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Archived questions from: September, 2020 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My partner's abuse is making me unwell

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1521 days ago

30 September 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - my partners abuse is making me depressed and unwell. hes constantly calling me names and putting me down. the other day he went mad because i stepped in something and my shoe was dirty he was yelling and yelling at me and said hes locking me out the house which he did. when i ... (117 words)

Its been 3 weeks since I've gotten a text. Do I give up on him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1538 days ago

30 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - So, in August, I started talking to this guy from Hinge. His name is Gabriel. I'm really into him and I think he is into me, too -- or maybe was? A week after our first conversation, his grandmother passed away. They were very close, he said. Gabriel and his family went to G... (261 words)

How can I deal with possessive in-laws?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1541 days ago

28 September 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all, I would love for some honest and real advice about how I could possibly deal with possessive in laws. I have been married 4 years now and have always had issues with my gaining my voice and freedom with my in laws. I am from an Indian background where we've always been ... (458 words)

Same sex relationship Break Up after 4 years - 5 month old daughter

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1538 days ago

28 September 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey guys, So my gf of just over 4 years broke up with me 4 weeks ago. We have a 5 month old daughter together that I carried. It kinda hit me out of no where. She said she started to feel different towards me the last couple of weeks because of the lack of attention and af... (305 words)

Should I confess my straight friend my feelings for her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1544 days ago

28 September 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I've never been with a girl, but I've always been more attracted to girls than to boys. Also I've never had strong feelings for anyone but for this girl. I met her two years ago and I started having feelings for her short after we met. We're close friends and go out with the ... (371 words)

Do I leave her because we only have sex every 3 months?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1541 days ago

27 September 2020 (M)

age - In a relationship over three years sex only once in three months ,she know i want it but she comes up with all these excuses , and women wonder why men cheat, am tired of doing my self, so am i suppose to tell her , i need sex , or am going to get it else where, she says its ... (154 words)

What can I do about my local sport team?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1544 days ago

27 September 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - I have joined my local sport team and the guys seem like a laugh, a good atmosphere. The problem I have is I get so little playing time. Some of the players are awful and the coaches have even said it when I've on the sidelines with them. Im introverted and prefer to s... (145 words)

I had no idea he was married, broke it off but he's still acting like we are a couple

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1541 days ago

27 September 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - I've been dating this guy, 38, for the past 18 months now; I'm 24 and live in Los Angeles. Only recently I've found out he was married. I didn't know, not one bit, that he was married. He's a Trump supporter, I'm not but we somehow made it work. Do you think this is odd g... (596 words)

How does everyone else handle not having a sexual partner?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1539 days ago

26 September 2020 (M)

age - Early 80s, separated, living alone, still masturbate regularly, usually to porn, but not as often as the good old days. Keeps me sane out out of jail! Many out there in similar situation? How do your handle it all, ever tried Bi? ... (44 words)

I'm in an arranged marriage. How do I ask my future wife if she is a virgin like me? Its crucial to me

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1539 days ago

26 September 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm 25 years old and I'm still virgin. I had a lot of chances to lose my virginity but I saved it for my future wife. Because I want to have a married life with 100% trust in each other. Now I'm getting married to an unknown girl whom I just met.because its an arranged ... (181 words)

Should I feel guilty because I don't want to help my family financially anymore?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1539 days ago

26 September 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear everyone, I grow up in a dysfunctional family, where the root start from my own parents. I will try my best to make this short. Everyone hates me even im helping everyone, that include my parents too. Since young about 10 years old im already finding a way to help my... (786 words)

How do I bring up my wife's spending habits without getting into a fight?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1545 days ago

25 September 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - So we have been doing fine throughout this pandemic, luckily we both have our jobs and health. part of our student loans are frozen so thats been a nice chunk of change that we dont have to pay monthly. but even then we are slowly losing money. I decided to look back at our... (196 words)

Am I wrong for feeling it was a dumb comment at a very bad timing after all the stuff shes put us through?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1543 days ago

