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writes:my boyfriend is sooo consumed by stress, and its our first time having sex the very fist for me, but becuase of the stress its hard to get it uuhh hard lol what can i do to help calm the stress??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Sex needs to be fun. For some reason your guy is not seeing sex as a fun thing. Is the stress coming from things outside of the sex?
Avoid the intercourse for now. Perhaps the both of you could try foreplay for a while and discover what turns each other on. Sex is way more than the "final act", and you can make each other come without it. And there is NOTHING wrong with masturbating in front of each other.
Remember, help your guy to have fun. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Straight Up  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 i agree with jabey. why not try sensal massages ask him how and where he like to be touched. allow him to touch you which should arouse him. remember you want your first time to be memorable. don't think about it to much cause that can add to the stress
goodluck and enjoy
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (18 June 2007):
 I agree with jabey.... be understanding and not pressure him. If the problem still persists then maybe suggest he see a doctor for help with stress. Or like Jabey says avoid intercourse for now and stick to oral fun.
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reader, jabey +, writes (18 June 2007):
you must be very understanding toward him, so he feels no pressure. For now I would abstain from even trying intercourse, read the previous problems reply I gave as that covers it xx
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