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26 August 2009: I am at work, and this young lady bursts through the door with double d cups overflowing a button up collared shirt. Her shirt was barely retaining her physical accomodations, and she was more than aware of the way she narrowly squeezed into her ...
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I need help about sex
Q. im seeing this lad and i told him im not a virgin, and we both want to have sex i dont want him to kno that im a virgin will he find out after having sex with me?? i cant tell him im a virgin either but i use tampons and ive been fingerd a few times ...
A. 8 October 2009: Being sexual with your partner isnt about being a virgin or non virgin, its simply just an expression of an emotion you can display physically.
It isnt going to matter if your a virgin or not. Since you are, wait on sex. I would suggest making s... (read in full...)
We put on gay porn and had sex am I gay
Q. Ok i have a problem, A few weeks ago I bunch of my buddies and I went out to a bar we got really drunk and one of my buddies decided to crash at my house. We were bored and put on porn, we weere just talking when we looked up and didnt ever realize ...
A. 8 October 2009: look here is the thing,
drunk or sober.. its still an impulse. Nothing to be ashamed of, or worried about.
Gender preference is a genetic predisposition its not, elected or something to that effect.
If you were just horny, and let me give y... (read in full...)
Why did he delete the photo album?
Q. I'm going crazy, i really hope someone can help me !. I'll try to write this briefly. I like this man who is 19 years older than me, i dont mind about the age gap. I heard that he liked me, and once when we were out he winked at me a lot, and ot...
A. 6 October 2009: 19 is a big age gap though, i mean really consider how much different life is at that point. compare who you were at 13 to being in your 20's, I mean its a different game entirely. That being said, the average distance in couples is 5 years... so... (read in full...)
I'm really frustrated that I'm a virgin at 20 when I had the chance to lose it to a really hot girl when I was a teenager!
Q. Dear Cupid, hi. long story short. back in the 7th grade, a girl asked me out. this girl was hot. big boobs, nice glowing skin, nice butt. she was one of those girls that was very sexual and flirtatious with the boys. anyway, she wanted to go out w...
A. 6 October 2009: bro youre making WAY! to big of a deal about this. Your looking at this girls as an object, your lusting for her physically, and you were 11... so, let that die. There are so many millions of beautiful women out there, who want a guy, and b... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant even though my boyfriend is on male enhancements?
Q. I just turned 18 and i think im pregnant because ive been having unprotected sex but my boy is on male enhancements do you think that will mess with his sperm and cause him to be shooting blanks because he has busted inside me many times over a ...
A. 6 October 2009: FYI, when he "busts" inside you, you are playing with fire. and why he is on male enhancements... I cant say, but most enhancement pills do INCREASE sperm volume, and count. so it doesnt decrease it, ... at all. I truthfully hope your not ... (read in full...)
Why would he want me to abort his baby if he loves me?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have an abortion because we are still young, and his mother does not approve of a girl who is not married to have a second child. I am confused whether he loves me or not, why does he want me to do abortion?...
A. 6 October 2009: I was almost an abortion as a child, and obviously I am greatful for being here. Its not a question of does he love you, its a fear of acceptance, you know, if your own parents dissaprove of you, thats a lot to swallow you know? I would... (read in full...)
Dreams of cheating on my boyfriend
Q. I keep having dreams about cheating on my boyfriend. Whether it's just kissing, or going all the way, it seems to be happening at least twice a week...and with different people! Every time I have a dream like this I wake up feeling physically sick. ...
A. 6 October 2009: I have always thought of dreams to be your subconscious mind trying to communicate on a conscious level.
So like, think of it as a metaphor, not like you have a dream that your tire explodes on the way to work, and thats a prediction. Think of... (read in full...)
I can't get over his dirty magazine habits!
Q. Hi All, i cant believe im am writing and asking for advice, ive always been the one giving out advice and never needed any before. I am one of these that tackle any problems i have had in my life and then just get on with it. But im at a loose en...
