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writes:OMG..I have a problem I'm so confused idk what to do..so here I go!! Ok I met this guy through the internet and we have been talking for a while now close to a month but we talk on the phone and txt and send pictures of eachother but you see he asked me to marry him!! I was like what?? We don't even know eachother... he says I'm everything he was ever wanted that he feels like he was known me for a while. I said its too soooon idk much of him. He also says he loves me and he wants to be with me, but I just don't kno what to do...I want to say yes, but what if it doesnt last you know?? He says we were meant to be and that we just didn't meet for no reason....he's a great guy so far I just don't know what to do....can u actually love someone even though you have never been with them or met in person?? Can you guys help me?? Thank you for taking the time to read this little problem of mine. much love.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (1 October 2011):
 He is either playing with you or he he totally desperate.......both are red flags. You need to meet someone first, spent lots of time with them to get to know them (months or years) before you even think about marriage. Tell him you want to take it slowly and see what he sais..... If he pressures you, dump him because people who are serious and respect the institution of marriage will understand and respect your wishes:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): Is he from a different culture by any chance?
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reader, Aliana +, writes (5 October 2009):
 How can you even think of marrying someone you have never met in person?? What about the chemistry? A picture and words do not say everything about a person!
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (4 October 2009):
 Heck no! You haven't even met him yet! Physical chemistry is incredibly important in a relationship, let alone marriage.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (3 October 2009):
 Got to agree with Big Ron. Think you are being fed a lie.
That is if you are lucky and just got someone who wants to get into your pants.
If you are not lucky... falling in love and proposing over the internet, sorry, that ringing sound ain't wedding bells, they are alarm bells. Exit the building in an orderly fashion and head for the hills.
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (3 October 2009):
 DO NOT MARRY HIM! You don't know him and never met him.
Why didn't you meet him yet?
Warning bells are screaming to get away from this man.
good luck.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (3 October 2009):
 No of course you cant love someone you have never met. This person is a fantasist. Be very warey!
Cant say anymore than that really, its way too wacky! Talk about flighty!
xxx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 October 2009):
You must meet ths guy in person and get to know him more. You really must. You've known him for a month and havne't even met him. Tell him you're very flattered, but that you need more time to get to know each other and to meet up in person. It really is too soon, because you don't know anything about each other. Take your time, meet him, get to know him more. All the best.
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reader, samurai girl +, writes (3 October 2009):
 you are a baby! been there, done that. it's not meant to be this quickly. SLOW DOWN! what's the rush? be careful and THINK w/ your head not your heart.
you can't love someone until you've met them, spent time w/ them -- considerable time, and gone through things with them. that is what dating is all about.
date and then decide to date some more. don't rush!
good luck!
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