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... Send *ELLULAH a private message | | | *ELLULAH's profile:Hi, I have been through loads in my life. Marriage break up, boyfriend break ups, and been a single parent. I have been treated really bad sometimes, but i think this is all to do with life. I dont hold grudges, and have a good sence of humour. I just love all my friends and family, and have loads of support from them. So i thought i could share that with a few of you. I have asked for advice a few times. You dont always want to hear it, but there are some smart people out there.
I have now found, after a lot of searching, my soul mate. But lifes not all a bed of roses for us. But he keeps me smiling, well most of the time anyway. |
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She cheated on me and I've tried to forgive and forget - will it always hurt?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me once, a week after we got together. She says it was only sex and doesn't know what got into her. She says it didn't mean a thing. She's been very open about it, apologetic, and has since then fallen in love with me as ...
A. 13 December 2006: The answer i beieve is yes,
It will always be in the back of your mind, but it will fade, honestly. People make mistakes, were human. Give her the benifit of the doubt, and see what happens. If she shows no sign of doing this again, then let it go. ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and I've tried to forgive and forget - will it always hurt?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me once, a week after we got together. She says it was only sex and doesn't know what got into her. She says it didn't mean a thing. She's been very open about it, apologetic, and has since then fallen in love with me as ...
A. 13 December 2006: The answer i beieve is yes,
It will always be in the back of your mind, but it will fade, honestly. People make mistakes, were human. Give her the benifit of the doubt, and see what happens. If she shows no sign of doing this again, then let it go. ... (read in full...)
My husband of 19 years has a dirty secret and I just can't bear to be near him anymore!
Q. My husband of 19 years told me on my birthday that he was at the police station and was charged with abusing someone 17 years ago( which he denies) since that night he told me we have not slept together. I cant get it out of my head. I have put on ...
A. 12 December 2006: Im worried, why has he told you after all this time. Although this must have eaten him up after all this time, especially if he was inocent, why now.
Has something triggered this off, because you have been together so long, i find it pointless tell... (read in full...)
I can't rid myself of this self-hate! Should I see a counselor?
Q. Mt ex split with me 18 months ago for someone else. Im over it now but I cannot stop blaming myself and feeling embarressed and ashamed of what happened. When I first got with him I knew he wasnt exactly the nicest boy in the world. But I fel...
A. 11 December 2006: Hi there,
Please dont upset yourself this way. Some things are not meant to be thats all!. You have done nothing wrong, apart from being soft hearted, and thats not a crime is it. You should not feel ashamed the relationship did not work out, this... (read in full...)
He broke up w/ me and is seeing someone else, but we still live together! I'm going mad!
Q. My BF of 3 years broke up with me. he was away for more than a month and the minute he came back he said to me that it is not working out. I didnt know wot to say, I am madly in love with him, all I did was cry. One minute later I heard him talking ...
A. 11 December 2006: Hi,
Sorry to hear you are being treated like this. I will only say what you will know already, sleeping with him is NOT a good idea. You are not in your right mind at the moment, and this will torment you. This has happened to me,and I was also like... (read in full...)
When my fiance and I tried our relationship again, she acted distant and cold, so we've split again. Can love really turn to hate?
Q. I recently split with my fiancee as she was unfaithful. After making the decision to take her back, she changed her ways completely for the worse. She acts totally unbelievable and uncaring. She would tell me she was in love with me more than ever, ...
A. 11 December 2006: Its so sad when love goes like this, and i really do feel for you.
I think she is doing this to you, because she can. She knows you will take her back no matter what. And you have done nothing to prove otherwise. Its hard to stand up to a pers... (read in full...)
What do I tell my 4-year-old to keep her safe from strangers?
Q. One day my 4 year old daughter and I were talking about kidnappers after watching a story on the news about a 5 year old little girl that was missing. I told her to watch very carefully because their are a bunch of sick, pervert, weirdos out there ...
A. 8 December 2006: Hi
I would think telling your Daughter about this has scared her from leaving your side anyway. Dont you think she was maybe a bit young to hear all that. I know you have to make them safe, but i believe if more parents spent more time with thie... (read in full...)
We are both married but cheating but I can't stand he is cheating on me with yet another woman!
Q. I am married for 18 years, my husband is a cruel man. He hits me. There is nothing but kids between us. I fell in love with my cousin's husband. He is married and has had lots of affairs. I loved him so much and I got very jealous when he spoke to a ...
A. 7 December 2006: Hi there,
In my oppinion, you should get rid of both of them. Niether sound worthy of you really, do they?. If a friend asked you the same question, what would you say?, More than likely you would tell them to ditch the loser's. I know its hard to b... (read in full...)
My best friend is in love with a married man! I want to help her!
Q. My best friend is inlove with a married man who has 2 children with his wife and is the stepdad to her other 2 kids. He lives about 1,000 miles away too. He keeps telling my friend that he can't leave his wife because of the kids, and i know this is ...
A. 29 November 2006: What a great pal you are.
I think your right, he will never leave his wife. Well he already said so really. Married men always say thay dont love the wife anymore, but how many really meen that, who knows?.
All you can do is try to get your fri... (read in full...)