25 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriends ex made it a point to be the center of attention the first part of our relationship. To the point where i was about ready to leave him despite that he wasnt really to blame for it. Though there was about 2 times he lied about interacting with her. Its was her ... (211 words)

I want to move out with boyfriend, but barely have savings?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1546 days ago

25 September 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, I'm saving up for an apartment with my boyfriend and maintaining my own well, but my boyfriend has been slacking. He's worked longer than I have and saved close to none. Part of it, is that he helps his mother pay for groceries and whatnot. I'm fortunate enough... (104 words)

Why is my boyfriend purposely trying to hurt me? Why is it so hard to leave?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1547 days ago

24 September 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have a child together now and he is 2. Our relationship has always been good but definitely had it’s fair share of ups and downs. Recently it just feels like everything keeps falling around me while I’m trying to hold it up. I want ... (320 words)

Can men be balanced in bed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1547 days ago

23 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Can men be balanced in bed? I have only had either dominating or submissive guys. The dominating ones are selfish, controlling, insecure and eager to have sex. Submissive ones are a bit too nice and overly slave like, wanting to please you badly but lack a certain level of ... (83 words)

I'm Indian from a Hindu family but am considering converting to Christianity

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1546 days ago

23 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm considering converting to christianity. I'm from India and from a hindu family. My parents would never be ok with this. I strongly feel that the faith aligns with my values and personal beliefs. I am not religious in general but i don't find enough solace in mine. I don't ... (182 words)

My husband didn't stand beside me for a big event in our child's life

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1546 days ago

23 September 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I need some advice and poitn of views. I feel so depressed and down right now. I have been married for about 5 years. I have a 4-year-old and an 8-month-old. We are in a rocky relationship because of what just happened recently this past Saturday. My husband (noncath... (330 words)

We dated he broke it off and now when he sees me he totally shuns me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1545 days ago

23 September 2020 (F) age 30-35 - A few months ago I went on a few dates with a man who then abruptly told me he didn’t want a relationship of any kind and seemed to disappear off the face of the earth. He works locally and I used to pass him regularly on the way to our respective jobs, but I’ve not seen hi... (218 words)

My boyfriend lied to me now I have trust issues and wonder how many other times he might have lied

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1547 days ago

23 September 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been in a relationship with a guy for just over a year. We had some minor bumps in the road - mostly him not understanding my love language but he always tried to understand me and we could talk anything out. He was always very patient and gentle with me and out of all of ... (680 words)

How do you make adult children be nice and respect you and most importantly take responsibility for themselves

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1546 days ago

23 September 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - so basically i left a really bad violent marriage 15 years ago (the violence was only towards me) and i’ve been trying to make it up to my 2 daughters ever since, my girls are now aged 19 and 21 and ever since walking out the door from my ex husband, i have tried to make ... (278 words)

How do I let go of anger? I dated a friend who ended things and told everyone it was my fault

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1546 days ago

23 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a male friend of a couple of years. About a year ago he told me he likes me as more than a friend and had done for a year. I liked him too so we started dating. He kept telling me how he sees a future with me and how much he likes me etc. Everything was going well b... (765 words)

My wife is leaving me for a 22 year old that works at McDonalds

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1546 days ago

23 September 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - I've only just found out that my wife has been seeing a 22 year old man over the past 3 months in secret. The person who told me was my best friend; he was embarrassed when he told me this. I've got two kids aged 8 and 11, and I love my wife. There was no big argument,... (560 words)

Wife discovered the affair, now I am working on my marriage but can't forget my mistress.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1545 days ago

22 September 2020 (M) age - I am in agony so I guess I have come to the right place. Long story short. I was involved in a long term affair with a beautiful and caring woman. My wife discovered the affair recently and demanded I stopped all contact with the other woman, which I did. I blocked her and ... (988 words)

Estranged sister moves in and creates problems, what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1548 days ago

20 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I have a question about how to deal with an estranged sister. Years ago, she abandoned my siblings and I for a man. Then had a kid and lived out of the country. I found out that she cheated on her husband with another man so her son moved in with us then she found out ... (197 words)

