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*bwlover55
writes:Okay so i have a big problem. I've been dating the same girl for a year and i told her i have a fat fetish and i needed her bigger. so shes gained about 20 lbs for me but i am still not nearly sexually satisfied. i know for a fact im in love with thia girls personality just not really attracted to her body. i tell her i need her to gain more and be bigger but she wants to slow it down a bit. on the other hand theres this girl who likes me and i like her and shes the right weight for me. what shhould i do? im so lost right now. Reply to this Question
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reader, UncleBagel +, writes (8 November 2010):
Folks, this is a troll. He is getting off writing about this, and getting off on you screaming at him. So...don't waste any more time. This is a child.
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reader, raiders +, writes (19 October 2010):
 These post have made you feel like Sh*t your words, just imagine how you been making your girlfriend feel. Making her feel that she is not good enough simply because of your fetish. You should think on your girlfriend feelings first and if she don't satisfy you simply because she is not fat enough..than it might be time to call it quits and go find your self a chubbier girl.
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reader, Battista  +, writes (19 October 2010):
My ex and my fiance are two completely different looking guys.Different figures, different complexions. But, I never went out searching for someone completely based on the way they looked, because ultimately- at least for me- looks are just part of the deal and personality just as, if not more important.The way I have read this, is that your gf's body is more important to you than anything else. You have asked her to gain weight- which she has done- but you are still not satisfied. I personally wonder even if she did gain more weight, whether she would be what you are really looking for. You seem to have put so much emphasis on her getting fatter to sexually satisfy you, that I would really question whether that reality would actually be what you are looking for, or if it is actually just some sort of fantasy or ideal which will never really materialise.I also think that by making it so clear to your gf that you are not happy with the way she looks is hurtful and extremely selfish. What if it was the other way round, if you said you would prefer her thinner, and that she needs to lose 20lb. Anyone would feel hurt by that, surely you can see that? And I don't see this situation as being any different. You are making it perfectly obvious that her body doesn't satisfy you, and yes, as Tisha says, it does all seem to be about YOU and what YOU want. Have you actually taken a step back to think about your gf feels? What I find most sad is that you say you're in love with her personality but that there is another girl who physically you like more so you are confused. This to me suggests that you certainly are NOT in love with your gf and are simply out to find someone of a size you want. You are trying to make your gf perfect for you, no matter how she feels about the weight gain. I think you should leave your gf, whatever you do. Never mind this other girl, if you have your eye on somebody else it is not fair to your gf and you should set her free. She has put on all this weight for you and it is still not enough. You are not treating her properly, so you should let her go. I note from your update a someone negative response to what people have said here. Would you be able to tell us what it is you want to hear? There is a real unanimity of answers to your query, which suggests to me that you should listen to them. Please post back and can you let us know a bit more about how your gf feels, and also how you would feel if someone asked you radically change your appearance because it wasn't good enough for them.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Why don't we try a different approach here? Why don't you write the problem/situation from your girlfriend's perspective and post it? This may help resolve the issue, and perhaps some work on looking at this from her side will help you understand her side of this.
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reader, bbwlover55 +, writes (19 October 2010):
bbwlover55 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thank you eveyone for making me feel like shit.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 October 2010):
"I need" "I want" "I'm not satisfied" "I" "I" "I"...
Are you an only child by any chance? You certainly sound as though you've only ever concerned yourself with "me me me me."
She's done gaining weight for you. Live with it, or let her go find someone who will appreciate her as she is now. If you have this fetish, how is it that you were attracted to her in the first place, and why have you wasted a year of her life? Again, I suspect the answer will be "I this I that me me me me me...."
Off you go then, let her down gently.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (12 October 2010):
 There really isn't a shortage of overweight women who have difficulty finding a mate. I'm sure one of them might even like a strange, strange guy like you.
Spare the girl, you know.
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reader, cheannryl  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Haha,see?they're mad at you,maybe.
But,yeah you're kinda selfish you know.find your fat girl,go find her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Um. You're mean.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 You're crazy. You're damaging the health of your gf for your absurd fantasies!! Go find some fat girl to date and satisfy u sexually; leave your girlfriend alone.How can you WANT someone to fatten up just because u like it?? This is the weirdest thing iv ever heard!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): im sorry but i think your shallow. This girl done something for you that millions wouldnt! Gain 20pounds! i wouldnt do it. Im sorry but you dont seem to care about the health implications that this weight gain could could have produced..no now that shes done as you ask your gonna dump her for someone else coz shes not fat enuf. You need to grow up as if you really do love this girl, and it seems she'll do anything for you, then you could be making a huge mistake.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 This is just despicable...
for once I'm actually speechless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Look if it matters that much to you then go for the other girl who is bigger and leave this poor girl alone. She's already gained 20 lbs for you, i think that's more than enough. You're obviously not that in love with her if you're willing to drop her for somebody else you find more attractive. Also, asking this woman to put on more weight could damage her health, maybe you should stop being so selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): It is pretty messed up to fatten your girlfriend up for your own fetish. Theres a million fat girls, go date one. You are probably hurting your gf emotionally really bad by telling her that stuff
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