How can I get my fiancee to fall so deep in love with me he won't ever want to be away from me?
Q. How can you make your guy your engaged to fall so deep in love with you and cant stand to be away from you? I know he loves me but it isnt like it use to be how can I make him just gush about me?... like cant stand when we arent togther and I miss ...
A. 29 November 2006: Stop being like you are at the moment. He may be feeling like this, because you are being in-secure.
You cant make a person fall in love with you, it has to happen natuarally. And he must love you, otherwise he would not have got engaged to you woul... (read in full...)
How do I find out who this phone number belongs to? It was in his phone and it's driving me crazy!
Q. My husband left me a few weeks ago I thought everything was fine, we are back together now but while we were seperated the mobile phone bill came and I noticed a number so I went though his phone and found it under the name jon so I phoned it and ...
A. 29 November 2006: Hi,
If you have instinct that something dosn,t add up. You are probably right. I think us ladies have a natural ability to catch out liar's. Saying that though, if he is back with you, maybe he wants to make it work. Even if he has done some... (read in full...)
I'm shy and I like this guy...should I just go for it? Advice, please!
Q. Hello. I'm a 16 year old shy girl. I can't help it really. There is this dude I like (well, by what I've heard about him) who's a grade ahead of me, and sometimes, I catch him looking at me. Sure, I know people can just look at each other, but I ...
A. 21 November 2006: Hi
Why not get to know him as a friend first. Maybe you can start bumping into him, so he can get to know you a bit. It will be very hard if you go steaming in and he rejects you. Personally i would take the softly softly approach. That way if he i... (read in full...)
Can I persuade him to leave his wife for me?
Q. I am dating a married man who I started as a friendship and now I am in love with him, and he says he is in love with me. I'm at the point that, yes I want him to leave his wife and be with me, but how do I accomplish this? I do believe him that he ...
A. 17 November 2006: Wow, the opinions you have been given are a bit harsh, you must have stired up some old feelings there. Of course it is better to meet someone single, but it dosnt always work like that. If he is in love with you, I presume he is un-happy at home. ... (read in full...)
My husband said he loves the other woman, but he sleeps with me. I told him to choose her or his family. Please help!
Q. posted alot of questions lately last one being that my husband has just told me he is in love with another women got some answers back from you guys so i spoke to him last night as we got intimate about a week ago i asked him why if he is he is in ...
A. 16 November 2006: Hi there,
You think he has ruined your life. Why do you give him that much power. If you do confront his girlfriend, and tell her whats been going on, he will more than likely say you are lying. It will all get very bitter, is that what you want... (read in full...)
I need to go on the pill but mom wont agree !
Q. hi, i was wondering if anyone (female) would have advice for me i am a 15 year old girl and lately my pms is incredibly painful. i have cramps for weeks leading up to my pms just to have that last up to 7-8 days of heavy flow with even worse cram...
A. 16 November 2006: Perhaps the best way to handle this could be to show her thease answers to your question. Mums will always want to look after their babies,you still are no doubt to her. My daughter is 26 and still my baby. But there is no reason why you should ... (read in full...)
Her breaking up with her BF was the best thing, but now my friend's devastated and I want to help...
Q. Today I got a text from my friend. She hardly texts me, but today she told me to go to her house for the first time. I got worried so forgot about my plans and went to hers. I went into her room and she was crying. She was really upset. She said her ...
A. 16 November 2006: She is really lucky to have such a brilliant friend. The best thing you can do, you are doing already. She will get over it, but it takes time. Its really hard to mend a heart thats broken. But she will get back to herself in no time. Just make sure ... (read in full...)
My husband said he loves the other woman, but he sleeps with me. I told him to choose her or his family. Please help!
Q. posted alot of questions lately last one being that my husband has just told me he is in love with another women got some answers back from you guys so i spoke to him last night as we got intimate about a week ago i asked him why if he is he is in ...
A. 14 November 2006: Hi, felt very sad reading your letter.My boyfriend was married when we got together, im ashamed to say. We had been best friends for years, before anything happened. Although no one believed this. He was truly misserable in his relationship, and i ... (read in full...)
he said I'm a geek and need to be more chavy. How much should I change about myself?
Q. right im not sure weather this is a relationship question or a fashion question lol. anyway i was talking to this lad and we were arranging to meet..he said "this wolud b easier if you were ma g/f but no offence bt ur such a geek...chav it up a bit ...
A. 13 November 2006: I cant believe anyone would want to be a chav in the first place. Dont go down that road, they are a fashion no-no. I class them the same as clown's and i dont like those either. Its not big and its not clever X... (read in full...)
How can I feel better about myself? I am so unhappy, yet he walks around all smug.
Q. please help me.. im losing it. Im sat at my desk at my office crying and dont know who else to turn to. I was seeing a guy at work for about a year but we have now split up. He has a girlfriend who he has been with for 3 years. i know it was awful ...
A. 13 November 2006: Hi, All the guys who answered your question are right. But if only it was that easy eh. Well you should at least try to take it all in, and not let him see you upset. I bet within a few weeks you will look at him and think "what the hell did i see ... (read in full...)
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