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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Can you lie to the court house about being married before?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok i just want to know do you have to tell the court house that you were married befor?... (19 words)

Why is he acting this way? The accident?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hey ever since my boyfriend had his crash on a motorbike head first into a wall.. ive been so paranoid and getting upset like loads when he tells me things like " i nearly died vik" i tell him i know because i was there in the hospital with him.. and it just makes me so upset... (115 words)

He liked my best friend better...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy at a party. typical story i know. he's a friend of a friend and we felt an instant connection. i'm very shy when it comes to boys and have very little experience. my past boyfriends have not been great and i was hoping for a fresh start. however, the guy met my best ... (149 words)

I don't want to watch him die

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My bf is 25 and im turning 23. He's got high blood pressure but taking medication right now. Should we even think about getting married or should we end our relationship? I don't want to see him die. I don't want to be left alone to deal with the pain. I am losing... (88 words)

Bleeding after anal sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and I have been experimenting with anal sex for the last year after wards there might be a spot of blood or two but this last time there has been more..now two days and there is still a little mainly with a bowel movement is this okay? I have no pain no where, this ... (90 words)

Is my ex my soul mate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 28 years old. I lived for 2 years with my fiance in that time,we NEVER MARRIED because after giving me the engagement ring, he realized he was not 100% sure about marrying me, according to him because of the age gap,he is 57 years old now and in that time he was 54. I ... (437 words)

Breaking up--I want to be single and enjoy life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok, I'm going to try and keep this short and to the point. I love my girlfriend, but recently we have become distant (we have a long distance relationship, I'm in college, she's in high school). I have been thinking about us for the past week ever since she mentioned taking a ... (141 words)

Why can't he see that we're perfect for each other?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Why can’t he see that we are perfect for one another? My guy friend and I have been friends for more than a year. We get along and finish each others sentences sometimes. He always brings up a teacher that I don’t like and he does just so we can argue. Today I said the teacher ... (270 words)

How can I accept he loves/likes me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been in a relationship for just about 2 weeks with my boyfriend, but we had been hanging out for about a month before that. Before all of this we knew each other years ago and then he moved away, came back, but we never got back in touch til recently. I would consider ... (558 words)

How can I make him go WOW!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey I would like to know how I can make my bf feel satisfied when we are having sex....how do I know if I'm good or not...what do men love in bed??I want him to say "wow you are good"....but how?? What would he enjoy best?? Guys any answers??girls to can give me ... (54 words)

My girlfriend was drugged and raped and I blame myself.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, We have been dating since high school. I go to college in a town that is 4 hours away from our home town. Last April during our last week of school I invited (begged) her to come down and attend the last class bash with me. She came down and ... (363 words)

Test all say negative but my husband thinks I"m pregnant

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hey, i am 19 year's old and my husband thinks im pregnant. and every test that i have taken said negative. and im having all of the symptoms. and not to mention i got off of the depo shot almost a year ago.. and i have had my period but not a normal one but were normal up until ... (67 words)

He flirted with me, but now doesn't want my number.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, Iv been on about this lad I can't stop thinking about. And how he was flirting with me at my brothers 18th. Well when my bro saw him a few weeks after he asked for my number but my bro couldnt give it him cos he has a new phone and didn't have my number. But then at school ... (222 words)

Is he getting it somewhere else?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Men get off quicker when they havent had it in a while. Thats from my experience. Is that true or does it depend on the person? Because my b/f and I havent had sex in 3 1/2 months and then when we did he didnt go quickly. Not that I am complaining but I am worr... (85 words)

Relationship going down the drain because of my depression

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Relationship going down the drain because of my depression. My partner just does not understand why i hate the thought of going to sleep and why i cant stand waking up to face another day. Why i cry myself to sleep every night. He says i should just get over it and puts me ... (181 words)

Is it normal for attached guys to flirt with other women via email?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I need a mans point of view please. My question is: Do guys write/email etc.. other girls in a flirting/even inappropraite way even when your in a relationship with another? Is it an ego thing? Do guys usually intend on something to happen or is it harmless? Thank you ... (67 words)

Got busted for shoplifting!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I GOT A SHOPLIFTING CHARGE N I DNT WANT THIS TO MESS MY LIFE UP..WHAT CAN I DO TO GET IT EXPONGED N HOW MUCH DOES IT COST? I USUALLY DNT SHOPLIFT BUT I NEEDED SOME STUFF AND I DIDNT HAVE MONEY! CAN YA PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE... (48 words)

