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I have now found, after a lot of searching, my soul mate. But lifes not all a bed of roses for us. But he keeps me smiling, well most of the time anyway. |
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Will I ever be free of depression?
Q. can anyone tell me if you can eva truley get over depression? i started dating my now husband when i was 14,i had been sexually active b4 i got with him but was cheated on by every one of them. After trying for 5yrs to get pregnant (i have polycyst...
A. 15 May 2007: Oh you poor thing,
You have had an awfull lot to deal with, no wonder you are depressed.
The good news. yes you can get over depression, but it takes lots of will from you, which at the moment you may not be able to deal with.
I never suggest that... (read in full...)
did I do the right thing in forcing him to choose between me and the weed?
Q. Hia everyone ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and through out this year all we've done is argue and instead of sorting it out it gets swept under the carpet. not so long ago he kicked the living day lights out of me (literlly) and im all ...
A. 15 May 2007: Sweetie,
The right thing to do would be to ditch this guy, weed or not. You are worth much more than that.
The problem with smoking this stuff, is you never see a persons true personality. And before anyone says this is rubbish, it does not chan... (read in full...)
I don't feel badly that I cheated on her with a 14 year girl! Any advice?
Q. i an 18 and i have a 15 year old girlfriend. i cheated on her with a 14 year old. this isnt the first time this has happened. i dont really feel bad about it either. what should i do?...
A. 15 May 2007: Scary,
That you think cheating is the problem, but having sex with a 14 year old is not.
I think you put this on here to wind people up. If you did you are sick anyway. Dont you think this site is for people who are heart broken, and need help.
G... (read in full...)
Falling for my 45 year old boss!
Q. i think i am falling for my 45 yr old boss. i will be 24 yrs old. he is divorced and has a 10 and 13 yr old. he told me he really likes me and finds me attractive. we have been out many times together with my friends and other coworkers. i cant stop ...
A. 9 May 2007: Hi,
Why should you care what they say. He is divorced and free to do what he wants, as are you.
All I can say is ..He is a lucky bugger. All joking aside, anyone who gives you trouble, is probably jelous. So I would ignore them and go with your hea... (read in full...)
I haven't been able to trust my BF since he made out with 12 guys on New Years Eve 2006!
Q. Hey, I have been having some problems with my boyfriend of almost 9 months, for what feels like a rather long time. On new years eve last year (2006) my boyfriend cheated on me with 12 men while he was drunk. I saw him make out with them and sinc...
A. 9 May 2007: Hi,
Firstly he is very young and acting a bit imature, by saying these things to you. I am sure he probably does love you in his own way, but is that enough for you.
I really think he is mixed up sexually, and could even be gay. If this is the c... (read in full...)
Is it okay to be in love with each other even when we have our respective families?
Q. I am a 46 year old man married for 16 years now with two kids aged 15 and 10.Very recently I reconnected after a 26 year gap, with my childhood sweetheart who is 45 and also married for 25 years and has two daughters aged 21 and 17.Ever since we ...
A. 4 May 2007: Deep down you know this isn't right. You have a lot of strong feelings for her, and it could be very dangerous. You say you are trying to keep this above board, but your not. Your both sneaking around already.
If this lady is truly the love of your... (read in full...)
How do I confront my father about his affair?
Q. alright everyone... so i need a bit of advice. I would like to begin by giving you a bit of information... I am an adult in his early 20s. At the present time, I really have not talked to my family (specifically my father) for a bit over a year now ...
A. 4 May 2007: Sorry but I agree with, eyeswideopen on this. It sounds very much like revenge. The trouble is you want to hurt you father, but it will hurt the person who is innocent (your mum). Do you have any proof that this is happening, or is it hearsay. ... (read in full...)
I fear I will never get over HIS ex...
Q. There seem to be a lot of women who share this problem: the EX. I met my boyfriend and the relationship became intense right away and we completely fell in love with each other within a month. But soon after he left for a trip for several months. We ...
A. 4 May 2007: Hi,
I know just how you feel, but you have to ask yourself...if she was that great why isn't he still with her.
I dont think that you are worried about not measuring up to her, its more likely that your worried he will go back. And no-one can gara... (read in full...)
