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51-59,
*ortiaj
writes:Dear Cupid,I am hurt. I recently reconnected with my high school crush. He indicated strongly that he is interested in me. I feel same way about him. However we do not live in the same town. He lives in a smaller town. I recently learnt that he is dating someone there. When I asked him about her, he said other than time he has nothing vested in the relationship. He has never once called the woman by name, never wants to talk about her. But i was told that he sleeps over and that his son lives with her, and that they will be married soon. he denied all of this. Yesterday i saw them at the airport going on a trip together, to meet his family! Deep down i feel like he is my soulmate. What should I do?Just asking this question makes me feel stupid but I feel so hurt!
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 He's a philanderer and is telling you whatever he thinks you want to hear so he can get into your panties.
Basically, he will never make you happy; the relationship appears to be a dead-end; and he is obviously committed to this other nameless woman whom he claims to have nothing invested in other than time.
Well I actually should clarify: he has invested time in her, it appears he's promised her his life time. Which by definition excludes you.
If being with a soul mate means being 2nd fiddle in his orchestra, then fine. But I would say he's nothing but a playboy.
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reader, portiaj +, writes (30 May 2010):
portiaj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys soo much for the answers. I know what i have to do! I guess I just needed to see the answers in black and white! I hate to be played.
I am just plain angry right now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): i vote STUPID!!! this guy sounds like a player.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 seems like hes playing you :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): What are you hurt about? Your fantasy? I don't mean to be mean but this man seems to be in a serious relationship. Another woman is involved and trust me if you do not know her name she certainly won't even know that you even exist. Soulmates do not live in the past, they are forged on a daily basis. Please let them work out their problems and focus in working out your own. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): The guy lied to you, he's not worth your time or energy.
Just move on with your life, there are other guys out there who will treat you the way you should be treated.
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