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writes:long story short, my boyfriend and i had been going out, my best friend was always very 'friendly' with him and caused a lot of problems, after we broke up they both snuck around behind my back and it didnt last long. she told me it was because she wanted to hurt me, he said he had become an a##hole, that he had loved her but it was a stupid mistake and tried really hard to gain my friendship/trust back. its been a long time now and we are back together, but this 'friend' hasnt left the picture. she sms's him, she tries to talk to him, she even flirted and was all over him at a party. hes always telling me how much hes in love with me and he does make a lot of effort in our relationship now. but this whole her trying to get back with him thing is really bothering me. i have told him this, and he keeps saying that he doesnt make an effort to be friends with her, but as she is in our same friendship group its hard to exclude her, especially when there are group outings/parties. i dont know if im just having trust issues here but even knowing that shes around him at the same place makes me so uncomfortable. i have told him not to pursue a friendship with her, and he says he doesnt intend to. how do i trust him more?? or is there a reason i should not...? i want to believe that i was right in choosing to accept him again because he really is a changed person and our relationship is much better than before.
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reader, sexi suga  +, writes (4 June 2009):
have you guys ever tried going to these social gatherings together a few times... that worked me when my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend... it was very very uncomfortable for me to deal with the idea that he was out with her around so we tried to work on it by taking me with him 1) so she could see that we were happily together and 2) so i was at home crying and worrying at what he was up to...
though in you situation he didnt technically cheat it is still fairly similar as you are still feelling insecure and vunrable soo hey its worth trying :) good luck sweetii :)
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reader, Tarianna  +, writes (31 May 2009):
 Ever hear the saying you can forgive but cant forget?....I don't think that's completely true cause a part of forgetting is forgiving..and it seems that lady...I use the term loosely...is making it hard for you to forgive...so I suggest you try to part ways with that girl for now and try and mend your relationship to the point where she being around doesn't affect you...and i hope that guy doesn't try and play you for a fool or anything like that....hope he realise what he has and what he could have lost and don't make himself into that ass again...but I trust he'll not slam the door on his way out again...he might find out he doesn't have a key.
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