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*ahir_is_burning
writes:After breakup i called her my ex-girlfriend last night. we talked for hours. i got her taking my call by blackmailed her that i would call her dad that she was having affair with me for years. when i tried to take my call being nice with her she didn't take it. even last night as well. i love her to death. please tell me how to get her taking my call being nice with her..i mean without fake blackmailing? she's my ex-girlfriend and wana give it a second try to this relationship
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reader, Zahir_is_burning +, writes (11 October 2009):
Zahir_is_burning is verified as being by the original poster of the question only i know what i went through while i was blackmailing her. yes i wana marry her will ask for her hand by meeting her father. but i will only b in a position to ask for her hand once i get a decent job. she doesn't want to live in a joint family. i need to earn at least 40000Rs (500$) monthly to go for separate arrangement for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): You want another chance with her to do what?
Marry her? Or see her?
There are decent ways of going about things.
If you are serious about her and since you are in Pakistan I'm assuming the gentlemanly thing would be go to her Dad and ask for her hand. Or however it is done - send your family or something.
If not, if you just want to be a pain but you say you love her... leave her alone. Blackmail is a crime.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 Umm, I hate to point out the obvious here, but no one blackmails, (or even pretends to), someone that they 'love', because when you love someone you don't do hurtful things to them. People often do dumb things when they're desperate, but threatening someone in any way is not cool, under any circumstances. If you really do care about her, then best to leave her alone until she wants to talk to you, otherwise she'll just write you off as a psycho.....
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reader, YourDestiny11  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 Thats insane and not to mention wrong to blackmail her! You wouldnt do that to someone you really cared about! If i was her i would make it a point to never speak to her again! Maybe you should try leaving a message,sending a text or email or even letter and explain that you care about her, would never blackmail her and are really sorry! Good luck!
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reader, LethalInjection-x  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 If you really cared for her.. you'd see that there's a reason she's not taking the calls from you, and that blackmailing her into answering is completely unfair.
Also, even if her reason for not answering is nothing to do with her feelings about you.. then harassing her until she speaks to you would probably make her resent you anyway.
If you really do "love her to death" you'd back off, let her decide if and when she wants to talk to you, and wait patiently.
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