I haven't met anyone for a while and feel my life is at a standstill.
Q. Hey. I've been single for coming up to a year now. Its insane! I've had a few on off flings but nothing serious. It's annoying because the amount of times I go out clubbing every week and I also go to college, u would of thought i would have found ...
A. 4 May 2007: This is simple, you are trying to hard honey.
Not sure if this has happened to you, but its certainly happened to a lot of my mates. When you have a person in your life, you become more atractive to others. I dont know why you just do. I guess its ... (read in full...)
I am confused as to why her friends and mom say I am violent. I was doing it out of self defence.
Q. My gilfriend of a year posted a problem on here 30 April 07 about me throwing cushions at her, buying a house and that I did not trust her etc.. In my defence she firstly has given me reason not too trust her 100% as I have seen her obtaining ...
A. 4 May 2007: Hi,
It seems to me you both have a trust issue here. I really cant see what's wrong with her asking a friend for advice, about a house though. Perhaps she is trying to get more information than you can give her. If you are buying the house toge... (read in full...)
My partner has secretly been texting a 16 yr old, but he says its because she in a mess and needs help!!!!
Q. I just found out that my partner of 4 years has secretly been texting a 16 year old girl, behind my back and I'm totally heartbroken, hes 36! all the trust has gone and I dont feel like I know him anymore and I dont know what to do! Backgroun...
A. 2 May 2007: Hi
I do feel really sorry for you, it must be awfull. But we are talking about a grown man here, and not much more than a child. I dont believe that if this really was as innocent as he says, why would he not tell you. You should be the most impo... (read in full...)
When he doesn't get his way he is uncontrollable.
Q. Hello, I need some advice about toddlers. My son is two and a half years old, he is chatting well, understands and asks for things by name, and knows when he wants something he asks or gives the indication for it, and repeats words, problem i...
A. 26 April 2007: That was a really good answer from annon, before.
Having been through this with my son who is now almost 20. Believe me, I thought no one could be as bad as him. He was in trouble constantly from the age of two, and I seriously can say that alth... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out before or after my face surgery?
Q. i've never had a girlfriend although i'm very popular amongst girls. i've tried to make my personality really good to make up for the bad looks and it works. well i've asked out few girls and got rejected. recently i really like my friend but not ...
A. 24 April 2007: Hi,
I think you should go for it now. At least if she says yes, you will know she really liked you before your surgery. And I think that will make you more positive, about what it is you are having done. Also you will know she is an unde... (read in full...)
She ran me down with my car because she thought I was cheating on her! Should I forgive her?
Q. I'm 19 and i have a girlfriend that ran me down with my car beacause she thought I was cheating she is begging for my forgiveness. Now I love her but I may never use my legs again. Should I forgive her?????? please let me know!...
A. 23 April 2007: God NO,
She sounds very disturbed. I dont think I could ever forgive a person doing that to me.
I think that although she realises she has acted crazy, you cannot let a person do this to you. She could have killed you. Are you sure she didnt hi... (read in full...)
My son starts school soon and I'm terrified he'll be bullied.
Q. my son will start school in september (he´s 5). I know I was bullied at school, and although it hit me really badly, I got out of it OK. But I´m scared that if my son gets bullied, he keeps it all in even if we tell him to tell us if he´s being ...
A. 23 April 2007: Hi,
I am affraid most children are bullied in school at some point.
Children can be extremly cruel, and unkind. Its all a matter of wanting to stay in packs. And not be different. Also, bullies are uasually bored with no interests.
I found the be... (read in full...)
I'm pale and tanning naturally is difficult. What can I do?
Q. I'm very pale, and don't tan easily, so I was thinking about getting a spray tan before my holidays. I'm going away for a week in June, then away for four weeks in August. I was thinking, get a spray tan a day before I leave, then apply more ...
A. 23 April 2007: Hi,
Spray tans are good, but are expensive and fade pretty quickly. You could try one of those new body lotions with a slight colour to them. They build up after a few times, but in my experience dont go orange like some of the stronger type... (read in full...)
I get a thrill from cheating on my husband, but feel guilty afterwards! What do you think?
Q. i am happily married woman...yet i cheat on my husband...i always feel bad afterwards...but i get a kind of high thinking about it and doing it..till its over..what do you think?...
