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writes: I am having an affair with a married man. But its sort of odd. He never calls me, except to book the appointment for our meet. It's been going on for a while, and lately he wants to know if I love him. We share nothing but sex for about two hours each time. I am just so consumed by this and don't even know how in the world I ended up in such a situation. Please Help! We also come from two different worlds, he's rich and I am not! And no, he dosnt buy me expensive gifts like you see in the movies, actually I get absoultely nothing, even on my birthday! I don't mind that part, I am not in it for stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): "He never calls me, except to book the appointment for our meet." is this a business transaction. is he paying you for your services being rendered.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (27 May 2009):
 The first answer is right on...What do you want from us? You aren't asking anything.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (27 May 2009):
 You say you are not with him for the money, but then it is not clear why you are with him. You clearly recognise this is purely a sexual relationship devoid of any romance. I am sure you are wise enough not to think it can be more than this. If he has cheated on his wife with you, he may have had past affairs or even more women right now. I think he wants to know you love him because he is a narcissistic person who needs the attention. As for your relationship with him, you say you have no idea how you ended up in the situation...it doesn't matter what happened in the past - you cannot go back and change things. What matters is the present and future which is entirely in your control. You should take time to look at the situation for what it is and identify what you really want from your life for personal happiness. I am sure it is more than an occasional hook-up with a married man.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (27 May 2009):
He will never leave his wife, he just has you for sex. He can keep that veneer of respectability and keep you hidden as his dirty little secret, which by having sex with him you agreed to.
But hey, you knew that was the risk when you had sex with a married man, right? I mean, did you think he would stop having sex with his wife?
And what makes you think if he does leave her for you, that he will be faithful to you?
The cheaters cycle....then you wonder how this could have happened? Gee....I don't know...maybe....
Because you had sex with a married man..thats why it happened!
Move on and find someone that you can build a relationship built on RESPECT and honesty. This is going to end worse than it already is if you continue down this path.
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reader, sueannstep +, writes (27 May 2009):
 It sounds like he is just in it for the attention and physical affection he gets from you.
What are you wanting? To be with him and knows he cares for you? If it were me, I would end it. Firstly, it's not right to be with a married man as I am sure you already know and have felt yourself. If there is anything between you two, wait til his is on his own to find out. Otherwise, it will only be more torment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009): What exactly are you asking for help with? No one can break it off but you. Maybe you just like to complain?
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