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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Cheating category)

Cheating: Help and advice

Am I wasting my time or should I let it ride?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5635 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - I need someone's opinion who knows what's going on .... I am 20 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, Shane. He's 19. I do love him sincerely and care enough about him to spend the rest of my life with him, as naive as that ma...

How can I get past the touching phase onto something more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Im a gay guy that hangs out with mostly straight guys. Im in a situation that im having feelings with one of my straight guy friends. He has a girlfriend but whenever we hang out he likes to watch porn. He knows i like him and allows me to give him ...

How can I move on from them?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5642 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Well...my ex broke up with me a day after we did stuff, and went really far. It's been 2 weeks and I was crying about him because I still love him, and my best friend was like it's okay, he's a jerk , he's not worth it and everything. Then I find ...

Should I leave my husband after his affair? Or stay in eternal pain?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5634 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I need advice, should I leave my husband or stay with him and live in eternal pain after his affair, which happened last summer? I will never forget what he did to me and our daughter. I found a text from his tutor at work saying night babe i love ...

I don't know why he's sticking around!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5644 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Im so confused ive been seeing this guy for a month but i have a boyfriend he knows this, so we said we would do the friends thing, that was fine as we get on so well, then we ended up getting drunk went to a hotel had sex, he said he was very sorry ...

I have been finding someone else's thongs in my guy's clothing. we physically fight over this, what should I do about this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5644 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, can anyone giv me abit of friendly advice B4 i loose the plot completely, Me n my chap hav bin togetha 10yrs and up untill 3yrs ago i thought i was the luckiest girl about. my chap was everythin to me and my 14yr old son until on my b'day wen we ...

Leading a double life!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5645 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - hi i was married for 10 years when i embarked on a affair with a old flame i left my husband to live with this man who divorced his wife been with him 3 years but i have been leading a double life with my husband hence i have a boy of 8 i go out on ...

Should I leave my husband over his affair?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5644 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I need advice, should I leave my husband or stay with him and live in eternal pain after his affair, which happened last summer? I will never forget what he did to me and our daughter. I found a text from his tutor at work saying night babe i love ...

How do I get rid of this guy before my bf gets out of jail?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5642 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - The guy i've been friends with really wants to have sex with which is my weakness but i have already told him i dont wanna have sex with him. I've tried ignore his calls and avoid him. Some how he always finds me. When my boyfriend gets out of jail, ...

Does he love her more than me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5645 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I don't know if i should stay with my husband after his affair last summer. I still cannot get over it. He says he loves me and there is noone else for him. He has been really nice to me recently. However i live in eternel pain, as i honestly ...

I can't trust my husband

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5643 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I've recently accessed my husbands Facebook account. I'm stunned, hurt, betrayed and angry! I found letters to and from his ex-girlfriend he found on facebook talking about how much he's thought of her over the years and how much he thinks of her ...

Am I right to trust him again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5640 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - long story short, my boyfriend and i had been going out, my best friend was always very 'friendly' with him and caused a lot of problems, after we broke up they both snuck around behind my back and it didnt last long. she told me it was because she ...

Does he really want me or her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5645 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I have a friend who lives long distance. When he moves to my town he always breaks up with his girlfriend to date me, but when he moves home he gets back together with her. He hasn't told me about her but he is from a very small town so I hear about ...

They've cheated one me once and I'm afraid it will happen again!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5645 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - im having some issues with my boyfriend, that being his ex girlfriend/my ex best friend. they had secretly gone out behind my back and after that i ended both relationships. it took me a really long time to trust my ex again but he tried really hard ...

Fiance cheated, I cheated, and now I have feelings for another man

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5645 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - ok, ive been dating this man for over 2 years we got engaged at the begining of this year. he cheated on me with at least 4 women that i know about, he got 1 pregnant and now has a daughter about to turn 1. he made a complete change and is faithful ...

Engagement on the ropes...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5641 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - Its long, but i desperately need help.. Me and my fiance started dating in Dec 03(we were 14). In Dec 05(age 16), she found out that i cheated on her. I swore to her that i would never do it again. Then i did at some point and she found out not lo...

Why does he keep going back and forth and not just choose one of us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5645 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - [Moderator's note: Please concentrate all the details in one question next time. It is harder to give accurate opinions on pieces of a fragmented question.] Help my mother is making me insecure. My mom doesn't like my boyfriend and she always says ...

