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*w1974
writes:Hi, i went on a first date with a girl who i met a few weeks earlier, now she lives a bit of a distance from me because of her job (police) she also transferring nearer where i live because her friends are up here. The date went great, to the point of her asking if i would like to see her again and would i like to kiss her. Which i responded with yeh, she then got in touch saying she had a great time and asked did i enjoy the night, then we left it at that. A day or so later i told her i would like to see her again but understand her job, she replied she defo wanted to see me again and is back in the area the following week so we should meet up. Two days before the date she cancelled because there was a major incident at work she went into detail about what happened and had to go in and said she hoped we can sort another time out?. A bit disappointed i said no probs we will sort something out another time. We have spoke this week and she's working all weekend.Also she keeps asking me have i told my friends about her and have i told my mother about her, never been asked this before. I'm just wondering if anyone can shed any light on what to do? Sorry its long.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (22 March 2008):
 She's just trying to suss out how serious you are about her, by speaking to your friends and family about her, that makes her a permanant fixture in your life, for the moment, and makes it official that you want to be with her.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 She is really into you and wants to see if you feel the same way.
Normally if you really like someone new, you tend to tell those close to you, often till they are sick of it :)
She asked if you would like to kiss her and you didn't? HELLO?
Granted she seems a bit eager for someone who you just had one date with, but perhaps from her end it was love at first sight.
What to do? Ask her out again. She cancelled because she had no choice, not because she didn't want to go out with you. The girl has made herself wide open. Don't screw this up. Ask her to pick a date if need be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): She sounds like she is pretty straight forward to me, she is interested in seeing you again and is asking about you telling your friends and mother about her to guage how interested in her you really are....if you were excited and really into her you might start telling other people about her...she is snooping without being direct on that one....I would take that as a sign she cares about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): she likes you! That is all this means - she likes you and she wants to be part of your life. By asking these questions she wants to know whether you think she is going to feature in your life to the extent which she hopes. Take it as a compliment!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): She is trying to evaluate how you view her. If you told anyone about her thats a good thing. If not she wonders why not. IMO its a little soon for her to be asking this but thats why she is asking.
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