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writes: i've never had a girlfriend although i'm very popular amongst girls. i've tried to make my personality really good to make up for the bad looks and it works.well i've asked out few girls and got rejected. recently i really like my friend but not sure how she feels.thing is i'm recieveing heavy medical face surgery next year makin me look normal and by simulated pictures quite good lookin lol.i dont know to ask her now and be lucky or wait. i'm dead crazy over her!the surgery will put me out of action for 3month and keep me in bed. i'm not telling anyone about it. i'm 16years old.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 Hi,
I think you should go for it now. At least if she says yes, you will know she really liked you before your surgery. And I think that will make you more positive, about what it is you are having done. Also you will know she is an understanding person, and you wont go through this alone.
On the looks side, I think we all look at good looking people in admaration, BUT... really in the end it doesn't matter. I would rather go out with a guy who does not think he is gods gift, but has a great personality. Someone you can trust that will love you, is the most handsome person to me. I think a lot of ladies would rather have that.
Good luck with your op darling and I hope all your dreams come true XXXXX
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 its a tough situation to be in as if you ask her now and she says no,she may change her mind wen ur looks change and u will know she's quite shallow and doesnt really like u for who u are.but if u ask her after,and she says yes,will there always be that question nagging at the back of your mind??only you can answer that and it really is up to you.if she is close to you and knows you then maybe you could chance talking down and talking to her honestly,tell her how u feel and tell her about the surgery,then she will know wat is going on and you will know whether she really cares for you.good luck,you deserve to be treated like the person you really are x
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reader, O Connor +, writes (24 April 2007):
its a tough situation to be in as if you ask her now and she says no,she may change her mind wen ur looks change and u will know she's quite shallow and doesnt really like u for who u are.but if u ask her after,and she says yes,will there always be that question nagging at the back of your mind??only you can answer that and it really is up to you.if she is close to you and knows you then maybe you could chance talking down and talking to her honestly,tell her how u feel and tell her about the surgery,then she will know wat is going on and you will know whether she really cares for you.good luck,you deserve to be treated like the person you really are x
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 Looks and personality. They go hand in hand. If you are a fabulous looking, but dead boring shallow guy, forget it! If you have a great personality, but look like a troll, you will also have trouble. Looks are what first attracts us to someone, they are what makes the body respond to someone. Personality is what makes us LOVE someone. And once you love someone, they get better looking. It is amazing! And ordinary fellow will, after a while, start looking as good to a girl as Tom Cruise - if she loves him. My current boyfriend once looked at me and asked with awe, "when did you get so pretty?" I hadnt changed a bit, only his feelings for me had.
I suggest you wait till after the surgery. You will feel more confident in how you look and that confidence will come across when you ask a girl out. But your personality is what will win her. Stay sweet and all good things will come.
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (24 April 2007):
 I think that if she likes you already then she likes you already but it cant help to have a bit of "help" on your side.
I would say dont say anything till after the surgery, No matter what any one says there does have to be physical attraction there, it doesnt mean that you have to be the best looking person in the world but the person you like has to feel that you make them go all warm inside.
Try to get her in to visit you while your in hospital, talk to her, Share time with her and then when your all fixed make your move.
I am not a shallow person but like star signs (if you beleve in them) and things that make you compatible, and looks are one of those things, Personality does make you a beautiful person inside and out, love will come to you, good luck x
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reader, katrinadeon +, writes (24 April 2007):
 if this girl you are crazy over is worth your affection then you should definitely ask her out now.if you wait untill after the surgery and she says yes there will always be a seed of doubt in your mind as to wether she loves you for who you are or how you look.she should be able to see past your looks, think how great you will feel if she says yes. you know that she is interested in you! if she says no then im sorry but she is obviously not the person you thought she was. just remember, looks fade and change with age no matter how great you look but personality is a far more beautiful aspect in a human xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): You ask a tough question. I have no idea what your problem is that you are having surgery for. I think it would be difficult not to tell friends ahead of time if you are going to be "absent" for three months. You have to explain it to them, yourself, at some point. Remember, they were your friend before, so they would want to know about how you are. But, I would admonish you, do not be overly expectant of a drastic change in your life. Friends like you for other reasons than your looks. Your facial change may not change your personality...but, then, it might. If it gives you a better feeling about yourself, that is fine. Hopefully, you will not lose the qualities that made you friends before. Use your best judgement about when or what to tell them. You know them better than anyone. Best wishes.
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