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writes:my ex and i had a very complicated relationship. he is in the military and early on in our ldr he was asking me if i would consider moving with him in the future. he sort of pushed the topic on me and ended up pushing me away. i closed up, and soon before he left for the summer for training he ended up breaking up with me. 2 weeks after, he called me and found out that i was going on a date and he was furious. a week later he called and apologized and explained that he wanted to be friends. every week he called and was being super friendly and supportive of everything in my life. i told him i was visiting a family member near his base and he asked to come see me, i said yes. he drove hours and came to visit, explained how much he missed me, one thing led to another and we slept together. he left the next day and i texted him 'so what do we do now?' he said he wasn't sure and i was crushed. i said some nasty things and a couple days later i apologized and he was less than happy. he ignored me for about a week and we started talking again. he told me he wanted to work things out but he was afraid to. one night he called me drunk and cried on the phone that he loved me, hoped i would move across the country with him and told me he wanted to get married. i told him that i thought i could do it. time came for me to go visit him and he had to work late and we would have to stay in a hotel, i was too afraid for the same thing to happen again so i didnt go and he said that he would wait. he started to slip away and began ignoring me again, its been 2 weeks and he still wont respond to my messages, only telling me to move on. was i the one making mistakes? you dont know what you have until its gone, because i realize now i love him more than anything, would follow him wherever he goes and i know for a fact that im willing to take the next step but it might be too late. is there anything i can do besides wait?
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reader, Jodie1985  +, writes (30 September 2009):
It sounds like he wants it to be "All or nothing"... with him being in the Military he has no choice but to be where he is. Thing is he really wants you there with him, its a huge descision for you to make... you obveously both love eachother so follow your heart and take a chance! :) When he contacts you again let him know you love him and that you are ready to make that move... Its never to late when its meant to be :) Hope things work out for the both of you, Good luck!! x
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