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writes:I am a female...who is on a dating site...I get more attention than I can handle...and guys are literally proposing online...I am not sure why ...but they do....I met this one man....that out of them ALL I felt I clicked with....we talked a bit...then he disappeared for a few weeks due to family emergencies....so, he contacted me again....and wanted to talk to me...we have not met in person yet...but he was very passionate about his feelings toward me ..which REALLY shocked me.....he told me he wanted to marry me...then he tried to call me and I could not retrieve the phone due to working at the time...I let him know I was sorry I missed the call and that I would get back to him...which I did....but now...he is ignoring me....I am not sure....if this is a hard to get tactic...as he is VERY MUCH INTO ME...or is this his fear in play here? I do know for a fact..he told me multiple times..if he WAS NOT interrested he WOULD TELL ME ...as he IS VERY UPFRONT AND BLUNT....and he is not the cheating type either...so, tell me....what is going on in his head??? I can not even begin to imagine....as he was the one being forward...and I know he could have any girl he wants a he is quite the catch....please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): He's told you everything you want to hear, except the truth. What makes you think he is such a great catch, apart from the fact that he's the one whole has told you so? As for proposing without knowing anything about you - he thinks he'll get what he wants by pretending to be serious about you. Ditto for telling you he's a truthful upfront guy. Actually, he's the worst kind of player and will use you and discard you without a backward glance. Whilst it is possible to meet decent men on dating sites, unfortunately this particular type of predator find rich pickings and they will promise and say anything that gets them what they want. A conquest and a quick move-on to the next naive victim. Please write him off and don't even listen to his lies and premature protestations of love and commitment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): I'm sorry hun but even though it is flattering to think someone could instantly and insanely fall in love with you, it is NOT a sign of a healthy individual. Mentally healthy people get to know a person before they commit to a relationship with them.
I guarantee this guy is a player who is going to break your heart (if you let him). Dating sites are irressistable and enabling to these type of men....be careful who you trust and believe :)
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reader, romany  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 I'm sorry, i got to say, i think you have a predator on your hands here, he can say whatever he likes to you, your not to know any difference, and your probably one of several that he is saying it too, the disappearance for family emergencies, well.....that'll be a new love interest, then silence now, well.... that'll be someone who is able to pander to him, answer his calls, and be on demand to listen to his passion. He isnt playing mind games, and he isn't hurt, he is simply investing his time in a new batch.
My friend spoke to a guy for 2 years, they were closer than close, he came and met her, they had a lovely night, and she slept with him, because of the 2 years of talking, she was convinced he was open and honest, and he'd said he'd not made love with another woman in 18months, as she was all he could think about, he said, he'd been tested, and he was clear, she slept with him without protection, and in the morning, he was aloof with her, he went to the car to get something and left her in the hotel, with bill, 25miles from her home, she tried to call him, it went to answer phone, later that day, she tried to email him, he'd blocked her, he never contacted her ever again, all he left her with, was Chlamydia.
She put his email addresses into google, and this guy was on every dating site, swingers sites, dogging sites, unfortunately she done it too late.
I wouldn't even bother trying to work out what is going on in his head, you dint answer a phone call, and he has moved on, (he'll come back tho) I dont know any decent person who would ignore someone who couldn't answer a call because they were busy.
Google horror stories of online dating, heres just one i've found, which is more of a guide, with a few horror stories.
http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/PCWorld/story?id=4282014
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reader, $izZle  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Hi, I really don't know how long you have been seeing him but I do feel that if he is ignoring you like that well I don't think he is playing hard to get coz I don't hear anything happening ... since you did mention that he is upfront guy why not just ask him whats going on ??
honestly I don't think he is worth it ....besides if he was playing hard to get he would be enjoying it not hiding from you ...zZz
coz if he is upfront and blunt he would have no problems telling you about his fear ...
I feel that he is holding something back from you or hiding something ....
he might be a catch and all that jazz i agree with you but let me ask you do you think you can be happy with some1 that is ignoring you ....
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Online dating is a pandora's box. You can find a prince charming or you can find a toad.
Unless and until you meet him in a public place, and get to know him in person, and can build trust in a normal, slow paced way; you will be disappointed if you just let him into your life without knowing more about him.
Any man that proposes online out of the blue is either very desperate or crazy.
So if I were you, I'd be cordial and civil, nice and all. But you better really start learning more about him before you take him seriously.
Do not give him your personal information until you're certain he's trustworthy.
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