as he said that, a student in the class asked him "what about your wife, isn't she hapy to see you?" My teacher just quickly said "she doesn't think much of me."A few months ago, I told him that I saw a kid in the hallway that looked just like him when I was on my way to class. At first he just looked at me and then said "well I feel sorry for him." I didn't know what to say so I just walked to my seat.This past week, we had a substitute for his class and the next day my friends and I told him how much we liked the sub and how hot he was. My teacher smiled and said that he had a few students say that he resembled the substitute. My one friend laughed and told him that was completely wrong. Later on during class, the subject got brought up again and he said to my friend and I that he probably didn't look like the sub because he's nowhere near cute.I know this isn't really my problem, but I feel sorry for my teacher and I wish there was at least a little way I could make him feel better without it looking like I have a crush on him or that i'm looking for brownie points.... any sugestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Well, first talk to your guidance counselor about him.
From what i've read, it sounds like he may be depressed. But i'm not 100% sure. It sounds like he just has a minor case of depression. So he's not happy with his marriage? Well, if your guidance counselor says if it's ok to talk to him, then do so.
Everyone should come home happy to see people who are happy to see them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for your advice. I know I probably shouldn't start anything by trying to talking to him.
My one friend in this class with me says he is just fishing for compliments and another friend said that he's just joking trying to make us all laugh, but i'm still not so sure.. what do you guys think?
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Stop by and chat with him before school--just be friendly. There's no need for romantic suggestion, so just try to show a friendly interest in him.
I disagree with the other posts. This is your responsibility. You see someone else in need, and you should help them, regardless of their age. There should be a law saying that everyone is required to help others whenever possible. He does sound depressed, so offer him friendship.
Ask him about his interests. If you have a dog or a pet, since he obviously likes dogs, bring in a picture to show him or something. Find a common interest and have a conversation about it. You could also make him a card saying how great of teacher he is and how he's helped you so much. I know there was one girl who wrote her teacher a poem about how great his class was, since he was getting a lot of students who would say insulting things about him to his face, and the teacher started crying after he read it and told her how thankful he was that he actually did make a difference in someone's life.
Just be nice to him--it is right of you to intercede. It attests to your good nature and sense of compassion if nothing else.
Good luck!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Stay away. Student teacher relations shouldn't cross some line and one is a student getting involved with the teachers personal life.
He got low self-esteem, too bad but not something you can fix.
No matter how well intentioned, it could cause a lot of problems if you take any action.
If he was a close friend and not an authority figure you could help him, but not as a student. He needs to work this out alone.
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reader, kittikat +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Ooooh, this is territory that you should not be getting into. Yes, it's sad that your teacher may not be doing well, but he should not be discussing or commenting on these things with students. It's inappropriate and unprofessional. I'm sure that he's not a bad guy and may not realize he's doing it, but you need to steer clear. It could also be a sympathy ploy that he's using to get closer to the students for whatever reason and that should never happen. You should talk to a guidance counselor or your principal about his comments-let someone know. He could be suicidal and need help, but not from students. I applaud your caring nature, but I cannot stress enough how dangerous this could be. That line should never be crossed. He is not your friend, he's your teacher and an adult who would hopefully know better.
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reader, Bean317 +, writes (22 March 2008):
I know its sad and hard, but its really not your responsibility. I always feel like I want to help people too, everyone should be happy, but there is a fine line. If you're really that concerned, I'd talk to a guidance counselor or another administrator. He'll be alright, he's a grown man.
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reader, mastermale  +, writes (22 March 2008):
why not mention to your form tutor (do they still have such things?) that you are concerned about him and let them do the rest
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