A. 6 October 2009: I just was wondering, What is it that bothers you about it all,
is it a threat of some sort, I just want to better understand why it troubles you in such a way.
-iydm... (read in full...)
How do you get a diagnosis for bi-polar?
Q. Does anybody familiar with bi-polar mental illness? I think, it might be the reason that my husband and children are very hard to live with. There is no really anybody ,who can diagnose it, because it is not as serious,when it comes with all ...
A. 31 August 2009: I am bi polar. I can give you info on it, ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of ending our relationship because of his lying about porn...what do you think? And how do I block websites like that?
Q. i have been having problems with my fiance , we moved last month and while i was moving his clothes i found a hidden porno in his sweatshirt.. i was more mad that it was hidden and he had told me when we got together he doesnt even like porn .. when ...
A. 31 August 2009: I am not an advocate for porn by any means. But I dont really think if you love this guy its worth it to lose him over it. well I am going to be "that stupid guy" that says it ok to look at porn. I want to you to really ask yourself this. ... (read in full...)
Why the hell would my boyfriends dad send me 7 friend requests on Facebook?!!
Q. I'm 24, been living with my boyfriend for 5 months now, been together for 5 years. I was checking my Facebook profile the other day when I was surprised to get 7 friend requests from my boyfriend's dad! Why would anyone need 7 Facebook acc...
A. 31 August 2009: My dad is my fiances facebook friend, ... I dont think its a huge deal. Its online socail networking, its not really anything to be concerned with. Unless the message was like, hey sexy. lol -iydm... (read in full...)
I don't want a thrillsome threesome with my friend!
Q. Me and my bf has been talking about haveing a three some...and i was okk with it so i also have a gf I'm biisexual and my gf was my bestfriend 1st soo now my bf is talking about haveing a three some with her i don't feel rite with him haveing sex ...
A. 31 August 2009: its not really fair to be jealous of him sleeping with someone else when you have a girlfriend... thats kind of like cheating.. That being said you DONT have to comply with a request for a threesome. Tell him flat out, you dont want to incor... (read in full...)
B/f convinced he's not the one for me anymore
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years for the first couple of years we got on great we never had a crossed word and we fell deeply in love with each other. But for the last year our relationship has been very up and down and my boyfriend belives ...
A. 31 August 2009: Love can fade, it kind of ebbs and flows. If its 0n a down swing its just one of those things you have to wait for things to come back for.
If he really feels like you could do better thats his insecurites speaking. Either that or sad to say, ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to make me feel guilty for turning down sex? His use of words were inappropriate and put me off!
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend and I were hanging out on Saturday and I wanted us to sit down and have a grown-up conversation. I have to admit (I'm a chatterbox). Anyways, it was good because we brought a lot of things out in the open. In between that we were ...
A. 31 August 2009: Well, being denied is embarassing. and people always act the worst when they are embarassed. Keep that in mind.
I dont think he is trying to guilt trip you, just mentioning that it didnt offend him. You know what I mean.
I dont think its anythi... (read in full...)
Somebody to talk to when she has nothing else to do?
Q. Ok readers, i've got this little problem. I first started gettin to know a women over the net, it was all great at first, contact 24/7, she refers to me as babe, sexyful, and says she's misses me when she hasn't been able to chat to me. Thing is, we ...
A. 31 August 2009: Sounds like a little hard to get cat and mouse game. If she gave you the number, thats a go ahead my friend. Its a green light contact me whenever you want. You know? So I would suggest keep trying to talk to her. Dont be too aggressive with... (read in full...)
Making comments about when I was skinny..now he ignores me!
Q. my boyfirend made a comment the other day about my weight. He said I looked so good when I was skinny. The other night I was eating a piece of chocolate and he said your never going to lose weight if you keep treating yourself to sweets. He used ...
A. 31 August 2009: Weight gain is tricky. I mean, being overweight it difficult. Maybe he is saying it not only for physical attraction, but most likely for your well being as well. My fiance has been gaining weight , and she hates it, so together we both started ... (read in full...)
