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writes:i went to meet my ex boyfriend yesterday because he wanted to talk to me so i thought if i met him outside id be safe. we went back to his house and the door was locked so we couldnt get in because he didnt have his keys. i asked him wat he wantedt meet me for n he sed he wanted me to go back out with him. i said id think about it n he sed fair does. there is a hill behind his house and he chalenged me to a race to see who could get to the top of it first. i got there first and i was stood waitin for him, as he got to the top, he ragged my trousers and underwear down, threw me to the floor and jumped on me. he had sex with me. i was asking him what he was doing this for and asking him to get off of me but he wouldnt he was gettin harder everytime i asked him to stop. we lasted about 5 minutes and he got off of me. i was soo releaved. he said it wasa laugh and i needed to get a sence of humour but i didnt find it funny. am i wrong to not of laughed. am i just stupid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): hello all you guys xxx
i would just like to thankyou all so much for replying to my question. i am really close to his big sister that is 22 and i have told her the story in full detail and she has made me an appoitment at a clinic near her house and she is going to take me there to get checked out and because he didnt use protection i am getting a pregnancy test before its too late. i dont have a family really i was put into care at 4 and have been with loads of foster parents so i am actually stayin with carla(his sister) at the moment
thanx for your concern i really apprieciate it xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2007): Hello hun,I am now 21 years old and I understand what you are going through because I went through something very similar myself when I was 15. Listen, it is not your fault and I am very impressed at how well you seem to be handling the situation. Like everyone else has told you, you are not stupid and I would like to add that you have a right, like every single person on this earth, to be respected. Please, take my advice very seriously because when I was raped at the age of 15, I never told anyone about it and blamed myself all these years for what had happened. Don't let the same thing happen to you. Now, I understand that this is very hard, but please, for your own well-being, tell your mother or your father and go to the doctor as soon as you possibly can. Going to the doctor is very important because you need to check that you are physically alright. The important thing is for you to discuss what happened, not just with your friends, but with a parent or a doctor who can help you understand what has happened. If this makes you feel uneasy, I found a website that you might find useful:http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/members.htmlor call this helpline (totally anonymous):01296 392468Good luck sweetie, you have much more support and strength than you think. Please let us know how it all goes, we are on your side, you are not alone. xxx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (5 April 2007):
 Hello,
Firstly! No means No. He has raped you honey.
However, you did put yourself in a very vunerable position with him!!. That doesn't excuse his actions however.
You really do need to talk to someone about this, because you dont want to put yourself anymore under stress than you obviously are.
You are only young and definatly under the age of concent, so he will be in trouble for that as well.
We dont know this guy and cannot pass judgment on him, as he is young maybe he didnt see it as a serious attack. But he needs pointing out to, that it IS.
How would you feel if you never said anything and he gets worse, and maybe attacks someone else. Could you live knowing that if you had stuck up for yourself, he wouldnt have done it again. Im not saying that he would, but you never know.
If you are telling the truth, and im sure you are. (Only a really wicked person would lie about this). You really have nothing to fear, because the law is on your side darling.
Tell someone you really trust, and they will help you through this. And for gods sake dont meet him again.
XXX much love
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reader, dizzy lizzie +, writes (4 April 2007):
no your not stupid an if my bf or ex-bf done that to me i would report him to the police
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reader, Melanne +, writes (4 April 2007):
 Hi I keep thinking about you and about what happened to you and I would really like to know if you are alright and how you are coping with things. Please could you write to me you can send a private message if you don't want to write publicly. I would just like you to know I care about you.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (4 April 2007):
 You're not stupid at all, quite the opposite. By coming here and posting what you did, you have shown that you are smart and that you know something wasn't right.
It was rape, like the others have said. Any man that forces sex is committing rape. If you say no, or you don't want it, or don't feel like it, or are being pressured and are feeling uncomfortable, then it's a huge problem if a guy still goes ahead with it. Any man that does you need to have nothing to do with, and consider reporting.
I don't know how close you are to your parents, but if you can talk ok to one of them then you should tell them about this.
Most important, please know that what happened isn't your fault, you didn't do anything wrong. It was him that did. Just stay as far away from him as you can in the future.
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reader, tommy2k7 +, writes (4 April 2007):
 Ths happened to one of my friends who repeatedly asked her friend to stop forcing himself onto her, but he wouldn't (she was 17, he is noe 25). Now, he is going out with my ex (who is 19), and I am fearful that he may do it again
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007): There is no funny side to this and your not stupid hun.
You need to tell someone about this, f you did'nt give your consent for this to happen. It is rape.I know it must be hard and you might not want to think of it s rape. But this boy needs to know he's wrong or he may do it again.
I hope everything turns out okay.
As someone else said. I'll pray for you.
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (4 April 2007):
 This boy raped you darling. You need to tell someone as soon as possible! I promise once you have told someone what happened you will feel better. Trust me when I say you did nothing at all wrong, you were right not to want him to do that, and you were right not to laugh it off – he was wrong in doing it.
Please tell someone, if you don’t come forward he could do it to someone else. Everyone will understand and be on your side I promise you that.
If you need to chat or need anymore advise just send me a message.
Take Care Darling
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reader, Melanne +, writes (4 April 2007):
I am so sorry. This guy raped you there was no excuse. He didn't listen to you when you said to get off you and he carried on forcefully.
You need to tell someone about this as soon as possible. Please don't bottle it in. When I was 8 I was raped and I didn't tell anyone till I was 13 he got away with it. Please don't let this happen to you. You need to tell someone either your parents, a teacher or a doctor. I would suggest you get to the doctor as soon as possible that way they still have the evidence that he did this to you.
I understand that you will be scared, but on the otherhand he cannot be let to get away with this or he will do it again to some other girl. You didn't give him your permission and he raped you. At the moment all things will be going on inside your head. You will be thinking was this my fault? There will be denial that says he didn't rape me he was just messing around. Then there will be a feeling of dirt and not feeling clean.
There is no two ways about this what he did was wrong and you need to strong about this to make sure it doesn't happen again to anyone else. I will be praying for you and I would like to know the outcome of this please.
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