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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone Well my ex bf is now like my best friend we get on really well even if we do have are little tiffs,But basically he has a gf who is pregnant and i slept with him once after that and it hasnt happened since as i felt guilty even tho i dont think he did Anyway this is not why im writing he recently told me he was in love with another women His gf's best mate and that he will eventually dump his gf for her best mate. He even told me they have slept together and are always doing things togetherBut im writing this and no its not because I am jealous Its because im actually worried about his gf and she will be really hurt if she found out the reason why he got rid of her was because of her best mate And recently im wanting to tell his gf about the friend but dont want to loose the friendship i have with my ex Ive told him many times that i would be hurt if he went with one of my mates but i think this is worse its her best mate and the father of her unborn baby How can i make him see its wrong???Please any advice for me on what i should help
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 September 2009):
You'd be better off having nothing to do with him again at all. End all contact whatsoever and move on very quickly.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (30 September 2009):
 As the others said, this is none of your business. Do not say anything about it.
You've already tried to explain to your ex that his behaviour is hurtful and inappropriate. I presume he is a big boy. I bet he knew before you told him and didn't respect his girlfriend enough to alter his behaviour.
You can’t be too worried about his girlfriend’s feelings or you wouldn’t have slept with him whether you knew her to be pregnant or not. Besides, she'll find out that her so-called best friend is no friend at all when he breaks up with her. She won't need you to tell her.
All you have to do is decide if the kind of man who sleeps around with an ex-girlfriend and his pregnant girlfriend's best friend is the kind of person you want to be friends with.
Good luck.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (30 September 2009):
 I dont think you should tell your ex's girlfriend - that will only make things worse. She wont believe you because she will think you are just jealous, and then you will lose your friendship with your ex.
What I think you should do is have a good talk with your ex - tell him exactly what you think of his behaviour. That is all you can do - as long as you make it clear that you are disgusted with the way he is behaving and that as a father-to-be he should grow up and face his responsibilities, then you are being a good friend but not meddling in his business. If you start getting involved with his business then it will only get messy and you will end up coming out worse in this situation.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): Don't tell his GF, it isn't your place to, and you do not want it to back fire on you from 3 ways. You need to let this run its course. The GF will find out and she will have to deal with it. Its not nice but it is part of society. She should have been a bit more choosing of who she got pregnant by. Stay well away!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): dont tell her..,
and dont try to be harsh on him either
if you told her and she realy loves him you might loose your connection with you ex and his Gf
and if you'd been harsh on him you would loose the previllage of him being honset with you about his life
try ot tell him the consequinces of what he is doing once
and dont bother if he didnt listen
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