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I'm a devout believer in God. I consider myself a Truth-seeker, and do my best not to Judge, but to love.
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How long should I wait for her?
Q. I met this girl a year ago, things didn't work out via pointless drama since then, and she moved away for school. (She was moving away anyway) As we were friends before and decided to continue being friends we kept tabs on each other occasionally. ...
A. 9 March 2011: That's my predicament. ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for her?
Q. I met this girl a year ago, things didn't work out via pointless drama since then, and she moved away for school. (She was moving away anyway) As we were friends before and decided to continue being friends we kept tabs on each other occasionally. ...
A. 8 March 2011: Haha, no she isn't my first, but thanks for clarifying anyway ^^ We both are at a point where we are tired of people's games, drama, players etc. So before we started to get closer again, we were both on the same page from the get-go and the idea... (read in full...)
Do I wait and offer him loving support?
Q. My Ex and I broke up after a year around 6 weeks ago - it was mutual and based on a breakdown in communication - we both agree we threw in the towel too early due to fears of rejection on both our parts. He contacted me 2 weeks ago we had a long ...
A. 24 July 2010: As I am in a vaguely similar situation, I wouldn't mind help from someone like you. It's amazing that you have this between you, for I am not so lucky.
I am in agreement with Peter. Show him that you are waiting for him, and through that your lov... (read in full...)
Tips on stressed out girlfriend?
Q. So question- When my girlfriend is stressed out, she usually gets pretty cranky. It's really difficult to talk to her, and the usual consolation to typical complaints (I've been working forever, or I'm gonna fail these tests) don't work. Not ...
A. 20 October 2009: Ugh so apparently, she has pushed herself back to the point where she hardly feels anything for me because of the way I treated her.
Tips on how to work with this? Anything I shouldn't do or say?... (read in full...)
Tips on stressed out girlfriend?
Q. So question- When my girlfriend is stressed out, she usually gets pretty cranky. It's really difficult to talk to her, and the usual consolation to typical complaints (I've been working forever, or I'm gonna fail these tests) don't work. Not ...
A. 18 October 2009: Thank you all so much ^^ now it's after the fact, and as it turns out, I'm just now looking at your advice and realising I did it all wrong. She has pushed herself away a little because I was a bit... too needy. Or at least, gave off that vibe.
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Is he just being polite or is he interested?
Q. ok so here it goes. everyday when i walk to campus i pass this really cute guy. each time we pass each other he makes eye contact with me and smiles. is he interested? or is he just being polite? im not good at reading guys signals so i need some ...
A. 8 October 2009: Hey no reason to be wise about it pinktopaz. Opening up a conversation with someone whom you only meet in the hallway is usually the tricky part. But I consider it to be fun. It's part of the thrill and romance of being single, Saying hi, and b... (read in full...)
Do you think if I'm patient she will realize I'm the right guy for her?
Q. Im head over heels in love with this girl who lives on the same dorm floor. I spend about 4-5 hours a day with her. We talk about everything... her relationships with her family, how high school was, sports, books, music, movies, literally everythi...
A. 7 October 2009: Well now, fortunately we have more information on what she wants to accomplish with her relationships, as well as standards. This is still a little tough however, so you'll have to be careful with how you act. Guys? What do you think?
Perso... (read in full...)
Do you think if I'm patient she will realize I'm the right guy for her?
Q. Im head over heels in love with this girl who lives on the same dorm floor. I spend about 4-5 hours a day with her. We talk about everything... her relationships with her family, how high school was, sports, books, music, movies, literally everythi...
A. 7 October 2009: For sure, but it wouldn't hurt to follow through with CodeWarriors advice. Test her reactions with the 'I'm looking for other girls' line.
-Hero... (read in full...)
Is he just being polite or is he interested?
Q. ok so here it goes. everyday when i walk to campus i pass this really cute guy. each time we pass each other he makes eye contact with me and smiles. is he interested? or is he just being polite? im not good at reading guys signals so i need some ...
A. 7 October 2009: If a guy is looking at you, and smiling- I'll be shocked if he doesn't like you. Most guys, don't even know they are doing it. And if he doesn't, he's a whack job lol
-Hero ^^... (read in full...)
Should I say something? I'm super afraid of getting hurt.
Q. So me and this guy have been dating for just a little over a month. Unfortunately, somethings happened about a week after we got together that put some distance between us and we werent really able to see or talk to each other. As a result, we ...
A. 7 October 2009: Hmmm. This is tricky, because I can totally relate with the trust-issues and with the fear of being hurt. In the sense that you are afraid of the idea, and have become obsessed with it. If he doesn't know about your feelings, then you need to... (read in full...)
Do you think if I'm patient she will realize I'm the right guy for her?
Q. Im head over heels in love with this girl who lives on the same dorm floor. I spend about 4-5 hours a day with her. We talk about everything... her relationships with her family, how high school was, sports, books, music, movies, literally everythi...
