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No replies yet... 25 October 2009: This has nothing to do with relationships, but everyone loves a little humor! I adore this video, and it cracks me up in spite of the fact that my French is really bad (I'm trying to improve it). I finally found a version with English sub...
Any Harry Potter fans out there?
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6 July 2009: As a longtime fan, I became curious: If I were a student at Hogwarts, to what house would the Sorting Hat send me? I found this personality test on the internet, and, just for fun, I decided to share it: http://www.per...
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Should I date this married woman knowing that she'll never leave her husband?
Q. Alright around 4 months ago I met this girl and her husband. Both very good people I was going through a rough time. She helped me through a lot of it and we became very good friends in the process. Well early on in the friendship I fou...
A. 19 October 2008: I am sorry because I know that my answer is going to hurt you, but I feel like an open relationship isn't much of a relationship. There's nothing wrong with having PLATONIC opposite sex FRIENDS, but if you love someone with all your heart, then I ... (read in full...)
Tampons won't fit up me - what if I can't have sex?
Q. Hello i need some help. I am 13 years old and i have been having a period for 3 years now. Recently i have been trying to use a tampon, but it wont go up. i am definatly putting it up the right hole. i have been masturbating so i am wet, and then...
A. 19 October 2008: I think EmilyAnswers pretty much said it all. In my case though, cardboard applicators were really uncomfortable and I prefer the kind that have NO applicator (O.B. makes these) or a plastic applicator (Kotex makes these).
All the aunts ar... (read in full...)
About Puberty and stuff..
Q. I'm a 14 year old male going through puberty and have some questions... I have attempted to masturbate but nothing comes out, I guess I would say... Is that ok? I have some hair under my armpits and other places I shall not name and I was ...
A. 19 October 2008: I am a woman, but I've read about this topic and rest assured, you sound normal to me. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents about this (understandable) then you might want to look at some biology books, or a book written expressly ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to confess to this girl that I like her? We're a little close but not that much.
Q. Hello. I need help. Anyway, I'm a tomboyish girl but many doubt my preferences. Some of them thinks I'm a normal girl while others think I'm a lesbian or bi. In truth, I'm into both but 70% of my attraction are into girls. Anyway, I still don't know ...
A. 18 October 2008: It's your decision to make, when all's said and done. I will tell you, however, that in my experience, you will have fewer regrets if you tells things the way they are. Hopefully your friend will reciprocate your feelings, but even if she doesn't, ... (read in full...)
In her mind she suspects he might actually be gay - and "fighting" his urges.
Q. A friend of mine is dating this guy - she seems pretty into him but recently told me there were some things that in her eyes were 'deal breakers' - which I took to mean she wouldn't end up with him/marry him. When I asked her about it she told me ...
A. 18 October 2008: I'm with Daniel, because he could have other reasons for being homophobic (I'm not defending homophobia). I don't think that this behavior proves that he is gay. It is true that a lot of men are extremely homophobic are hostile to gay men because ... (read in full...)
He's only in love with me when he's drunk!!!
Q. my boyfriend drinks a lot. he used to be really nice, but now he's only in love with me when he's drunk. he's only a sweetie when he's drunk. he only wants to do sexual things when he's drunk. he'll only talk to me about personal things when he's ...
A. 14 October 2008: This guy is bad news, on a number of counts. I know that when you love someone, you see them through the eyes of love, but sometimes you have to think with your head. I hate to say this because I don't want to hurt you, but I can see this ... (read in full...)
Mens opinions needed! I saw pictures of his ex who had a really hot body and I can't understand why he wants to be with me!
Q. Ok so this is all my own fault, but it's really messing with my head. I've been seeing my boyfriend for a couple of months now, we took it really slow from the start, he didn't push for sex at all and in fact we've only been sleeping together for a ...
A. 13 October 2008: What I meant to say in my last answer, is something I've said before in my column. Je re'pete', everyone has different ideas of beauty. I don't think that Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise are appealing, at least not to me.
I'm embarrassed to admit th... (read in full...)
Mens opinions needed! I saw pictures of his ex who had a really hot body and I can't understand why he wants to be with me!
