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male
age
41-50,
*kjc
writes:My problem is, I am terrible at reading females. Unless it is very obvious, I can't always tell if a female is interested in me or not. There is this one female that I am interested in; the first time I asked her out she told me she wasn't single, but at the end of a troubled relationship. We've gone out a couple of times since then. I believe her body language says that she likes me; she holds my arm when we are walking, she lays across my lap when we are relaxing on the couch; she's basically very comfortable around me. The thing is, I know she still loves her screwed up boyfriend. I'm sure she knows I like her. Something tells me, I should just be a friend now and wait until she is actually single to pursue a relationship. Is that idea right? Or, If I want her, I should go after her now? Oh, and before I jump the gun, is she interested? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 April 2009):
You don't have to go after her to find out how she feels.
Next time you see her just wait till a nice quiet moment and then tell her she looks beautiful. Then tell her that you still really like her but you are willing to wait for her for a little while if she is not ready to give things a go.
Make sure you include the "for a little while."
You can't hang around this girl forever while she dithers. She'll end up using you for hugs and cuddles and compliments and never wanting to "ruin the friendship."
Make a mental deadline for yourself and then ask her out again then. If she says no then tell her you can't be her friend until you've got over her and disappear for a while.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, alphamale +, writes (30 April 2009):
there are many signs that tell you if a woman likes you: Does she call you often? Does she let you kiss her in public? Does she ask you questions about yourself? women show interests doing all of the above. If she's still hung up on her exboyfriend, there's not much you can do. you can be there but hold back a little bit. Do not give her anything you think she deserves just yet. wait until the coast is completely clear sort of speak
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