A. 7 October 2009: First of all, I think what you have planned is the right idea. But it's the right idea under a few circumstances. One of those being- that she likes you. Not like 'that' so much, but as a person. Which, I'm sure she does, as you are good friends.
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She's upset but still talking to me what do I do now?
Q. So here's the thing. When you make your girlfriend or wife mad, and even after you've talked it out, she still is upset, what's the best way to handle that situation? Being affectionate or lovey is obviously not the way to go, and I know that sayi...
A. 2 October 2009: Well, okay. I'm not a piercing kinda guy. Body piercing wise. It just doesn't do it for me, and more often than not it is a turn-off. She went ahead a long time ago and got two surface piercings on her chest, and of course it made me upset. But we ... (read in full...)
How can I accept he loves/likes me?
Q. I have been in a relationship for just about 2 weeks with my boyfriend, but we had been hanging out for about a month before that. Before all of this we knew each other years ago and then he moved away, came back, but we never got back in touch til ...
A. 2 October 2009: Good to hear ^^ keep us posted and good luck!
-Hero... (read in full...)
How can I accept he loves/likes me?
Q. I have been in a relationship for just about 2 weeks with my boyfriend, but we had been hanging out for about a month before that. Before all of this we knew each other years ago and then he moved away, came back, but we never got back in touch til ...
A. 1 October 2009: ^^ Mrs. Anonymous you're just fine. These feelings you are having are quite normal after going through something like that.
First off, kudos for recognising where these emotions stem from.
Second, I understand what it's like to have bad habi... (read in full...)
I want to know where our relationship is going
Q. ive been seeing this guy for two years and our relationship is okay for the most part when I asked where was I in his life he replied and said that i'm what he wants and needs but he is afraid of losing control instead of being happy if left me more ...
A. 29 September 2009: Hey, hey now. Guys need a measure of 'control' in their relationships. Now, I'm not saying we want to meticulously govern what you think, feel, and act. What I am saying is that guys need a control on where things go. On his future. Wants to know if ... (read in full...)
Feeling lost about myself
Q. Hey guys. I know this is going to sound a little crazy but have you ever felt like you werent really you? i mean for me i fell like the world is going so fast but im just standing still and not included in it. I honestly dont know why i fell this ...
A. 25 September 2009: ^^ there is nothing wrong with you. I know how you feel. It's a sad, sort of feeling. For me it was just a void I had to jump. Something I had to ignore. I nasty side of me that I needed to let go into someones shirt or shoulder. From day to day, I ... (read in full...)
Did she just use me sexually and will she ever come back to me?
Q. I know this is a long post, but I feel all the information in it is necessary. A year ago in August, I started my second year of college. It was at this time I met her. I had known her from when I was in elementary and middle school-she was a gr...
A. 25 September 2009: Don't worry about running into him. What could happen? Will it be awkward? Sure. But that doesn't mean you have to sit the guy down and talk with him. Just walk away. If he confronts you, just throw up your hands and walk away. You'll be fine. You ... (read in full...)
Did she just use me sexually and will she ever come back to me?
Q. I know this is a long post, but I feel all the information in it is necessary. A year ago in August, I started my second year of college. It was at this time I met her. I had known her from when I was in elementary and middle school-she was a gr...
A. 24 September 2009: From the looks of it... I hate to say it but- she did. Why else would she have been with you? My advice (as hard as it will be for you to swallow) would be to let her go. Think of it this way. Say you did wind up in a relationship wit... (read in full...)
I crave being wanted but then feel I don't deserve it! How do I fix this?
Q. This isn't exactly a relationship question, although I'm quite sure my relationship (or lack thereof) with my father affects my relationships with men. I've hardly had any contact with my dad for my whole life. He hasn't wanted much to do with ...
A. 23 September 2009: ^^ the second step is easy. The second step is finding the source of your issue. So here is what I prescribe: go out to some place solitary and quiet. Once you're there sit down, and relax. Gather yourself together, then examine yourself, and ... (read in full...)
I adore my girlfriend but she is pushing me away
Q. hi. i have a slight delema.Me and my girl friend are 15 and we've been going out for a month now.i absolutely adore her. And she says she loves me and thinks about me all the time. But she doesnt show it.We just hug and/or a quick kiss. Nothing ...
A. 18 September 2009: It's all gonna be good. These Aunts gave good advice, it'll be cool man.
-Hero... (read in full...)
Ever since we had sex my g/f has been acting distant!
Q. Hi im Zee. And my question is regarding me and my girlfriends relationship. We are both 15 and we've going out for over 2 months. Things have been going great.Untill the pst week. 5 days ago we had our first sexual experience with each other and it ...