Q. Ok so this is all my own fault, but it's really messing with my head. I've been seeing my boyfriend for a couple of months now, we took it really slow from the start, he didn't push for sex at all and in fact we've only been sleeping together for a ...
A. 13 October 2008: Daniel is right, in order to get peace and closure the best thing to do is to talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. I'm sure that he'll understand your feelings.
Lots of girls are self-conscious about their appearance, and although... (read in full...)
I am a Virgo male and I'm in love with an Aries female. Are we compatible?
Q. Hi , I am a boy who believes in zodiac signs. I am born under Virgo in 1989. I love someone, she likes me too. She is Aries born in 1994. How is our internal compatibility on signs. Will we be happy or not? Please help. Thanks...
A. 9 October 2008: Many people will disagree with me, I know, but I don't think that your zodiac sign is going to determine your personality, or whether or not you are compatible with someone else.
I'm a Taurus, though, and I seem to fit the stereotype in some way... (read in full...)
Would you ever date someone who doesn't have the same religion as you?
Q. I have 3 questions for you:#1:would you ever date some who doesn't have the same religion as you? #2:how did you handle a big love break up? #3:when you fall in love do you:your heart then your brain.or your brain then your heart? thank yo...
A. 4 October 2008: 1. If the chemistry were right, and he wanted to date me in spite of the difference in religion, I would. For the record, I really don't have a particular denomination. I love latino men (if you've seen my column, then you may know :) ), most of ... (read in full...)
How many times do you have to get married to realise 'this is the one' ?!
Q. *The 11th Husband* A young man married a beautiful woman who had previously divorced 10 husbands. On their wedding night, she told her new husband to"Please be gentle ~ I'm still a virgin". 'What?!' said the puzzled groom. 'How can that be ...
A. 4 October 2008: Thankfully, she was never married to someone from the public school system, or she would never get laid.
Thanks for sharing :)... (read in full...)
What do you think of friendships with the opposite sex when you're in a relationship? What are the boundaries?
Q. What do you think of opposite sex friendships? What are the boundaries when both of you are in relationships but not exactly friends with thier signigicant others? Is it ok to have one on one intimate opposite sex friendships? ...
A. 3 October 2008: If the friendship is platonic, and innocent, then how is it different from an intimate friendship with the same sex? You dont turn your back on your friends!
I don't mean to say that your feelings aren't important, but imagine how you would feel... (read in full...)
Will my friend ever want to be my boy friend
Q. hello iv just turned 19 and iv got back in touch with an old friend, he has always been a gud friend, but recently i have been having more feelings about him and i dont know what to do i think i love him, but i havnt got a clue as to wether he likes ...
A. 3 October 2008: I know that it's scary to risk it all, and reveal our feelings, possibly risking rejection. You really care for this guy and hope he feels the same way... I understand your feelings.
What have you got to lose? You're worried about losing a... (read in full...)
How can I convince him that my boobs are an ok size?
Q. My boyfriend always seemed to like my body. But he was very critical yesterday. There are things I can change, but there's one that I can't: my breasts. Full B's. But he says he'd prefer they were bigger. He says I look good anyway, but if they were ...
A. 2 October 2008: The real problem is that your boyfriend is not treating you with respect. Actually, at school today, my students and I had a discussion today about something very similar. We talked about what it means to love someone, and we all agreed that it ... (read in full...)
My married man doesn't make me climax like he can with his wife! Any suggestions?
Q. Hi. I'm 20 years old and have been seeing this guy for about 4 months. He is married but we have this amazing attraction. However he is a little frustrated because he hasn't been able to make me come yet. I don't know why as he is so gentle and ...
A. 29 September 2008: Something wrong with you? Yes, there is something VERY wrong with a total lack of conscience, and moral values. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a guy who's got a girlfriend but I don't want to turn him gay. So what can I do?
Q. Hey Guys I'm a 18 year old gay guy and i have 2 really big questions so here is the first one: I am deeply in love with a guy who is in two of my classes with me, since im a total failiure with relationships i asked some "flirt" advices to my...
