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writes:Why, do I keep thinking of my ex?It's been almost a year, I don't think I am missing her.I never got my last words in, never got to tell her what what I needed to say, like why did you break up with me?I keep thinking what I want to say to her, tell her what I think of her, after how good I treated her.We never even got into a fight, so what I am asking is , she never gave me a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): I would ask her.
I personally wouldnt mind talking with my ex about what went wrong in the relationship because there are no feelings anymore. You need closure and are obsessing over it (which i understand) and you need to talk to her. Just know that what she has to say may not please you. But if you treated her really well like you said you did then youre a good bf and will make another woman really happy. :)
Good luck!
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reader, Serpico +, writes (26 April 2013):
Listen to SVC on this - writing it is very good advice. I have done this myself and it works.
Also, you should note that every moment I spent wallowing over this women I regret as some of the most wasted time of my life. FWIW.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 April 2013):
 you will never know why she left. if she didn't tell you a year ago, it's not going to happen now.
best thing to do is write down all the things you want to say to her... write a long letter to her... don't mail it but put it all on paper and then you can seal it in an envelope and put it away. take it out in 5 years and read it then... gives you perspective on things.
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reader, TeardropsOnMyGuitar  +, writes (26 April 2013):
You need closure buddy.Why don't you write down all the questions you have and think about what you'd like to ask her and what you'd like to say to her. After you have thought it through, ask her to meet with you because you want closure to the relationship and you feel one final conversation would help you. Make sure she understands that you want her to be honest and that you won't judge her for what she says. (Of course if you're not willing to agree to that then you don't deserve to know the truth.)Then do it and whatever she says to you, take it to be the honest truth, accept it and move on. Be prepared for her to say things that you don't want to hear like:- I could't stand your (put something here)- You are (whatever)If she won't do that small thing for you (assuming you haven't asked much and haven't been bothering her in the last year), then she never really cared for you much and that is your answer in itself.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2013): When this all happened were you too upset to ask what and why? It appears that way. If you have her address still send off a letter and ask her. Tell her how you are feeling. If she is any kind of decent woman she will give you a response. But be prepared. It may not be what you want to listen or read about. Try texting to get some closure. But you just might not get any answer so be prepared for that to. Don't beat yourself up. Break-ups are a two way street in most cases. Move on..
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