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36-40,
anonymous
writes: have a bit of a problem. i started teaching my boyfirend of one year computers 4 weeks ago. he started going on the net and ever since he has changed. i know that he is looking up sexy videos and it is really meaking me paranoid. he has become very distant towards me and has even admitted to becoming pervy since he started on the internet. he has become very agitated and distant towards me. i tried talking to him and he told me that i have nothing to wory about. im just feeling really pissed off and low in confidence at the moment!! we are talking about going on a 2week break from the relationship. i dont want to do this because he feels it will end the relationship full stop. i just dont know what to do. i dont want to drive him away. i do love him and dont want to loose him.
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reader, Unique1  +, writes (23 March 2008):
If anyone here, i have gone through so much problems with my ex because of his porn viewing and things of that nature. I can tell you that unless he understands that is is seriously hurting you and your relationship AND unless he cares, he is not going to stop it.
You have to let him know what is going on. Maybe even if you guys take a two week break and don't talk at all -maybe it would help him realize that porn or whatever he is looking at isnt worth your relationship.
If you want him to stop it, give him a choice. If you don't, it will bother you and your problem will only get bigger. Trust me, i am speaking from experience.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Well that was stupid wasn't it? You found the one male who hadn't found the internet and introduced him to it?
It happens, porn is easy and simple. Most men realize that a real woman is better, but well you are competing with the whole of the net, filled with every perversion you can imagine and then some.
Maybe it is just the novelty and it will wear off.
You ain't driving him away, he is distancing himself because he can't see what it is costing him yet.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 He might just be going through a phase that he needs to get himself out of, but you should tell him that you are not going to tolerate this behavior.
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