A. 17 September 2009: Mmmm. I have seen this sort of thing happen with people so young before. I would argue that she is feeling a little... well... overwhelmed. Or maybe even scared of what she did. At this point, she could be thinking anything 'is he right for me? was ... (read in full...)
Do the aunts feel the love here?
Q. I have been seeing a married man for the past 14 months we have great sex but we get on well together and have similar interests, i am separated from my husband. The man I am seeing has never told me he loves me nor have I told him that I love him. ...
A. 17 September 2009: Also keep in mind, he is definitely cheating on his wife. Say, he did divorce his wife, and marry you... then cheats on you. The issue is here, as soon as you turn the wrong way, people expect you to at every opportunity.
I suggest sitting ... (read in full...)
Addicted to lying: how do I stop?
Q. I seem to have a problem lying. I'm a bad liar. You can totally tell when I'm lying. I want to stop and have tried multiple times but in the end I always cycle back. It's not even about big things, it could be something small like I didn't lock the ...
A. 16 September 2009: Okay. So if your parents are unreasonable, then stick with your friends. I know what it's like having ridiculous parents (well, sorta) because I have friends who grew up with them, and I have interacted with them as well and there is little most can ... (read in full...)
Addicted to lying: how do I stop?
Q. I seem to have a problem lying. I'm a bad liar. You can totally tell when I'm lying. I want to stop and have tried multiple times but in the end I always cycle back. It's not even about big things, it could be something small like I didn't lock the ...
A. 16 September 2009: I suggest telling your best friends that you're done with lying, and that you want to turn yourself away from habitually lying.
If they are good friends, they will help you, and you're parents and siblings will be MORE than willing to help you... (read in full...)
I'm shy does anyone have tips on talking to guys?
Q. I am 20 years old and am always getting lots of random guys smile at me and even say hi when I just walk past them. This could happen at lots of places whether it be at work, uni, the shops, supermarket, cafe, beach etc... The thing is though ...
A. 15 September 2009: The best thing you got going for you- is that guys are actually interacting with you. Which is great because most people don't have the courage to talk to guys or don't believe in themselves enough to justify talking to them. But you don't seem t... (read in full...)
He ignored, cheated and still ignored
Q. Sorry this is long, its just i really need advice: My bf and I had been together nearly 2 years and we lived together for a year and half. Exactly 6 months ago he had to move bk to the US from UK and ended up getting a job in Aspen. Everythin...
A. 14 September 2009: I think you did. From the looks of it, he has changed. Alot. Which is awful and it pains me to read this, because what he did was so selfish, and weak, especially because he kept it all to himself and didn't tell you out and out that he was filling ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends best male friend calls him all the time, even at night. Am I over reacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2yrs and in that time his best friend who is a boy calls him upto 10 times a day, whether he's at work with me, anytime even at night he calls him. Its really annoying, am i over reacting ?...
A. 12 September 2009: Hahaha no, that just sounds really irritating. Is he talking with his friend, and neglecting you? Or is he like 'omg not this bloke again' You aren't overreacting, if someone is calling him that much, then wow. Dumb lol you're fine love. -H... (read in full...)
Found a great guy but cant open up to him. Any advice?
Q. What do I say to him? Where do I go with this? I met this guy about a month ago. We went out for coffee and on the first date we clicked instantly. He's actually everything I've been looking for; smart, funny, handsome, a great listener and ver...
A. 11 September 2009: Softtouch (again) lol hit the nail on the head. I wanna just chime in and say that if he IS a great guy as you say he is, then he will certainly wait and have patience.
And feel comforted too! There are not that many of those great guys out ther... (read in full...)
I'd like to give him a romantic surprise to make up for our lost time
Q. Ok so i need some ideas and was wondering if anyone can help. I am away at college and will be going home for Christmas and was wondering what i should do or give to the love of my life. We have been together as a couple for only five months but ...
A. 10 September 2009: You're in a great position right now, because you really have the opportunity to spark things up a notch. Guys like surprises (or at least I do anyways), so just know that whatever you do, it will be good.
First thing you need to figure out, is ... (read in full...)
Every kind of relationship I have FAILS! Should I give up now, or could there still be hope?
Q. dear cupid, i am a complete and utter failure at every attemp of relationship i shoot for. whether that is a geunine relationship, fling, one night stand, or any thing not mentioned i crash and burn like the hindenburg and titanics bastard love ...
A. 9 September 2009: There is always hope. If I was in your position (which I was), then I would just give up actively trying. The best thing to do I have found is to let girls come to me. If you're a college kid, awesome. Girls are all over the place in college.
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She likes me? Or just likes messing around with my head?
Q. Okay so there is this girl i met online and we have been talking and i told her i loved her she was fine with it but didn't say anything to me, so we kept being friends but three weeks ago i asked her if she liked me she aviod the question every way ...
