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30-35,
*eart break kid
writes:My girlfriend and I share a child together, and had plans on becoming married. Later in our relationship I cheated on her by conversing with other females when things weren't going good between us. When we got into an argument and I pushed her and damaged her car she left me. I don't have a history of putting my hands on women and I had never hit her before. She gave up the apartment and didn't want to hear about how apologetic I was about the situation. Later I resorted to drinking and she heard about it and asked me to come over countless times to talk. When we did eventually get back together, a guy who was supposed to be her friend had sex with her 5 times and this happened a week after we broke up. What does this say about how she cares about me?
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reader, Heart break kid +, writes (28 August 2012):
Heart break kid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANK YOU
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 August 2012):
 I would assume it means she is working on getting over you.
It has nothing to do with how she felt about your relationship.
She sought comfort with a friend, his kind of comfort was sex and she took it.
I think YOU should worry more about HOW you treated her and women in general, then be so busy judging her.
It's over.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (28 August 2012):
 It says nothing about her. Stop judging her and look at yourself first.
You cheated on her.
You HIT her and damages her car.
You resorted to alcohol.
What does this say about you? If you cared about her, then would YOU do all the above?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 August 2012):
 She cares about your drinking, and would like you to moderate or discontinue it... THAT's sensible, for anybody.
As for s*x.... sounds like she gets horny sometimes, and likes to partake. She just doesn't want that to be with you...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 August 2012):
 it says NOTHING about how she cares about you...
you cheated
you drank
you attacked her (even once is too much for sane rational women to accept)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): What does this say about how much she cares for you?
Well I'd say nothing at all. You were the one who cheated on her and put your hands on her when she confronted you about it, then she left and got with somebody else...that's it, I couldn't blame her.
I fail to see where you fit into that equation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): "What does this say about how she cares about me?"
It says nothing at all about how much she cares for you. OP it was probably just a rebound. Yeah it's sucky to know she was with someone else but it was probably nothing more than him being there at the right time and her needing comfort. A lot of people go on the rebound OP, they're very hurt, emotionally vulnerable and the first person who pays them any romantic attention provides a distraction from that replaces, although purely superficially some of the things they have lost from their relationship being over.
Let me ask you a question.
What does getting back together with a guy who cheated on her, put his hands on her, damaged her car and then went and became an alcoholic, who she tried to help, say about how much she cares about him?
Well? Kind of obvious isn't it?
Don't blow it this time, lay off the booze, never ever put your hands on that lady again and do something about your aggressiveness.
I personally think she's a fool to go back to you after you assaulted her in that way but you didn't ask my opinion on that.
Her sleeping with another guy on the rebound says nothing about how much she cares, what she's willing to forgive you for does.
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