A. 28 September 2008: I feel your pain, buddy... I've been in love with a best friend who is in a relationship and it sucks.
I wished and wished that I just had a magic love potion to use on him. You have a great heart because you want him to be happy and to be a frie... (read in full...)
If your hymen is broken before you have sex for the first time, will sex hurt?
Q. I've been told something, and I just want to know if it's true or not. If your hymen is broken before you have sex for the first time, sex won't hurt. Is this true?? If so, can you break your hymen yourself?? And will it hurt??...
A. 28 September 2008: To put it delicately, er... I think that I'm not the most suitable person to answer the first question. It is true that the hymen can break for reasons other than intercourse- certain sports, such as horseback riding, for example. Believe it or ... (read in full...)
Do males find red hair a turn-off?
Q. Just a quick question, because I'm beginning to get paranoid: Do males find red hair a turn-off? Will he reject a red-head if she asked him out, because of her hair colour? And if you have been asked out by one, did you oblige, and were, or cur...
A. 25 September 2008: Don't be paranoid. In Spanish, we have a saying: En gustos se rompen generos. It means that there is not limit to people's preferences. I do think that men tend to be more visual, but there are loads of men who love red-headed women. I'm a ... (read in full...)
What are you thought's on stretchmarks?
Q. What do men think about strechmarks on a womens body?What does the female think about it too?...
A. 24 September 2008: Uncle Phil is right, but you have to remember that even the pinup models have their flaws... but as ideal as they appear, they're humans, not goddesses, and they also have more airbrushing and retouching than the rest of us. :) We all have our ... (read in full...)
Should I relocate? Should I enter this field going against my parents??
Q. i am 19 years old,since the time i was 16 people have been telling me to join the acting world,the glamour industry and fashion..i personally would love to get into this field too..its like a dream come true..i want to follow my dreams but my ...
A. 4 September 2008: That's a difficult decision, and you are going to have to do some profound soul-searching. I've made some bad decisions in my life, and in retrospect I realized they were bad decisions, but they opened up the door to other possibilities. The ... (read in full...)
What are some ideas regarding exercise if you enjoy being active but the gym bores you to death?
Q. I would like to lose weight because although people don't think of me as fat, I am very self conscious about my appearance. I would like to have a nice figure, but I'm afraid that I'm nearing that age where it's impossible to lose weight. My ...
A. 4 September 2008: I LOVE swimming. I felt guilty about spending the money on a Y membership but... it's your health when all's said and done. The gym is good for you, but I'm not motivated to go to the gym because it's torture... when you enjoy your workout, you're ... (read in full...)
I fear that if I say "no" to his advances that he will leave me!
Q. Ok so, I've been going out with this amazing guy for almost 7 months. He is my first real boyfriend. I love him more than anything. But, I just found out a few months ago that he wants to..."explore the south" as in the sexual kind of way if you ...
A. 4 September 2008: Tell him that you care for him, but that you are not ready to be sexually active and that it makes you uncomfortable. If he truly loves you, he'll understand you, and respect your feelings. If you were to give in to the pressure, and have sex with ... (read in full...)
Is Sarah Palin a suitable candidate for VP?
Q. [Part of a DearCupid series on the forthcoming Nov 08 presidential election] Sarah Palin, John McCain's choice for vice-president, is a strict anti-abortionist, pro-guns and against sex-education. Her 17 year old daughter is now pregnant. ...
A. 3 September 2008: When Rush Limbaugh said that this election is not going to be about which candidate you are "for"... people are either going to vote AGAINST Obama, or AGAINST McCain... one of the few times that he has been right.... (read in full...)
Will God forgive my dead cousin for her gesture? I am open minded to all different beliefs.
Q. My cousin killed herself. She was 27yrs old. In my church we were always taught that if you kill youself then you are going to burn in hell forever. And I was eavesdropping when some family didnt know I was there and I heard them saying things about ...
A. 3 September 2008: I don't mean to get off topic but I agree with the other poster, I would never condemn someone for being gay.
When all's said and done, only God knows for sure what's in someone's heart, and we are not in a position to judge. I don't want to ... (read in full...)