I want sex all the time!
Q. I first off I know that this is not a medical site but I am too self conscience to ask my doctor about this. I have a bf and we have a great relationship (been daing for 18 months) our sex life is beyond wonderful, but during the last 5 months or ...
A. 31 August 2009: I dont think you should worry honestly, nymphomania is such a rare "illness" Try not to stress. Explain to your boyfriend that you just require a little extra attention. There is nothing wrong with it. Sex is an impulse. A human NEED not desire ... (read in full...)
Any ideas what it is?
Q. Hi there i have a dry patch of skin on the shaft of my penis toward the base. it started out as a an angry spot that subsided, and dry skin replaced it. its about the size of the top half of my thumb from the knuckle. its rarely itchy, but when i ...
A. 31 August 2009: I would just head to a doctor for a quick vd test.. If lotions arent healing it as if it were dry skin that sounds concerning. Good luck -iydm... (read in full...)
Went snooping through all of his things and found stuff from his past - do I have a right to be upset?
Q. I need to know if this is a *me* problem that I should work on personally, or if I need to talk to my boyfriend about it too. I'll apologize for this being so long now. I just have a lot to say about the issue at hand. This morning, I have no i...
A. 31 August 2009: Well, That one is in depth. I would suggest confronting him on the issues as in, why do you still need these folders and files? I mean. Coming from a guys perspective, I can say that I do still have things of my exes, I keep them all in the same ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my girlfriend get in the mood for sex?
Q. My girlfriend seems to be loosing the need for sex. these last few months, i haven't been able to turn her on and i don't know why? we used to do it all the time but she just isn't in the mood. Is there anything i can do to get her in the mood?...
A. 29 August 2009: SHE IS 16!!!!!!!!!! sex drive shouldnt be an issue its called spontaneity bro, use it.Be random, you cant get her in the mood because you are most likely doing the same routine, Kiss, caress, get on top.. I mean. It gets tired. You have to... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with b/f any longer but can't make it without him!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years now and we have a 3 year old son together. He tells me he loves me all the time but he gets mad so easy and yells at me and calls me a bitch. We argue alot and i dont like my son to see us argue. ...
A. 29 August 2009: How severe are the arguments. Because fights happen, friends fight. Family fights.. I mean its not really a crisis. But if you dont love him, you dont love him. You cant fake or force love. You have a child, but if the child wasnt anticipated it d... (read in full...)
Married & upset that younger lover has someone else
Q. I met my husband Jack about 15 years ago, he was my first love and first relationship, I loved him for years, but he could not take a decision about us, being afraid of comitment and financial pressure. we were young by then, early or mid 20s...
A. 29 August 2009: wow, that is quite the mess youve got there. Ok youre at an emotional conflict, being that you are married but your not exclusive, you are CHEATING keep that in mind. YOU ARE HAVING AN AFFAIR. Now that being said, Sam is a great guy but you... (read in full...)
Is 2 weeks of dating too soon to express my concerns about his facebook?
Q. I am seeing a guy i met on the internet, he has many female friends on facebook who are younger and prettier than me. I am jelous of this, and wonder why he needs to flirt with them? I dont know if hes met any of them. We have only been together for ...
A. 29 August 2009: thats pretty fresh to be jealous, its pretty fresh to discuss the future. I would suggest being more casual about it. And sort of mock the girls profiles. Make it playful, but still be half serious. Something to the effect of. "Oh look a... (read in full...)
How can she like him after he held a knife to her throat?
Q. Hey i like this girl and we get along rly well we went out a couple of times and than her ex bf comes back along and she now only wants to be friends now that doesnt rly bother me as shit happens what i want to know is how can she still like him ...
A. 29 August 2009: Girls go back to the bad situation because of the maternal instinct. The want to change or to help them. Its even worse when the are in love. You know what I mean. The girl with the drunk, the girl with the hitter, the girl with the cheater... t... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is cheating with his employee
Q. I think that my boyfriend of nine years has been sleeping with one of his female employees. He has been driving her around to and from the workplace for over a year. I can see that they have become close. I have told him that i cannot cope with this ...
