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writes:I have this boyfriend. I've heard rumors. I've asked him about them, but he denies them. The first time i heard something about him, I asked him, and he said they were just friends. Today, i wake up, and on his status he's talking about a girl. At first i think it's me. Some girl comments, and I check out her page. And shes talking about HIM on her status. She says she loves talking with him and he makes he feel so good and she'll be better to him than his ex. So i asked him about it, first we fight about me not being there for him and how he feels i don't love him. Then he gets mad that i left for college. Then he says he loves me and needs me. Then he says hes sorry. Then he talks about marriage and this ring he saw for me. I'm sitting here, confused. He talked to another girl, from the looks of it, it was flirtatious. Its hard enough for me to trust people in general. Now im questioning myself. Am i not good enough? Why does he talk to other girls when he says he loves me? I'm too embarassed to even go on my profile now, because its right there staring me in the face. i don't know what to do because i love him, he says he loves me, but i have no trust in this guy.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Sometimes life sucks. Sometimes people suck. When we get into a relationship with another person and open up, share, love and live with them, we sometimes overlook things we don't like or don't want to see.
You had( have) feelings for this guy, no matter how much of a jerk he was/is, those feelings are still there and will be for a while.
Sometimes... we have to kiss quite a few frogs.
*hugs*
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reader, FoX15 +, writes (8 September 2010):
FoX15 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI broke up with him. Why does it hurt so much? He made me feel like I'm the one who wasn't there for him, and now i feel like crap, because I really did love him. I thought he was different.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 September 2010):
Honey, he bought the ring to keep you around.. Some men thinks that if you offer a girl a ring (promise of a future together) the girl can't think straight, she is so happy with giddiness that she will overlook any and all things/flaws.
A ring will NOT stop him from keep adding girls, flirting generally being himself.
I wish you good luck and I hope... you find a guy who can be loving, honest, trustworthy and faithful. They do exist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): I think you are just prolonging the pain and embarrassment for yourself. I'd leave him if I were you, he just reeks of creep vibes, can't be trusted. It's not the first time, even you said. I'd leave, cause there's plenty of wonderful guys waiting to meet you, who won't make you feel this way and actually deserve you!
Good luck and take care of yourself
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 You have your answer. There's nothing worse than being with a "needy" man and this constant need to be associated with woman to fan his ego is terrible and pathetic.
Dont ever let ANY man ever question your belief in yourself. Never again in your life should you ever say "Am i not good enough?" Because you ARE. He's the one who doesn't deserve you,this guy just thinks he's too smart. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Wants the best of both worlds. I think you can do better than him. Never a good idea to be with someone whom you cant trust.
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reader, FoX15 +, writes (8 September 2010):
FoX15 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea, i totally get the ego thing. He's the type of dude to add all kinds of girls on his page. Like everyday he adds another 5 girls.
So as far as him adding other girls goes, I definitely have a problem with that. But I mean he's adding them, then he talks to them. Like we knew each other before, then he added me,we really started talking more online, next thing i know we're together.
He's talked about marriage since we first got together. I actually introduced him to my family. Like, I never do that.
Now, he's totally screwing me over. And he doesnt have the decency to take down that whole status thing and that girls comment is just on there, mocking me. And he went and bought a ring.
How am i supposed to marry a dude that can't quit talking to other girls? So i said this to him, and he says, we'll your not there, im so alone here, I love YOU so much.
Why can't he show me that? Instead of talkin to other girls.
I really don't know what to do. I love him. We were so good, but this aint the first time my trust for him has been tested. Its completely broken. I just want someone to be real with me.
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (7 September 2010):
your right not to trust him it sounds like he wants to keep you as his girl but theres no way hes not cheating on you or was about to cheat on you the most famous thing for guys is to blame it on the girl and promis better things hes guilty of something thats for sure dont let him fuck with your head
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 September 2010):
This is not about you, honey. It's about his EGO. You are not around to "stroke" his ego constantly so he seeks attention from other girls.
I think what you need to learn how to trust is your GUT instinct. It seems like it's telling YOU that you can not fully trust him.
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