Does he love me or should I end it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5644 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I'm a little lost as to just what this man wants,well for starters he is married and we have been having an affair for many years, but he is in a very high profile job and he sometimes has to work 70hours a week so we don't get to see a lot of each ...

Partner had an emotional affair 2 years ago but still talks to the girl

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5644 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - my partner had an emotional affair 2 years ago, but still talks to the girl via email despite my repeated requests for it two stop. my partner told me that it is no longer a romantic relationship and finds it hard to end it as the girl has problems ...

He cheated and now I don't want him to kiss or touch me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I need advise... I've been married for 10 yrs and I just found out my husband was cheating on me. It all started with a time out hoping it would make us stronger, but than I found out he was living with another women for three months and he was also ...

Boyfriend had secret account email but says he was just curious

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 8 Yrs. we were engaged and everything ready to move in this coming December. He's been the most caring boyfriend with me. Very respectful, gentleman, sweet, always listened to me, in general...I thought he was the ...

Girlfriend made mysterious call while drunk and I was away

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - Hello I was away on work this past weekend. My girlfriend went out one night with a mutual guy friend of ours (not worried about that). They ended up bar hopping with some of his friends and going to a party and she stayed out until 5am, which...

HELP! Getting married in 4 months... But I still think about my first love!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I definitely need some guidance and advice! My first love from when i was 13 we were on and off until 3 years ago when I met my fiance (I am now 23). We always talked secretly throughout the years when we were with other people, or when he had a...

Please help me. Is my boyfriend cheating? He says this is a set up.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5642 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Hello, I am 28 years old mother of a 10 year old daughter. MY past relationships haven't been all that great. My first husband cheated on me numerous times but I stayed with him to try and work things out. Well that was back in 2003 that we got...

How can I stop this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - I have an ex from over 16 months ago, who I found was seeing someone else from where we work. I walked away no trouble very hurt, wishing her well since that time I have tried to achieve a friendship or normality and she has simply been very...

How do I know he won't cheat again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5647 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfreind for 4 yrs broken up for some short times but we always manage to work it out.i love him and he wants to get married how do i know hes for real and he has cheated before but i got thru it, one of my good freinds says ...

I'm involved with my boyfriend, flirt with another guy I like, and make out with a girl who has a crush on me, drugs, bad grades and booze are my vices, help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Im just a complete waster. I do my A levels, got predicted and got good grades last year, now i'm in my final year about to leave for uni and have done nothing but drink and take drugs to the point where i just cannot be bothered with my a levels ...

He's a FWB and dating others! How do I distance myself emotionally?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5643 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hello all, I have been dating a man I met online for about 6 weeks. It turned into sort of a "friends with benefits" situation right away, which was fine with me. He was only four weeks out from a messy marriage separation and I knew our relatio...

Is this cheating? Should I tell him? Please help!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5644 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I met someone and we spent about two-three weeks hanging out and eventually being intimate, then that person left to travel for a few months. During that time we spoke on the phone every day, and at one point sort of verified a commitment to one ...

Is he cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5647 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Ok I been with this guy for almost 3years n I thnk he's cheating on me he did in the past and cuz he did it I did it bad cuz it hurt. But I think he is doing it again The reason why I say is cuz the past 2days he called me late n he said and yest...

My past infidelities are coming back to haunt me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5643 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I have been married to my husband for 19 years but we have been together for 24. 9 years ago I had an affair which my husband found out about and we put it behind us. However, I found out last week that he has been having an affair for the last 8 ...

Tempted to cheat 2 years into a relationship, is this normal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5647 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - i no you probably think I am being stupid, but I am such a worrier!! i have been tempted to cheat on my partner (a year ago)! has most people if not everyone in long term relationships been tempted to cheat at least once? and would this be something ...

Is it worth it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - hi everyone Three years ago my life fell to pieces. My grandparents, who played a very big part in my upbringing both died within 6 months of each other. My alcoholic abusive partner of 9 years went a step too far, finally admitting cheati...

Should we stay together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5648 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend have only been together for about half a year, but already i feel like a boring old couple i see on tv and think.... how unlucky. as he is hardly ever home because he has a job on the other side of wales by his dad i never know ...