A. 20 April 2007: Yes, I really think people should try. I dont think that hurting other people is right, and not really cristian is it?.
Your belief would only work, if both parties felt the same way. If this was the case, this lady would not be doing it behind her ... (read in full...)
I get a thrill from cheating on my husband, but feel guilty afterwards! What do you think?
Q. i am happily married woman...yet i cheat on my husband...i always feel bad afterwards...but i get a kind of high thinking about it and doing it..till its over..what do you think?...
A. 20 April 2007: Tramping around with several different people, does not make you a slut?.
Sorry I fail to see the difference myself, but you obviosly think otherwise, and there seems to be no telling you any different, so I except that we all have different mora... (read in full...)
I get a thrill from cheating on my husband, but feel guilty afterwards! What do you think?
Q. i am happily married woman...yet i cheat on my husband...i always feel bad afterwards...but i get a kind of high thinking about it and doing it..till its over..what do you think?...
A. 20 April 2007: Kiera,
Is there somthing wrong with you,
Ok your right I should not have said Twat. That was really wrong. But for goodness sake, do you have no morals at all.
This lady is married, what if she does get caught, or worse gives her husband an i... (read in full...)
I slapped him in temper, hes left me but left a note, it says he still loves me! I dont know what to do!?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years i left a violent marriage to be with him. The last two years have been very bad i discovered i was pregnant but had to terminated as he "wasnt ready for the comittment" my father was diagnosed with cancer and ...
A. 19 April 2007: Hi,
I really do feel for you, but he is right he's not a punch bag. For whatever reason you felt you had to stay in your previous relationship, he does not see this as exceptable. And lets face facts, he's right. But you have been through an awfu... (read in full...)
Im having an affair, 2 kids one on the way, but I love this other woman!! What can I do ?
Q. im 30 yrs old with 2 kids and 1 on the way but for the past three months i have been having an affiar with a women who is so great and fun to be with and i just cant bring myself to leaving my wife for the kids sake but i love this other women to ...
A. 19 April 2007: Hi,
You have one life, and you should be happy. But you must be honest with people that this will effect.
If you are truly happy with this other lady, you cannot lead your wife into thinking all is ok. If you leave either one it will hurt, but I tr... (read in full...)
My fiancee disappeared for 12 hours, no explanantion! Was he messing around?
Q. Why would my fiancee of 3yrs txt me and say he dont do expainations when i asked him to explain why he hadnt contacted me in 12hrs, am i right in thinking he was messing around on me...
A. 19 April 2007: Oh Dear,
just goes to show, there are always 2 sides to every story.
And we can so easily take sides, without the facts.... (read in full...)
I get a thrill from cheating on my husband, but feel guilty afterwards! What do you think?
Q. i am happily married woman...yet i cheat on my husband...i always feel bad afterwards...but i get a kind of high thinking about it and doing it..till its over..what do you think?...
A. 19 April 2007: Hi,
This is an easy one!!!!
I THINK YOUR A TWAT... (read in full...)
We agreed to go ahead with the 3some, but every time it crops up my wife finds a reason not to go ahead!!
Q. Alright, so I read some other similar questions but not exactly the same. My wife and I are both legitimately intrested in a threesome, and (she being bisexual) we are agreed it should obviously be a woman. The problem is everytime I find someone ...
A. 19 April 2007: Hi,
Quite honestly I think you are far more interested in this than your wife.
Maybe she likes the idea, because imagination can be far more of a turn on, than doing the real thing.
I dont think I have heard anyone who has done this, say that it ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 years old with a baby on the way and I'm incredibly afraid about my future. I need help badly!
Q. I'm a 15 year old girl with a baby on the way and has a 20 year old boyfriend. I really don't know what to do. I am incredibly afraid and I have no idea what's going to happen. I am NOT getting an abortion, it's totaly against my morals, plus I ...
A. 18 April 2007: Hi Darling,
You are in a very difficult situation here, a baby is a massive responsability. You dont mention the father, is he willing to stand by you, and support you and the child?. I know you say abortion is illigal in your state, but isn't unde... (read in full...)
