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writes:Hey. I've been single for coming up to a year now. Its insane! I've had a few on off flings but nothing serious. It's annoying because the amount of times I go out clubbing every week and I also go to college, u would of thought i would have found someone surely?! But its weird cos there isnt actually anyone i fancy and normally i always like someone! I dunno what to do, maybe my lifes at a stand still at the moment with women. And another thing, for some reason, I sometimes think about my ex which i havent seen for over a YEAR! I just want to meet someone i really like and its not happening!!! heeelp
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reader, Just a Girl... +, writes (8 May 2007):
 huni, dnt panic, instead of looking for sum1 to be with why not enjoy being single n not having to worry so much about sum1 else. the thing is, if you look to hard you start not being able to see. And of course youll think about your ex huni, at sime point you were happy with her and had really strong feelings for her, they dnt just go away, even after a year.
good luck huni xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): Well it seems to me like you are having problems attracting guys. I think this is a good thing as you want to meet the right guy but the time will come when he comes.
Your life is not on a standstill as I have always thought that I would never get a boyfriend but now I have found love its all good.
So yeah i hope my advice is good and good luck for the future!!
xxx
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reader, huneygyrl  +, writes (4 May 2007):
 What's the rush in meeting someone? Enjoy it while you can. You're in college.
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (4 May 2007):
 It'll happen when you least expect it mate.
Just relax, your still young.
almost 3 months ago i met someone on the net, i didnt expect to, i just wanted to chat to people.
When you go out to a club, go to have fun and a drink, enjoy yourself.
be cool
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (4 May 2007):
 This is simple, you are trying to hard honey.
Not sure if this has happened to you, but its certainly happened to a lot of my mates. When you have a person in your life, you become more atractive to others. I dont know why you just do. I guess its because you are more relaxed, and not trying to attract anyone.
I dont know why people say dont go to clubs or pubs, you wont meet anyone. You could meet the love of your life anywhere. Even shopping in the supermarket, or on your holidays. Its luck, pure and simple.
Try to fill your life with interesting things, and it will happen, and you wont even see it coming.
Good luck, and for goodness sake cheer-up your only 20. XX
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reader, agony_emz +, writes (4 May 2007):
 awww i feel for you ive been single over a year now n i stil think about my ex its natural!!! i think you should stop looking its always harder that way to find the person of your dreams i stopped looking and then i met my ex and was smitten!! love will find you just dont give up hope!! dont just go out to pubs and clubs in hope of finding someone as you wont the best way is to be yourself go out with ur mates enjoy yourself n you never know what might happen!!
good luck x
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (4 May 2007):
 Pubs and clubs are not always the best places to meet a partner as they can be a bit of a meat market in the UK on a Saturday night. It is very hard to work out if you have anything in common amid the noise!
I never met anyone special while I was in college at your age to be honest. You will find that as you get older you will meet more compatible people - it is quality not quantity that counts. You shouldnt feel left out being single as it is much nicer than being stuck in an awful relationship that tears you apart. Just relax, be yourself and stop actively looking for a lady - the best relationship I ever had (and I married him!) came when I was definitely not looking.
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reader, kenny +, writes (4 May 2007):
 Don't be in to much of a rush to meet someone, you are still young. If when you are out in a bar, club, and you come across as desperate to meet someone the female sex can sense this, and can be a real turn off.
The likellhood is that you will meet someone when you least expecting it.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): I've been single for 7 years now. You learn to live with it. :-)
No, really - don't stress about it. Make fun of it. Relax.
(And don't expect to meet someone at a club. That rarely happens.)
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