I'm married and making out with my husband's best friend

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1550 days ago

20 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I made a mistake again... I know once is a mistake and two types is purely stupid but I didn't think and now I need help to stop. I am in a troubled marriage but we are still trying to work through it as we truly love one another. However his best friend made a pass at me many ... (114 words)

How long does it take to really move on from someone?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1548 days ago

20 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for five years. About two years ago, I had a fling with another guy. It was all flirty banter until it went too far and we slept together. I told my boyfriend and cut the man off. I told him I didn't want to lose my boyfriend and he said basically ... (331 words)

My inlaws do nothing for us but expect my husband to drop everything to help them

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1550 days ago

19 September 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - My mother-in-law needed work done on her house costing £400 which my husband paid for with the understanding that he would be reimbursed. Now she said to him that she will give him half the money towards it saying it will be his house soon anyway, basically like she is doing... (235 words)

My ex boyfriend and I broke no contact and I'm struggling with how to deal with it.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1550 days ago

19 September 2020 (F) age 41-50 - My ex boyfriend and I broke up 10 days ago and were going no contact. I still sent him periodic messages on Snapchat which he did read but didn't respond to. But I did see that he did not block me. I was expecting him to. Yesterday it was his birthday. I was out shopping and... (612 words)

I'm worried about my elderly neighbor but don't know how to help her

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1552 days ago

18 September 2020 (F) age 41-50 - I've posted here before and got some great advice, thank you again... I really need some perspective on how I'm handling a very delicate and sad situation. My husband and I moved into a building almost 8 years ago. We are foreigners, so we don't act the way most people ac... (634 words)

I'm always the one to initiate chats online

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1553 days ago

18 September 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello I'm 24,gay and have never dated before so I started joining a dating site called tinder and I've matched with quite a few guys so I messaged them and asked if we chat via WhatsApp,when chatting I always ask the questions and they'll reply that's part of me wanting to get ... (115 words)

I have become the punching bag for my long term girlfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1552 days ago

18 September 2020 (M) age 36-40 - I am in a long term relationship with someone I love very much. We have been together for roughly nine years now, living together for about 4 1/2. I wouldn't say our relationship is 'normal' we both battled hard to get to this point in time, and up until rather recently... (575 words)

Does holding resentment towards an ex means I haven't moved on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1541 days ago

18 September 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - When we met online, we hit it off. we met in person and the connection and chemistry was undeniable. He stayed at my flat for 2 weeks.And he asked me to be exclusive but the problem is we live 4 hours apart. But he said we will make it work. When he return to his town, he ... (1549 words)

Should we think about moving in his sisters house? She's bossy and controlling

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1550 days ago

18 September 2020 (F)

age - Should we think about moving in his sisters house my husbands oldest sister husband passed March of this year she is now saying she wont s to move out her house. I cannot stand her she controlling bossy and sure a pain in our marriage she stood in our way last year for a ... (193 words)

I have my own apartment but my family drops by any time unannounced and encourages others to do the same

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1458 days ago

18 September 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Growing up,y parents were very strict. There are three of us: Me (Dierdre, 22), Siobhan (18) and Aiden (14). We had no cable, were allowed VERY few DVDs, ONE computer which was literally only for school research, no cell phones except our parents, we were homeschooled till ... (558 words)

I'm in a sexless marriage and my husband doesn't want to try to make things better

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1551 days ago

16 September 2020 (F)

age - My husband of over 30 years can no longer get an erection. He's struggling with a fatherless father and an overbearing mother. This seems to have him stuck in a rut and in this rut all his life. Not sure why he just can't get over it but he just can't. Our sex life is non ... (171 words)

I can't move on because I keep thinking what if?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

16 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I dated this guy for a couple of months, we had amazing chemistry and got on really well however he ended things because he was recently out a long term relationship and he wasn't ready to commit to someone new. That was a while ago now and I'm really struggling to ge... (176 words)

Dating a escort and need advice

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1548 days ago

16 September 2020 (M)

age 51-59 - So I recently started dating a escort who I had seen a few times. We really hit it off well and I knew after the first visit it would be hard not to fall for her, come to find out she wad feelings for metoo just not quite as strong at the time. We didnt see each other for a ... (590 words)