We broke up in Dec 05, we are in mediation, hes in another relationship but its dead, but he hasnt told her to move out, how can I get him to tell her its over ?
Q. This is difficult and knowing where to start even more so. Basically my ex and I split up December 2005 after 7 years together, we didn't split because we didn't love each other, it was because of a huge fight. We have a little boy and the last...
A. 18 April 2007: Hi,
I still think he should be honest with her, although i appreciate you must be scared for a good reason. It sounds like the sooner he gets her out the better, then you can maybe rebuild your life to-gether if thats what you would want. I real... (read in full...)
The married man I'm seeing says he sleeps in a different bedroom to his wife and only stays because of his son. Is he telling the truth?
Q. hi i've been dating a married man for 6 weeks sat, he says he sleeps in a diffferent bedroom and he only stays at his house for his son and because he pays the mortgage, he says he loves me and cant give me a 100 percent as he has his 12 year old ...
A. 17 April 2007: I would doubt he is telling you the truth darling. Do yourself a favour and get out of this now. I recon he is full of sh**. And dont be a part of his stupid games. There will be another for you dont worry.
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I only like much older men, guys my age just don't do it for me. Has anyone else felt this way?
Q. Recently, I have realised that I only like much older men than me, I have dated guys my age but it just doesn't do it for me. I'm not talking a couple of years older either, I mean men in their 30s and 40s. Now I have never had a relationship with ...
A. 17 April 2007: Hi,
I think its because they seem more charming, and kind towards you. But they would wouldnt they?. Can you imagine a man of 40 treating a woman of 40 the same way he would treat a 20 year old girl. If he was lucky enough to get one in the firs... (read in full...)
We broke up in Dec 05, we are in mediation, hes in another relationship but its dead, but he hasnt told her to move out, how can I get him to tell her its over ?
Q. This is difficult and knowing where to start even more so. Basically my ex and I split up December 2005 after 7 years together, we didn't split because we didn't love each other, it was because of a huge fight. We have a little boy and the last...
A. 17 April 2007: Hi me again,
Sorry if i sounded to harsh, but I really think you should find out the truth from this other woman. How can you start affresh if he is lying to you. And if he is, would you still want him, or would she. He is playing a dangerous game... (read in full...)
We broke up in Dec 05, we are in mediation, hes in another relationship but its dead, but he hasnt told her to move out, how can I get him to tell her its over ?
Q. This is difficult and knowing where to start even more so. Basically my ex and I split up December 2005 after 7 years together, we didn't split because we didn't love each other, it was because of a huge fight. We have a little boy and the last...
A. 17 April 2007: He sounds extremly weak, but how do you know he is telling you the truth.
If he really wants to get back with you, why is he still living with her. Personally I dont think he is being honest with you or her, he sounds like he is doing a lot of snea... (read in full...)
He went to buy an engagement ring... Then said we are moving too fast!!
Q. my boyfriend of 4 months went out on saturday to buy me an engagement ring (he thinks i don't know) we have been very happy and he has always been very loving and attentive. on sunday he left saying he needed some space and time to think and that he ...
A. 17 April 2007: Hi,
I wouldnt worry, he sounds like he is having the jitters.
Maybe one of his mates has said something, you know what men are like, they are put off very easily, and like to be in a pack.
Just give him some space, perhaps a little more than he... (read in full...)
Bf disrespects me but I am afraid of losing him, if I leave! Help!
Q. hi, my bf and i have been together for 3 years, he is 26 and i am 21, the problem is about 1 week ago i noticed he started going on to a chat website,this website is used for making friends, penpals, general chat or dating, and also allows u to use ...
A. 13 April 2007: Hi again,
I understand how you feel. Its miserable living with a person that shows no love or affection. Cant you see, he wont say sorry because quite simply HE'S not.
I cant believe you have no freinds, everyone has some dont they. And I dont bla... (read in full...)
My dad "touches" me but when I tell him no, he goes into a tantrum!
Q. Well I have had this problem since around age 12 I am 15 now. I do not like my dad touching me as he holds me like my bf on my hips want to hum him plevis to pelvis. He use to be worse by sometimes just opening the shower curtain on me and making ...