Why am I so terrified of actually having a baby?
Q. hi, i'm 27 years old and since always i've been absolutely terrified of having a baby, and really quite scared of being pregnant- and nobody understands the way i feel. i don't know when it started, but i know that my birth was tramatic for my ...
A. 2 September 2008: Maybe it would help to talk to a professional in the health field, such as a nurse or OBGYN, for example. Even though you're not currently pregnant I bet that they have seen loads of women with similar fears and could help you understand how to ... (read in full...)
Will God forgive my dead cousin for her gesture? I am open minded to all different beliefs.
Q. My cousin killed herself. She was 27yrs old. In my church we were always taught that if you kill youself then you are going to burn in hell forever. And I was eavesdropping when some family didnt know I was there and I heard them saying things about ...
A. 2 September 2008: I am really sorry about your cousin. Suicide is always wrong, it causes suffering, pain, and anguish for those who love you, whom you leave behind. Only God can see what is a person's heart, and will judge them accordingly. We, however, are not ... (read in full...)
My husband and I get into nasty arguments, help!
Q. Need some help.... recently my Husband and i have been arguing alot, almost on a weekly basis. He says very nasty hurtful things and the tone in which he says these things is as if he really hates me. I've tried talking to him about it but he tells ...
A. 2 September 2008: No marriage should be like this. There should be mutual understanding, but unfortunately I have read that this is a really common problem. You're not stupid, your husband isn't respecting your feelings. It is true that almost all couples argue, ... (read in full...)
Why am I so terrified of actually having a baby?
Q. hi, i'm 27 years old and since always i've been absolutely terrified of having a baby, and really quite scared of being pregnant- and nobody understands the way i feel. i don't know when it started, but i know that my birth was tramatic for my ...
A. 2 September 2008: I've never had a baby, but it sounds like you might have a phobia. I don't think that it's immature, and I think that it's normal to be scared... I would be terrified to have a baby. An intense, exaggerated fear that interferes with your life, ... (read in full...)
Should I relocate? Should I enter this field going against my parents??
Q. i am 19 years old,since the time i was 16 people have been telling me to join the acting world,the glamour industry and fashion..i personally would love to get into this field too..its like a dream come true..i want to follow my dreams but my ...
A. 2 September 2008: Please listen to me, because I'm someone who had to learn a very similar lesson the hard way. The acting field is your dream, and this time in your life is an auspicious time to pursue that. You're 19, and I'm assuming you're husband-less and ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my little brother - what can I do?
Q. I'm in love with my little brother. I am currently a senior at my high school and he is a freshmen at the same school. He's casual, down-to-earth, funny, and he has the cutest smile. I've been in love with him for as long as I could remember. ...
A. 2 September 2008: I think it's sweet that you have a loving relationship with your little brother. My brother thinks I'm a capital B. Are you REALLY in love with him, though? I think that you have a close relationship, and perhaps you feel torn apart when he gets ... (read in full...)
Should I go back to my lazy ex who promises to reform or stick with my new guy
Q. dilema i was goin out with a realy nice guy for two year the only problem is he got lazy quit his job and became a bore i fell out of love with him but i still have strong feeligs for him we have been broke up about three month now i have a new ...
A. 1 September 2008: You have moved on, and found love with a new man. It sounds as if this man that you love treats you with the respect you deserve. Your ex promises to reform, but he caused you a lot of pain and suffering, and you're with someone who, like you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has profiles on on-line dating sites. I don't know what to believe.
Q. We've been together for 3 months and a half. We met online and I found some time ago the profiles he had before we met, and asked him to please take them off, since anyway he was not logging in them (I saw his last log ins and he had stopped) and he ...
A. 31 August 2008: The sooner you get out of this relationship, the better. It's easy to say "just get over him," but it takes time to love again, and the sooner you dump him, the sooner you can find someone who is trustworthy. He's already betrayed your trust. ... (read in full...)
My husband told me that we reached the end of our road and he found somebody else, how can I bring him back?
Q. My husband of 4 years has recently told me that he has feelings for someone else and that they are sexual with each other.he wasnt sure what he wants.he tells me that we reached the end of our road.i love him so much and want to work it out but he ...
