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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 months now and we're already in love with each other. We started being more intimate and physical after about a month of dating (we both like to take things slowly) and we always have fun with each other and make sure the other is happy with everything. But, a few weeks ago I caught a cold, then he caught it, then both of our cars began having problems. Both us and our cars are healthy again, but now he is acting differently. He says he thinks that he is changing, but that it doesn't have to do with me. I know he is very stressed out right now, but lately he doesn't want to be intimate with me other than kissing and hugging me. I really don't think he is cheating on me, we have been honest with each other about everything from the beginning and he has been cheated on before and knows how horrible it is. Usually you hear of guys being emotionally unavailable. But mine is being physically unavailable!So my question is mainly for the guys. What, other than cheating, makes a man suddenly not want to be intimate with his girlfriend that he loves?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 September 2009):
He could be very stressed at work, which ultimately means he would want to avoid confroting problems with you. When men have problems, they prefer to take time to sort them out by themselves, whereas women prefer to get it all out into the open. This can lead to performance anxiety and problems getting an erection and so on. This is not your fault at all. See if there's anything that he'd like to discuss with you in general. Or maybe tell him that you're worried? Do it gently and don't be judgmental, or it'll make him clam up.
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reader, liz2  +, writes (30 September 2009):
Stress is one factor. Another thought could be his health. If he has a yeast infection or genital warts or something this may cause him to not want to be intimate.
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