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anonymous
writes:I am struggling with my sexuality. I have been in a relationship with a male for two years but I think I may be asexual. I have no desire for sex, I feel disgusted when thinking about it and it causes conflicting feelings towards my boyfriend. I don't know if I am being dramtic or not, so my question is do I tell my boyfriend?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 April 2013):
 Before you tell your boyfriend (although after 2 years I'm wondering if he hasn't picked up on it) I would suggest you see your doctor, get a complete medical (including hormonal) work up to rule out any medical issues.
If you check out clearly, I would strongly recommend you find a therapist to help you figure out why you feel disgusted about sex. I do not think that asexual people actually feel disgusted or even think about sex all that much if at all and I am wondering if you are repressing some sort of trauma that occurred when you were young.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (25 April 2013):
I don't think you're being dramatic. Tell your boyfriend that you're done having sex with him. He won't stick around for long, but that's probably best for both of you.
I'm guessing there are asexual dating websites out there. Find someone who is as disgusted with sex as you are.
I don't want to make you feel like there is something wrong with you, but you may want to consider counseling... It's possible that deep down inside you love sex and would be happier with it.
Think of it this way: billions of people love having sex for many reasons. But how many people love NOT having sex?
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