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writes:Hi, I don't know if anyone can really help me with this but i'm not sure where else to turn. My problem is that my boyfriend lives half a world away. We've been together for a year, through what I've found to be a very hard long distance relationship. I'm going to go and see him next month but i know that its over. We still love each other but its too hard to be that far apart and its near impossible for us to be together right now. I would wait but like i said its too hard, everyday it breaks my heart to be away from him. And its also affecting my family and friends now, they can't take much more of this either. Even if money was no problem and we could see each other more i have the feeling that he, deep down in his heart, cant bring himself to leave his family and country. This relationship is asking too much of me and him so it seems like the best thing for both of us would be to end it. He might be able to wait but i cant any more. But my problem is this, how do you give up someone you love? Everything else is against us apart from the way we feel about each other. I know logically its the best thing to do but when i go to see him next month logic will probably go out the window! Should i not go? But then how can i let go of the man i love over the phone?? Please, does anyone have any advice??
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (15 June 2007):
 I think you have kind of answered your own questions there. If you don't see either of you leaving your families and you don't feel you can wait then you should end it. I dont think you should do it over the phone. Maybe talking to him about how you feel may change the situation, but I don't think it will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): long distance "relationshits" are a bitch! if you believe you won't be together in the future then your lives have been crossed so you should suck it up and break up... trust me it hurts but its for the best. Being together just makes it harder. Someone did that to me, I hated the person but I eventually caught on.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (4 June 2007):
 why don't u go and see him and talk things through if u still feel its worth the wait anymore than finish it with him its going to be hard but if u are feeling all this pain than u shouldn't have to go through that. talk to him he may feel the same u don't know but don't finish with him over the phone. im sure there are loads of guys who would love to go out with u once of course u over ur currant bf. just u have to kiss aload of frogs to find your prince and maybe u just need to have fun before u try and have a commiting relationship
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reader, nologo  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 While writing this you were in a bad mood.
There are some contradictions in your post.
Sounds like you are looking for a reason to end relationship.
It means there is no actual reason if you need to make it up.
First you do this: "I'm going to go and see him next month".
After that you may get a better understanding what you want.
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