A. 29 August 2009: You.. I can see both sides of this. On one hand, he is likely being unfaithful just because of the circumstance. On the other hand. Your creating a lot of situations mentally, you got suspicious, went back to your house, you blew u... (read in full...)
He keeps getting into these little moods all the time and I don't know what to do!
Q. Okay, so here's the deal.. My boyfriend and I have been dating for around 2 1/2 years. But he gets in these little moods all the time.. Like he just ignores me and is mean to me for no reason at all... For example, Last night He told me he was going ...
A. 29 August 2009: Relationships tend to go all over the place, and you do fall into a routine. And you can even get sick of each other. You know, maybe this is one of those phases where you have to WORK to be in love again. You know? I mean, if you doing anyth... (read in full...)
I'm confused! I don't want to be gay!
Q. Dear ppl, Lately I've been thinking about my sexual orientation, I used to watch porn and I stopped because I hated it and I felt disgusted every time I do it. I watched lesbian porn and It turned me on but I HATED it afterwards. Straight pornogr...
A. 29 August 2009: why do you fear homosexuality? You say you dont want to hear being gay is ok, but you clearly have a stigma... so why? It seems like your a victim of environment. Something surrounding you be it the neighborhood, the campus, or you... (read in full...)
Do you ever forget your first love? Your ex?
Q. Hi! do people ever forget their first love? is anyone still in love with their ex? is anyone still friends with their ex? please share your stories on this post! Id love to hear it an it would help to know im not the only one whose lost their first ...
A. 29 August 2009: No I dont think you ever fully get over your first love.
I was head over heels in love for three and a half years. I lost her and still think about her to this day. I still can remember what it felt like to hold her and kiss her.
You just have... (read in full...)
Husband said "you don't understand me, I don't understand you..I want out!"
Q. I'm 26, my husband's 28, I'm originally from Ontario, he's from Michigan. I met him when I was working in Michigan centre over 4 years ago, we got into a relationship and it was mostly good. Like all relationships it had its ups and downs. We...
A. 29 August 2009: The differences in culture are so minimalist its not even relevant. Thats a bull shit cop out. I am from michigan I live twenty minutes from the canadian border. I used to drive up to windsor to play in some of the bars. I tried to get a job at ... (read in full...)
Attracted to teacher way more than I should be
Q. I am 16, and I have always had an issue with falling for the wrong guy. I've never had an issue called 'True Love' until my freshmen year when I fell for a jr, ever since then I haven't been able to stop thinking about him even though I moved aw...
A. 29 August 2009: Ok settle down first off, your angst is dripping from each paragraph. Secondly, developing an infatuation with a teacher is normal. Everyone has done it, from myself to van halen. Here is the situation, it is a crush. Its an older person, its an a... (read in full...)
I want to break off with this jerk!
Q. Hi everyone, Please help me to stop being angry and more importantly- to stop caring. I have known this man for nearly five years. We went out for two and a half, one of which we lived together. I found out in 2007 that he was cheating and lyi...
A. 29 August 2009: All you really need to do, is remember that you are so much better than this waste of time. Think of it in an arrogant perspective and actually legitimately know that you are worth the world and some guy out there is going to love you more than yo... (read in full...)
Husband hasn't done anything wrong but I want to leave him
Q. We have been married 22 years, and have three children 20, 17, and 14. I have always wondered if he was the right choice, even before we got married. I was an alcoholic in recovery when we met (I'm still struggling), and it seemed like the right ...
A. 29 August 2009: Honestly, if its dead to you. There is no point in putting emotional strain on yourself and causing unneeded anxiety. Alcohol being a depressant, may very well alter your perspective. What is it that causes you to feel so unhappy. And wou... (read in full...)
I am a virgin, but an ex took the "cherry" from me in another way, should I tell future boyfriends?