Should I go back to the books and graduate, then try for university again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My question may not have any relevance to love... But ill give it a try, back in 2007 i did my matric but i failed so i didnt graduate from high school,i was gonna study neurology, since i had a grade 10 certificate i could go to college and opted to study radiobro... (162 words)

Am I meant to just suffer with longing for my boss?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I am hopelessly in love with my boss. We are very close and we talk about everything. All I can do is fantasize what it would be like to hold him, to kiss him, to make love with him. The main problem is we are both in relationships. He recently asked me for advice. He asked me ... (152 words)

Had to leave her due to accidental sex, want her back!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - i had a girl, because of an accidental sex i had 2 leave her. but now she's out and i'd like the first one back. (i dont know whats in her mind. what shall i do?... (36 words)

I'm beginning to think she isn't ready to date. All I want is to get to know her a bit better!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - I pretty much know the anser to this but want some feedback! About three months ago I met a girl and it was an instant connection, something I have not felt in awhile. She was in a stifling relationship so we just met out a couple times nothing harmful. She broke it off... (321 words)

Isn't reality better than fantasy when it comes to sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - My Psychiatrist BF who is 41 has a 'collection' of over 100 DVD's almost ALL of which are about hetero anal sex, and a few male sex ones. He says he is only "curious" but this 'seems' different to me. I think in the past he had turned to it to cope w a bad marriage in defi... (249 words)

Was I wrong to check up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - hi, me and my boyfriend have been together now for almost three years. In that time he has cheated once with a woman for a month, that ended once i found out. He has persued another woman but she didnt want anything with him. Why did i stay? because i have these feelings for ... (407 words)

I want to know about oral sex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi...i'm 19 yrs old boy i hav a gf and now she asked me abt sex but i wanna know abt oral sex eventually is it good to lick vagina or anus while having sex?will she like all this or to hav to hav penis in mouth? Please i want answer from girls......i'm sorry but i don't know ... (68 words)

Do I start next months pack as I've lost this month's birth control pills?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, i just need some quick advise. I'm on the 28 day pill, i forgot to take it last night, and i was just about to take today's pill but noticed that i must have lost the pack when i was on my way home on monday after staying at my boyfriends for the weekend... I'm ... (88 words)

Like father, like son, in sexual habits! Should I talk to him or be worried?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5528 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and have since the very beginning been very comfortable and sexually open with one another, more so than any of our previous relationships. He has several unique fetishes and I've never thought much of it before, I love him and he ... (180 words)

Giving it a try again with the ex, only now he's gone distant again after his friends saw me out with my girlfriends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, i dont know what to do im so confused.... i got back wid my ex and i think he is doing the same as he did before useing me... when we first met back up it was so good to see him again we had a few drinks and a chat he cudnt stop saying sorry for all he has done in the ... (298 words)

He danced with and was kissed by some chick 3 weeks before our wedding!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - My fiance was out drinking one night and decided to dance with some chick, and he said she kissed him and he pushed her off and walked away. This happened three weeks before our wedding. how do i forgive him and move forward? ... (44 words)

If she's not in love with him anymore, why is our love so wrong?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have fallen completely in love with my best friend's husband and I don't know how to stop it. It has been going on for over nine months. I love my best friend, but knowing her and him I know they have been having lots of problems (for years). They have a daughter, which makes ... (751 words)

How do I get over my insecurities about (not) dating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I used to joke a lot with my best friends about growing old together as cackling cat ladies, and how we'd all live in a string of houses on adjacent properties and sit on our porches with shotguns in our laps, terrorising the neighbourhood children. I'm now 21 years old, an... (656 words)

Has anyone tried Eharmony and does it work?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Just wondering? Has anyone tried Eharmony? Does it work? Or are they just a bunch of guys looking to get laid like plentyoffish?... (23 words)

Can anyone make any sense of this???

