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writes:Hello I'm 24,gay and have never dated before so I started joining a dating site called tinder and I've matched with quite a few guys so I messaged them and asked if we chat via WhatsApp,when chatting I always ask the questions and they'll reply that's part of me wanting to get to know them better however it seems like they never ask anything about me,when the conversation ends days have passed and they haven't even tried to start to continue the conversation, so I would like to know why should I always start the conversation could it be that they not interested in me or just wants to chat when I start to chat? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2020): That's gay-culture, sweetie!
When you go online for dates, you're shopping...more or less, you're a kid in a candy shop! Those guys are mostly looking for hot one-night stands, and hookups; not sentimental-romantics to cling to them like lent. You will meet a lot of superficial self-centered "queens;" who just want to be admired. Why do you think they're still single?
Just keep plugging-away! Match-ups mean little until you finally connect with someone who is truly interested. That's just the reality of dating in the 21st-century; keeping in-mind that these guys have far too many profiles and pics to choose from. You're a teardrop in an ocean of men! Sex is the primary objective!
Your looks might grab some attention; but if you don't have cash to flash, aren't an online-celebrity, or you won't quickly invite a total stranger over for an immediate hookup. Boyfriend, you'll find yourself talking to yourself...or messaging a conceited unresponsive-twit! What you're experiencing is pretty common. Unless you look like Chris Evans, Jason Momoa, or Chris Hemsworth; they're yawning, and waiting to be invited over for a quick booty-call. They're also online while you're messaging them. Scrolling through other profiles and texting other guys; meanwhile, you're busy asking questions.
Don't be discouraged. Keep searching! There's lots of competition out there; and everybody has access to an entire online-population they can pick through!
The cuties get a little full of themselves; once you're showing them some attention. Trust me, they're having as difficult of a time as you are; maybe more-so, because they're often dumb gym-rats, bar-flies, jocks with sugar in their tanks, and gay frat-boys only looking for a party. They're brainless. They think with their wieners! Until you ask if they wanna f--K, your messages look like gibberish.
If you sound too desperate for romance, they smell your neediness! They're waiting for that invitation to come over, if nearby. They'll tap that sweet twinky-bum, and be on to their way to their next conquest. If they're fit, they just want you to admire their pecs, abs, and bulging biceps! The more you compliment them, the more they'll like you! Do yourself a favor...don't grovel!!! Don't ditch your dignity for those conceited narcissistic-jerks!
Be patient. If you feel like you're mostly talking to yourself; it's because they're not in it for small-talk!
They want action! Watch yourself and be careful! Don't waste your time when they seem unresponsive, give one-word responses, or take days to reply to your messages. That's a sign he's either an under-educated dud, only looking for quick hookups; or they've already got a boyfriend, and they're cheating on the side. Weed your way through the toads, and keep at it. You may have to swipe through 50, before you find a match who shows the right amount of interest and feedback.
I wish you good-luck, buddy!
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