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writes:So how many men are honestly happy with their spouses chest? Honestly and anonomously?! I'm 31 years old, in-shape, but not a runway model. I'm 5'8", and 145 lbs, and have a 36D/DD bust, and I have no kids. My breasts have always been large for my frame, but they are not huge. When I have a good bra on, they look pretty big, but when I'm nekkid, not so huge. They kind of have that 'banana-boat' shape, and have a little bit more sag than a 31 year old set should have. To boot, my nipples are kinda flat, and my areolae are big... I've struggled to have confidence in my chest my whole life.I've been married for almost ten years, to a wonderful man, and he loves everything about my body (so he says.. ;) ). I've been thinking of getting an augmentation, just to get them perked up a little, and to make my nipples more proportionate to my breasts.My husband hasn't been very suggestive either way though, but just encourages me to "do what I feel is right"..? Does this mean he wants a new pair of tires on his old hotrod??!I dunno, just wondering. Maybe I'm just being paranoid. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): I always love the penis-size analogy here. Do many women love to at least experience a well hung guy? Hell yeah! Do they go searching for them? rarely. Do they mope when a guy isn't huge? Hells no. The same is true for most guys and boobs.
Having been with some very big boobs, married to a set of 34C's (my ex wife), and now with a set of small B's, I'll be honest and say bigger boobs DO add something to the sexual experience for me, but it is very minor. It makes the expereince "dirtier" or something. bubble butts do the same thing for me too. But I am perfectly happy with anything from pencil erasers to juggs. I will say that perky nipples are a requirement more so than breast size. I'll take a set of rock hard 1/2 inch nips on some A-cups over lazy D's any day. But thats just me. Some guys NEED big swinging boobs just to GET HARD...I have a freind like that. He literally wont even get hard with small boobs...but he's bi...go figure. He is extremely shallow, and still wonders after over 70 partners why nobody loves him more than a few weeks.
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reader, daletom +, writes (26 August 2010):
I have been married to a small-busted woman for over 30 years. I knew what was (and wasn't) there before we were engaged, before we were married, and before we started having sex (in that order). It was VERY NICE when she was pregnant, or breast feeding, and ballooned out to almost a C-cup! Let me tell you . . . there isn't any part of her body that's more important for my sexual enjoyment than what's between her ears!
Almost a year ago she was diagnosed with breast cancer and lost one breast. I'm certainly not "happy" about that situation, though it DOES free up one hand to do other things (like eat chips to keep my energy up?) when we make love. For now we are not doing any reconstruction. We're not at all inclined toward additional surgery, and the cosmetic surgeons tell us that it will always look unnatural when she's naked.
There's a LOT more to her than her chest! If that's where her self-identity comes from, I'd encourage her to do whatever reconstruction or enhancements she needed. But I might begin to have thoughts about what else in her personality or person she feels needs "artificial enhancment".
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reader, zgeek +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Well, the fact is that most men, who are truly in love do love most things about their womens body. But even though they like how it is does not mean that they wouldn't mind or like more if that part was changed.
For instance your breasts, your husband probably loves how they are, but he probably would not mind a change in their appearance, though he would be perfectly fine if they stayed the way they are.
And judging by his response and my own personal experience, he is thinking just that. He doesn't want "a new pair of tires on his old hotrod" but he would appreciate a newer pair.
But don't worry about it, if he is not being negative about it, then its probably cause he is thinking the same thing you are. And doesn't wanna say anything to make it sound like he is dissatisfied with the way you look.
ZGEEK
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (26 August 2010):
 How you see yourself is not necessarily how he sees you.
If he loves you, he isn't going to care if your breasts are 36DD or 36A. You're the woman he married.
He probably thinks of you, or sees you, as you were when he first met you. And probably doesn't even think that you got older. Seriously. Ask him.
Love doesn't look at your body. Love makes love to your body to give you pleasure which is what he's thinking. He's not necessarily thinking that you have to be a runway model.
What he ought to be thinking is that he wants to please you.
Now if you honestly think that getting the augmentation will make you feel better or sexier, or more confident, then that's fine. As long as he realizes that he's the only one for you.
If that'll do the trick for you, then confidence begets a sort of renewed energy level in a marriage, or it can make him suspicious. I can't say which.
But before you start chopping into body parts, ask your husband honestly, just ask him. He probably loves you more now than ever just the way you are. If you've gone this far in your marriage there's a reason why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): I wouldn't change a thing about my wife's rack. She's a 36C, and I think they're perfect. Oh, they're maybe not as perky as when she was 18, but breastfeeding three kids will do that. They're lived in and loved. I hate ones that aren't natural, so I'd say stick with factory issue.
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