A. 31 August 2008: No problem, Browneyegrl. You may write me anytime. I hope that things work out for you, and I don't mean to make you sad, but you deserve someone who will honor his commitment to you. With counseling, hopefully he will see how you are feeling and ... (read in full...)
How do I lose weight from my breasts?
Q. How do I lose weight from my breasts? I am a 21yr old female, with a slim build, very slim waist and arms, and curvy hips. When I lose weight, I lose it everywhere but my breasts... they are DD's and I feel like I'm disproportionate. I have gone ...
A. 31 August 2008: You may be a candidate for a procedure that is somewhat safer than the traditional invasive breast reduction surgery. I'm not saying that you need it, and I am not saying that you're unattractive... but if you REALLY hate them, there is a procedure ... (read in full...)
We want to have sex but we know nothing about it and are both 13!
Q. my bf and i have been dating for a year and we both wanna have sex but we can't because a: my hymen hasn't broken and b: we are both 13. what do we do?...
A. 31 August 2008: I will add that thousands of teenagers come to these boards seeking advice because they're pregnant, and scared to death. That's not what you want your life to be, is it?... (read in full...)
What do you do when you love each other but have to break up for religious reasons?
Q. ok so im with a guy been with him for a mnth and a half and he loves me more then i love him he tells me that if he cld compare his love to everything in the world it wldnt come close, only problem is he is muslim and i am orthodox and my ...
A. 31 August 2008: I think that the other reader is right when he says that it's too soon to call it real love. It could eventually turn into real love but that takes time.
It's unfortunate when our family doesn't accept our choice of a mate. There's nothing ... (read in full...)
My husband told me that we reached the end of our road and he found somebody else, how can I bring him back?
Q. My husband of 4 years has recently told me that he has feelings for someone else and that they are sexual with each other.he wasnt sure what he wants.he tells me that we reached the end of our road.i love him so much and want to work it out but he ...
A. 31 August 2008: I'm so sorry that you're suffering like this. Unfortunately this happens in a lot of marriages. Your husband is being unfair to you. When you get married, you know that there will be times when one or both of you wants out, but you promise to ... (read in full...)
We want to have sex but we know nothing about it and are both 13!
Q. my bf and i have been dating for a year and we both wanna have sex but we can't because a: my hymen hasn't broken and b: we are both 13. what do we do?...
A. 31 August 2008: I know you're not going to like my answer, but it's true: you need to wait. There are always consequences to have sex, but sometimes when we really want to do something, we don't think about what could happen as a result. Believe me, you can make ... (read in full...)
I want to shave not only the bikini line but also down on the labia section as well. What is the best product available?
Q. Sorry that this isn't a question about relationships.. I am wondering if any of the ladies here can advise on how to properly shave pubic hair. Right now I use the same shaver I use for my legs, but the shaved pubes grow back really quickly and even ...
A. 31 August 2008: I know that your question is about shaving, and I don't mean to ignore your question, but I think that it's much better to go to a salon and have it waxed. I know that you have to wait for the hair to grow to a certain length, but a professional ... (read in full...)
My mother says the Bible does not approve of interracial relationships. How can I prove her wrong?
Q. Im engaged to a black man, and I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him, hes just like me in every way. My father is racist, and my mother claims that she is just "against marrying out of your race" because of her "religious ...
A. 30 August 2008: I realize this post is from long ago but better late than never...
RUN, don't just walk, away from any church that teaches racism. The ignorant idea that one race is superior, or inferior, goes against everything Christianity teaches.
The Bible... (read in full...)
Can I fit in at university even if I don't "party hearty"?
Q. Hi. Im due to start university next month and am getting a bit worried. I took a year out before going to university to basically do some work. During that year I feel I have grown up a lot, met a new group of friends, my interests have changed ...
A. 30 August 2008: I think that the year out idea is brilliant. In USA, where I live, nobody ever takes a "gap year" and I feel like they come to college completely unprepared. Some students have never done anything for themselves, and they come into college and ... (read in full...)
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