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I am in desperate need of advice. I began seeing this girl back in the winter of 2007. We became official before christmas of 07 on the phone when she was in her hometown. She called me and asked me what we were because some guy was 'chasing her hard', taken back I thought w... (1571 words)

Another "I need space" story.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I just wanted to find out if you guys think I should worry or should just move on. I admit that we had some fights here and there. Just recently my girlfriend left for a internship for 5 months more than a thousand miles away and she promised that I shouldn't worry ... (359 words)

I struggle to trust men and I think this has taken its toll on my relationship, how do I stop my boyfriend from leaving me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone ! I need some help. I have ruined my relationship with my boyfriend. I love him a lot and so does he. But in the past i had unsuccessful relationships and due to my past i couldn't trust my boyfriend. I always fought with him and blame him for cheating with me. ... (197 words)

My ex is sleeping with his girlfriends best mate

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone Well my ex bf is now like my best friend we get on really well even if we do have are little tiffs, But basically he has a gf who is pregnant and i slept with him once after that and it hasnt happened since as i felt guilty even tho i dont think he did An... (251 words)

He said he needs time to think.....does this mean I have lost him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5081 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok well here goes had a huge fight with my BF of 6 months this weekend after a night out, I ended up leaving his house at 5am in the morning and going home in a rage, i call sunday and he wont answer my calls or the texts, we usually speak all the time so i left it thinking he ... (167 words)

Can anyone tell me what my dream means?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello :D I appreciate it if it is hard to answer this question, but I am extremely curious. Last night I dreamt I was inlove with my crush, and he was my boyfriend (along with other random stuff happening, e.g us going on a giant bouncy castle.) I actually thought we were goi... (151 words)

My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?

This question has 37 answers - newest was posted 5521 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. However my boyfriend wants me to keep it... (264 words)

Are my legs weak?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I am 21. I have been a strong masturbator in the past 3,4 years. I did it almost everyday but for the past 1 year, I gained control over myself and minimized this habbit a lot. Now I don't masturbate more than twice a month. But when I ejaculate, I feel strain in my legs ... (85 words)

Nothing concrete but more seems to be going on than meets the eye!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I'm new around here and could do with a bit of advice, sorry for the novel. I have two young children with my husband of 7 years, he is a builder an works quite closely with his customers in his home, which normaly I dont have a problem with. Things havent been great since ... (923 words)

I'm a 20 year old mexican girl wanting to date a 30 year old white man, is this wrong?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I'm new to this so I hope some one helps me is it bad if I date a 30 year old man I'm 20 s don't know if its a problem....I'm mexican and he is white!! Idk what other people would think. It shouldn't matter what others think but I'm kinda concerned if things will not work ... (60 words)

Has he changed his mind about getting married?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for about one year. A couple of months in (when we started talking about exclusivity, etc.) we discussed what we were looking for. I'm 29, and I don't want children and haven't really thought much about getting married, I always figured I ... (224 words)

How to tell my girl of 6 years that its just not there anymore

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok so i have been with a girl for six years and we have had our ups and downs like every one else, but the problem is ive sat down for a long time and asked myself do i really love her? i have feelings for her and i do like seeing her but not being around her for too long. she ... (280 words)

If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me with an Asian in other side of... (349 words)

Its all about him getting off and he never takes the time to pleasure me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5528 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - why do men think it's okay for them to just raise up their woman gown and go in? the men get ready easy they can get horny just by looking at you or by kissing or just by rubbing your breast but yet they think that just because they are ready we should be to and that's not true ... (147 words)

Girl I'm interested in was violated and I don't know how to date her/talk to her!!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I need some help here. I care about this girl that i've been (kinda?) talking to, but something really bad happened recently. I was with he one night, drinking, and another friend of hers came in to chill too. He sketched me out, but I said nothing to her, ... (327 words)

How do I let him down easy and as painlessly as possible?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I recently moved from the town where I'd been living for 5 years. I was in a long distance relationship with a guy ("Bob") for 2 years, and we have been broken up for 1 year. In that time, I started a relationship with another guy ("Steve"). I got into graduate school ... (334 words)

You don't know what you've got until its gone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - my ex and i had a very complicated relationship. he is in the military and early on in our ldr he was asking me if i would consider moving with him in the future. he sort of pushed the topic on me and ended up pushing me away. i closed up, and soon before he left for the summer ... (406 words)

How can you love someone and get turned on by other people?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Here's my story. My girlfriend and I have been dating for eight months and I am now convinced that I'm in love with her. So here's why I'm writing now... A few weeks into our relationship I found out that she gave me several STDS, some were easily taken care of with a few pi... (551 words)

Other than cheating, what might make a man suddenly avoid intimacy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

30 September 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 months now and we're already in love with each other. We started being more intimate and physical after about a month of dating (we both like to take things slowly) and we always have fun with each other and make sure the other ... (212 words)