Do you think I should take this is a sign that he isn't that interested in me, or am I looking too deeply into this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

16 September 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I have just started to get to know a guy. I really like him, however, he never initiates contact. He only texts me if I text him first. If I don't text him, I don't hear from him. Also, he takes a very long time to reply, sometimes an entire day. Do you think I should take this ... (76 words)

My husband is in complete control of our sex life and will withhold sex from me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1551 days ago

16 September 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - bit of a strange question but i’m not the most tactile person in the world so would appreciate some other ways to respectfully get my point across to my husband. i’ve been with my hubs for 17 years nearly and he’s such a amazing dad and husband and i am very happy but and ... (314 words)

How do I start and maintain a romantic relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1554 days ago

16 September 2020 (F)

age 18-21 - Hi everyone Thanks in advance for your help! I just am not able to express my feelings through my actions I am a typical teenager but I tend to bottle up my feelings and then explode all of a sudden Also I seem to have no knowledge and the necessary patience persever... (206 words)

My married bf gave up the best sex with me to go back to a sexless marriage. How is that even possible?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1556 days ago

15 September 2020 (F) age 41-50 - I'm hoping to get advice from all of you wise people because I have no idea what's going on. My married boyfriend left me. He said he's going back to his marriage because his wife found out about us. We've been together for several years. If anything, what we did have was ... (315 words)

How to cut off a toxic and controlling friend whom I see often?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1557 days ago

15 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I want to cut off a toxic and controlling friend but don’t know how. Normally, I would’ve just blocked her and said nothing. I don’t believe that’s necessarily the right way, as being direct and adult about it would probably be better. But I don’t care about her feelings since ... (713 words)

If he is dating other women then what does he want from me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1537 days ago

14 September 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - I was in an on again off again long distance relationship for 4 years. We were not together for more than 5 months before he would leave again. He said the relationship wasn't working out for him because he wanted a real life in person relationship. We live 6 hours apart and ... (791 words)

My friend tried to kiss me knowing I have a boyfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1553 days ago

14 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I met with a guy friend over the week end for lunch. We hadn't seen each other for about 9 or so months but message each other maybe on average once a month. I have been in a relationship for 18 months and my friend knows this as I regularly talk about my boyfriend. When ... (154 words)

He's the perfect guy who's been there for me in the darkest of times but why is he not making it official? Is he stringing me along?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1557 days ago

13 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Mid June i met the most amazing guy, he’s brought a lot of happiness and Comfort to me at a bad time. My mom was diagnosed with blood cancer around six months ago and shes has just been on a steady decline, shes been hospitalized weeks at a time and currently is, its been the ... (349 words)

Why is my married boyfriend emotionally torturing me? He keeps leaving me and then coming back!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

13 September 2020 (F) age 41-50 - Why would the married man I've been involved with keep leaving me and coming back? He left me in July and came back. He just left me again. He said he loves me and that's why he has to let me go. Cause he can't stand seeing me suffer cause I want more from him but he's married ... (180 words)

I really can't decide on the advantages/disadvantages of returning to the U.S. or staying here

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1558 days ago

13 September 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm an American expat living in Italy with my Canadian fiance. I've lived in Italy since 2014, but am considering returning to live in the U.S. soon. For the past few weeks, he's been wanting to do this social media challenge which concerns him taking a selfie of himsel... (382 words)

How did you finally make the jump to get married? I'm terrified at the thought of it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1555 days ago

13 September 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Should I get married now or wait? My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years we’ve been granted since 6 months after we met. I waited all this time to get married because I felt though I said yes to marrying him I wanted more time to see how things would play out and how ... (198 words)

I'm worried and feeling impatient that my falling out with my friend isn't getting sorted

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1557 days ago

12 September 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I feel silly writing this but here goes I fell out with a friend over something I did with best intentions but my friend didn't see it that way As they are busy working in had to WhatsApp an apology I was genuine as I felt awful and told them this. It was quite a... (126 words)