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writes:There is a guy I like. He is friends with a friend of mine. He has been known to get around a bit in the past but apparently around me he is shy and nervous. He wants to kiss me, I want to kiss him but neither of us can make the first move. His friend says he has never seen this guy act like this around anyone before. I really like him but I don't know how he feels. His friend says that he does want to kiss me but he doesn't want anything more because he does like me and he doesn't want things to be weird between us. He has even told me himself that he doesn't know why he is acting this way around me. He said he feels like he is 10 and has never done anything like this before. We have slept in the same bed twice and have only cuddled. He hasn't tried to kiss me. My instinct is telling me he really likes me but I just don't know what is going on. Should I just give it time and see where it goes? Get to know each other more. I think we don't know each other really well but if we spend more time together and get to know each other more then maybe he will want more... Help! What should I do?
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reader, burningbridges  +, writes (18 June 2007):
Try kissing his cheek or nuzzling him. This'll help relax him enough for lip lock, and isn't as extreme as The Kiss, which you both want but think is too racy to go for.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Give it time yes, but if there is an opportunity for you to lean in and kiss him then go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): hmmm .. i was in an extremely similar situation myself recently actually.. we both really liked each other but were too nervous to make the first move. It sounds like this guy has a lot of respect for you, so maybe you should talk to him and try to gauge wether he likes you as more than a friend, he's probably just scared to take the risk and mess things up between you . My solution to this problem was to just try and forget about how nervous i was and just go for it and make the first move, which is something i never do.. it was a good idea, it felt really exciting and we're still going out :) xxx
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reader, so_in_love +, writes (18 June 2007):
I think what he's doing is really sweet, he obviously really does like you and has respect for you.
Try spending time together and getting to know each other, like you said. He sounds like the sort of guy you do want to stick around for, there aren't many around anymore like him. Do a bit of harmless flirting too. Everything will soon happen when its meant to.
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 haha, try to talk about the whole kissing thing, express your point and let him explain his, and when the conversarion is at its peak, both of you should do it! But in other sense, you should do nothing, its more romantic if it just happen unexpectedly, be patient and wait.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Girl, go learn guy body language.
"around me he is shy and nervous"
There is a thing called Intuition: you should use it at times.
"we don't know each other really well but if we... get to know each other more then maybe he will want more"
You have 2 options in this situation: slow down till his crush fades and befriend him or pull him closer with some risk.
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reader, iloveyou +, writes (18 June 2007):
I think it is clear that this guy really does like you and I think you should just go for it next time you are having a romantic moment, or even just ask him if you could kiss him, you have got nothing to lose. Good luck
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