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writes:Hi,I met a woman about a month ago - we got along great.I had reservations because her previous boyfriend had left her just 2 months prior and she would talk about him often and how bad he treated her.I did not want to be her rebound guy.She wanted to rush things really fast with me, whereas I wanted to take things slow. I discussed this with her and she agreed that we would take things slower. Things were progressing fine, or so I thought....I attempted to contact her by phone last week,but no answer.I get an email from her 2 days ago saying that she was sorry , but she is dating someone else.Her e-mail stated that she didn't get any indication from me that I was truly interested.I went to the cafe we used to frequent and found out that the guy she is dating is 60 years old. (I am 37 she is 42).I attempted to contact her for an explanation - no response.What gives? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Sounds like he is her rebound guy and she can't stand to be alone. It could be that it won't last because she didn't give it time. I think you did the right thing slowing things down, you could have been just anyone by the sound of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): "her previous boyfriend had left her just 2 months prior and she would talk about him often and how bad he treated her.I did not want to be her rebound guy."But that is exactly what she is going for right now. She might not be in the mindset of wanting to jump immediately into another heavy relationship. She wants something light and fun, I'm betting you. Rebound? Exactly.If that's not what you want, find a girl that obviously isn't looking for that right now, and is in the LTR mindset.
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