I am in love with my friends wife

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5639 days ago

28 May 2009 (M) - I have a big question/issue. Myself and one of my friends met this girl at the same time and where I am a shy and reserved guy he is not and he hit it off with her right away. Well since then we have all been friends and I was developing a crush ...

What did he mean? Did he want to hold hands with me? What do I do here?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5648 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - hiya everyone, a bit of a dilemma, im still mates with my ex bf and talk to him all the time, anyway monday i spent most of the evening with him, his mate and mine, anyway when i bought him a drink he came over and said to me im going to mount you ...

Texting his co-worker 30-40 times a day but says nothing is going on

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - My husband has been texting a female co-worker at work. Sometimes a multiple of 30 times a day.She is a lot younger than he is. I found out. He swears nothing is going on. Do I believe him, or am I being stupid to think that nothing is going...

Suspicious texts on his phone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5648 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Well this is more of a gut suspicion than anything. My boyfriend and I welcomed our son into the world 8 days ago. I had a rough labor that ended up with a c section . I came home from the hospital last Friday and our son came on Sunday. This ...

I think my "soft" approach has backfired and she's gone back to her ex...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5647 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - well i have been "dating" this amazing lady since March - we are both in out late 30s. Everything has been perfect. Our emails and texts have been out of this world and we both agreed that we can't get over how much we click. Recently we started ...

I cheated on my boyfriend, but he still wants to be with me, do I?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5643 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I am in a relationship for 2 years and i cheated on my boyfriend.I slept with someone else and i did it thrice.He is an angel and he has accepted me.I confessed my mistake to him and now i want to be very nice and want to love him from all my ...

My life is in ruins, how could another human being do this to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5648 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - i had been happily married for 12 years to a beautiful woman who i loved dearly, something i always thought was mutual. we had about 5 years together before we both decided to start a family, and were overjoyed when our first child was born in ...

I cant let go of my younger lover

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5644 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - How do I let go of my lover? I am in an unhappy marriage. I have asked my husband to leave so many times but he refuses to because according to him, he wants our family to be complete. We have one son.We talk only when absolutely necessary, mo...

I don't trust my own judgement anymore.....should I leave him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5555 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Don't know what to do, I have been married for 17 yrs. 4 yrs ago my son nearly passed away with head injury he had lots of surgery has recovered thankfully.That same year my husband started a new job and started acting wierd not being a very goo...

He says I'm a cheat and I will cheat on him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5649 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Im 22 and Ive been seeing this guy for a month now, even though i have a boyfriend, even though we both know its wrong, im willing to end it with my boyfriend for him, i know this has to be done as its not fair on him, then the new bloke went weird ...

Why can't I leave my ex - even though he cheated and robbed me??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5648 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I WAS DATING A GUY FOR THREE YEARS. He was so nice and he surprised me with gifts and he was the best at first. WE LOVED EACH OTHER ALOT, WELL atleast i know i did. I found out later in the relationship that i had an std...called herpes. I passed it ...

Having an affair with a married man, and he asks if I love him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5644 days ago

27 May 2009 (?) - I am having an affair with a married man. But its sort of odd. He never calls me, except to book the appointment for our meet. It's been going on for a while, and lately he wants to know if I love him. We share nothing but sex for about two ...

Affair where we're both married to others -- can it be love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5637 days ago

27 May 2009 (?) - Well I know that I am going to get alot of slack for this one, but here it is. I am a married woman and having an affair with a married man. We both never talk about leaving our spouses. I know its wrong, and so does he. Obviously we stuck I ...

I have never loved my husband, and although he tries really hard, I never will. Should I divorce him?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2468 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Hi. i'm 30 years old. I've been with my husband since I was 20. When I met him I was fresh out of a relationship and wasn't really looking to get into anything new. However I met him and he was different than anyone I had ever dated..sweet, ...

He's sweet and lovely and caring... and cheating on his girlfriend with me.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5649 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I'm in a bit of a mess... I met a man through one of my male friends. He has a girlfriend of 2months. He has text me day and night for the past week and a half and even when she is there with him he does it, he seems so caring and nice espcially i...

I feel awful that I know he's having an affair. Do I tell his wife?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5647 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I have been struggling with a large amount of guilt for many years. I was very aware that one of my mutual friend's husband "Dan" was having an affair while their children were quite young and I never had the nerve to tell her. The longer it went ...