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writes:I am getting married in a month to the love of my life. He broke up with this girl 7 years ago and one of the reasons they broke up after a 5-year-realtionship was that she wanted to get married while he didn't. Today my fiancé got home and told me that this girl (who lives in a different city and with whom he only exchanges meaningless birthday texts once a year) texted him telling him she is getting married tomorrow. He replied saying: "I'm getting married in a month and I'm happy you finally got what you wanted". My fiancé says he's happy for her but doesn't really care. Still, the thought that this girl thought of him the night before her wedding and felt the urge to text him to tell him she was getting married made me feel so angry... like she still loves him or something. Why would she do something like that, considering they hardly talk anymore? It really annoyed me! What if she's still in love with my finacé? What if some issues may arise in the future? Am I over-reacting?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 September 2012):
 How does it matter what she feels for your boyfriend? This is the reason why text messages can be so misleading...you just dont know what tone they're supposed to imply. For all you know, what she meant was, "Ha! My new boyfriend is so much better than you and after all the pain that you caused, I finally found someone who WANTED to get married to me and asked for my hand. Take THAT."
You see what I mean? It doesn't really imply she thought of your B/f in a romantic way and even if she did, so what? Who cares? You're getting married in a month to the love of your life, you should be celebrating that! Congratulations on the wedding and hope its a grand success!! :)
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (22 September 2012):
 what IF his ex is still in love with your fiance? He has no interest in her and she's not trying very hard if her best pick up line is "i'm getting married tomorrow." for all you know, it was post-bachelorette texting shenanigans. Let this one go.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 September 2012):
 I think you are overreacting a bit. IT could be that she texted him in a "I'm going to one-up you" way or because she is so overjoyed that she would have texted ANY ONE to share it. Or because she was a little nervous. It's hard to know exactly WHY she texted him, but I wouldn't read too much into it.. After all.. he DIDN'T marry her, he didn't WANT to back then but he IS marrying YOU because he WANTS to.
Trust in your fiance. The ex might still like him or even love him, if he felt the same way I'm SURE he wouldn't have just wished her well.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (21 September 2012):
Seems like you are over reacting. Why should you care how she feels? Your fiancé has a clear distance and border in regards to her so I see no reason to get upset. Try to think logically about the situation instead of letting your emotions fuel your annoyance. Even if issues may or may not arise in the future, it'll be good to simply work them out.
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (21 September 2012):
 If it was a one time text from her and not an ongoing relationship, I would let it go. It sounds like she was trying to make him jealous or prove something to him. Perhaps their break up was a bitter one on her part. Even if she were in love with him still, that doesn't mean she gets to have him. He is marrying you. If your relationship is secure in other ways, don't worry about this, move on and enjoy your own wedding day.
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