A. 9 September 2009: Hm I would say that she does in fact 'like you.' Or at least, have some kind of attraction for you. Thing is though, LDRs are tricky, so that may be what is on her mind. Bring that one up and see what she says. In any case, we do know that she wants ... (read in full...)
I need some help sorting out this friendship...
Q. Hey I need some help sorting out this friendship...to make it work like it should be. Well we've been friends for nearly 2 years at first we were great but then things got weird. I dont quite understand but I feel im being treated very diffe...
A. 8 September 2009: Hmmm. Well first off, you aren't wasting your time with him. You don't waste time with people you enjoy being with (hanging out, friends or family or your pet goldfish 'bubbles,' doesn't matter because you enjoyed spending time with them), and if ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's interested? If so tips please?!
Q. I'm currently a senior student at school and today I've been noticing glances from this cute guy in my class. About 6 times actually in a 30 min period. He sometime kept looking at me but sometimes quickly looked away. When I laugh he would look at ...
A. 4 September 2009: Hahaha, no you don't look weird at all, and you know this because when you laugh he smiles. This is a very good, and a genuine sign that he likes you. Basically, it means when you laugh he can't help but smile. Go talk to him! Ask him anything, or ... (read in full...)
21 year old female suffering from depression
Q. I suffer from depression and sometimes have episodes where i get violent with others and i even hurt myself sometimes. I am a very emotionally weak person and the people around me try to help but I do things to keep them away. Even if it takes for ...
A. 4 September 2009: On a note that doesn't have to do with medications- I'm a person who believes that the only person who controls you, is you. You push people away. Why. Because you don't want to hurt them? The beauty is, nobody is perfect. You have confliction on ... (read in full...)
How can I be confident again and make my dreams come true?
Q. Over the past few weeks I have been feeling really emotional due to the fact that I feel worthless and as though I have nothing in life. I am coming up 19 years old and have nothing to show for it. I went to college for two years but now I have ...
A. 4 September 2009: I want to add to what he was saying, in that you DO have worth. You have to offer love, affection, attention, and your life. You aren't worthless because you still have your future. Somebody that doesn't have what you have (college experience, a ... (read in full...)
We went too far and now she doesn't want to do anything
Q. My girlfriend has recently lost an interest or 'need' I guess you could say in intimacy. When asked about it, and I spoke with her about it, she said it was because the last time we fooled around we went too far. (Keep in mind we are both still ...
A. 17 August 2009: I've figured it out. She felt I was being too selfish in what I wanted and felt (which was totally true). So I've adjusted and everything is sliping back to what it was before. Thank you very much, it's all good now ^^... (read in full...)
We broke up but he still seems to want me, what is going on with him?
Q. we split up nearly 18 months ago after being together for over 2 years and being engaged. we split as he dumped me and he wanted space didnt know what he wanted his head wasnt clear - he lost about 3 stone in weight and everytime i saw him he bro...
A. 17 August 2009: Hmmm that would be the big hill everyone must climb at the end of a terrible situation. Back in the day when I dated this one young lady, I learned that everything about her was a lie after we were over. Broke up with me over a text, found out she ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he still seems to want me, what is going on with him?
Q. we split up nearly 18 months ago after being together for over 2 years and being engaged. we split as he dumped me and he wanted space didnt know what he wanted his head wasnt clear - he lost about 3 stone in weight and everytime i saw him he bro...
A. 13 August 2009: Love, especially if it is strong and deep, can last an incredibly long time. If it is 'true love' then it will never fade.... (read in full...)
We broke up but he still seems to want me, what is going on with him?
Q. we split up nearly 18 months ago after being together for over 2 years and being engaged. we split as he dumped me and he wanted space didnt know what he wanted his head wasnt clear - he lost about 3 stone in weight and everytime i saw him he bro...
A. 11 August 2009: Hmm. I feel I can relate to him because I would be the same way. I have... a sort of worry complex that developed over a terrible relationship (long story for another time) that has made trouble for myself. I would take a stab and say that he still ... (read in full...)
I know he still loves me, what should I do?
Q. Hi, Im 23 and had been in a relationship for the past three years. A month ago he told me it was over through a text. Over the past three years Me and him had been through so much and talked everyday and night. I was heart broken that he could ...
A. 11 August 2009: If I were you, I would hang tight. Be there for him and keep your arms open for him. Obviously he is very torn inside because of his connection through his child. I feel for ya, and I know its tough. But think about his child, children with split ... (read in full...)
We went too far and now she doesn't want to do anything
Q. My girlfriend has recently lost an interest or 'need' I guess you could say in intimacy. When asked about it, and I spoke with her about it, she said it was because the last time we fooled around we went too far. (Keep in mind we are both still ...
A. 10 August 2009: Thank you very much, it should help I think. When a time comes around again we'll see. She's one of those 'proud to be an independent woman' types, so I'm willing to bet it will take that much longer I dunno... (read in full...)
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