A. 12 April 2007: Hi,
Firstly, In think your Mum is not taking this seriously at all. What kind of a relationship did she have with her father to think this is normal behaviour. And you say she thinks this is because he is artistic. Alarm bells are ringing here, and ... (read in full...)
I am a small B-cup so what I want to know is do some guys prefer small breasts?
Q. Dear cupid, sorry i know this is a boring question. now i dont compare myself to my friends or anyone else for that matter as i would rather be just me. It seems though, that when we're out almost all the guys go for them as almost all of them are ...
A. 12 April 2007: Hi,
I have always wondered what's the facination with men liking huge breasts. I myself have a 34-f and I really hate them. I would much rather have small breasts, and not worry about having to tuck them in my waistband when i get olde... (read in full...)
How do I convince my shy wife to try a threesome?
Q. I am trying to get my wife to try a threesome. She is a little shy. How can i convince my wife to try it?...
A. 12 April 2007: Hi,
I agree with Birdy, what a great Guy. If only all men were like you............come to think of it a lot are.
Arn't we so lucky girls. ... (read in full...)
Bf disrespects me but I am afraid of losing him, if I leave! Help!
Q. hi, my bf and i have been together for 3 years, he is 26 and i am 21, the problem is about 1 week ago i noticed he started going on to a chat website,this website is used for making friends, penpals, general chat or dating, and also allows u to use ...
A. 12 April 2007: Hi,
Hate to say this honey but he was going to cheat on you. You are letting this man get away with treating you like dirt, so dont think for one minute that he loves you. Im sorry to be so negative, but would you treat someone you love like that... (read in full...)
She had a light period when she had unprotected sex! Could she still get pregnant?
Q. Ok, so someone i know just had sex with this guy, and they didnt use protection, BUT she had been on her period for 3 days, and it was light, is there a chance she could be pregnant?...
A. 12 April 2007: Hi,
Yes a very high chance, in fact i would get a test done straight away. I managed to have 4 periods with my first child and had no idea i was pregnant till I was nearly 6 months gone. Things like this do happen, and its definatly possible to have... (read in full...)
We are LD, we are engaged, and I do want to marry her, But shes talks so openly about sex with others, that Im wondering is she right for me ?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship now with my fiancee and sometimes she gets on the edge, we had a row and she told me that the fact that she loves me does not mean that when i get her upset she will not make mistakes of going out to look for ...
A. 11 April 2007: Hi,
On reading your question I thought you both must be quite young, but then on reading this again thought it quite sad.
The question should be, why would you want to marry her anyway. An engagment is a promise to marry and be honest and faithful... (read in full...)
He forced himself on me I asked him to stop but he just said its a laugh and I need to get a sense of humour! I cant see the funny side!?
Q. i went to meet my ex boyfriend yesterday because he wanted to talk to me so i thought if i met him outside id be safe. we went back to his house and the door was locked so we couldnt get in because he didnt have his keys. i asked him wat he wantedt ...
A. 5 April 2007: Hello,
Firstly! No means No. He has raped you honey.
However, you did put yourself in a very vunerable position with him!!. That doesn't excuse his actions however.
You really do need to talk to someone about this, because you dont want to put ... (read in full...)
I'm only 14, I told him I'm pregnant, He laughed at me and called me a slag, But I thought we were in love!!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 19 months and i feel i really love him now. i am only 14 and so when i got with him i was young and i didnt know what love was but now i feel i do. i didnt sleep with him till i became 14 because i thought i was too ...
A. 4 April 2007: Hi,
I know you must be so upset right now, but you need to tell your mum. I am not going to give you a lecture about whether you should keep this baby, as I am sure you will need to make your own mind up. But I would just say its difficult enou... (read in full...)
Why do men expect me to pay thier way when they find out my occupation!?
Q. Hello, I have a question. I'm not sure exactly how to ask it, but I am 20 years old, and typically go out to bars and such with my sister where sometimes I meet men. When asked about my occupation, the men tend to make jokes about me becoming ...
A. 4 April 2007: Hi,
Why do you tell them what you do anyway. If you only just met a person its none of their bussiness is it?.
Its sounds to me like you enjoy them knowing you are well off, but dont want the backlash.
Dont get me wrong, if I had done so well... (read in full...)
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