Q. So, I know there's lots of posts around here about men and women being uncomfortable about their partners sexual history, and usually everyone just says to either not ask, or not give out details. I've never had sex before, so I am a virgin. I h...
A. 28 August 2009: Sexual pasts only causes unneeded friction. Seriously its like a relationship demon, it haunts you.
Especially if one personal is sexually expierenced and the other isnt.
Dont bother, if a guy is petty enought to care that you broke your cherr... (read in full...)
Looks like my wife is cheating on me, what do you think?
Q. is my wife cheating on me she has been in a job for 12 years she used to come home at 5:30 on the dot till lately she has not been getting in till about 6 reason i post this because my mate went into the news agents were she works and the bosses son ...
A. 28 August 2009: I hate that feeling of being paranoid, and like you cant trust anyone. Here is what I would suggest. Can you send a spy of some sort.
Some one of your friends she doesnt know to just sort of observe.. I know that its shady to have to do so.. But... (read in full...)
What are your stories on getting revenge on a cheating ex?
Q. I would like to hear some revenge stories for a cheating ex and the affair partner... I promise I am not planning on pursuing anything... just want to live vicariously through your story. So what is your best revenge story?...
A. 28 August 2009: Well, I am fortunently far too petty to be mature and deal with situations like an adult. I dated a girl once who was fun, she was attractive, but she also was a caniving bitch. When we I left her and apparently broke her heart she decided to t... (read in full...)
How can I make our time together even more romantic?
Q. Hai, My girlfriend is coming round my place very soon, Last time when I was with her we relaxed in this hammock in the forest near by, This then gave me the brilliant idea of having the same sort of thing near my place, Seeing as school starts back ...
A. 28 August 2009: Elliot ,
Here is the deal man. Being too romantic can look staged. Think about it. If a girl comes over you have rose petals leading up to a dinner table with a bouquet on the table,
sensual jazz cascading in the dimly lit background...
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How can I let her know that I'm willing to wait until she is ready for us to be together again?
Q. My girlfriend and i broke up the other day on good terms after a long good relationship. She says she just needs to figure some things out, we are still friends and still see eachother. I'm just wondering how to let her know that I am willing to ...
A. 28 August 2009: I agree with anon over here..
Serioulsy you cant appear desperate, and lonely. Why would ANYONE want that? If you sit idle and wait for someone to say ok I want you back now..
Thats kind of twisted. Think, like, you are on reserve or somet... (read in full...)
Was I right to break my girlfriend's ex's leg and jaw because he used to hit her and cheat on her?
Q. look im a 15 year old kick boxer. i been with this girl ever since elementry i really like her. I broke her ex boy friends jaw and leg because he cheated on her and he hit her a couple of times. am I right or wrong....
A. 28 August 2009: I dont think you were in the wrong,
You reacted harshly, and its not your battle to fight, and how credible is abuse in elementary school . What the hell, did he push her in the sand box?
Seriously dude, its badass that you are a kick boxer... (read in full...)
Is there a way to fake your virginity?
Q. hi i would like to know if there's any women out there that have lied about being a virgin (especially if anyone's married a Muslim guy) but really they were not and have had to come up with a way to fake loosing their virginity to a man on their ...
A. 28 August 2009: ok, well depending on how many people you have slept with and the elasticity of your vagina, there is a serum called
"Liquid Virgin" it tenses up the muscles of your vaginal walls. You could do that,
I mean, as far the hymen breaking and all... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my son may not actually be mine
Q. I heard off a good friend of mine that my son is apparently not mine. When I met my girlfriend about 5 years ago she was a single mum, who had a 3-year-old son. Two years later, we moved in together, our life was good, we then decided to try...
A. 28 August 2009: whether he is yours BIOLOGICALLY is irrelevant. You are the dad.
He loves you, your fiance may not respect you if she truly was unfaithful.
But just because your say may not have been concieved by you, doesnt make him any less of your child.
... (read in full...)
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