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writes:Hi. I'm 20 years old and have been seeing this guy for about 4 months. He is married but we have this amazing attraction. However he is a little frustrated because he hasn't been able to make me come yet. I don't know why as he is so gentle and loving, and is very big on foreplay. What he does feels great, but I just don't get to climax. No guy has ever made me come and I'm wondering if there is something wrong with me. When having oral sex once, he compared me to his wife who would have come at least 2 or 3 times during the same amount of time he spent on me. Does anyone have any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): I have a great idea.Go to his wife and ask some tips.What the.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Er hello....this guy is married. What the hell are you doing getting mixed up with a married guy? Not only are you showing a complete and utter lack of conscience and morals in being involved with a married man, but it is more than likely you will be the one to get your fingers burned if you start to fall in love with him as in almost all cases the husband goes back to the wife. Concentrate on developing a relationship with someone who isn't married and is free to love you back. I wonder if you might also have self esteem issues in getting involved with someone who is unavailable. If you were married how would you feel if you found out your husband was sleeping with someone behind your back? I was horrified to discover several years ago that my friend was having an affair with a married man. I was appalled by her attitude that she was the one being wronged in all of it. She almost destroyed her life in the process - the guy went back to his wife (surprise surprise), she lost her job, many of her friends, and I am sure the stress of it contributed to her father's death as he went mental when he found out. My friend was just being used by this guy but she just couldn't see it. I have to say her behaviour did taint our friendship quite significantly.
As for the man.....well probably best I don't repeat it here.
And agony aunts - why are you even giving sex advice to someone who is having an affair with a married man? Do you have no morals either??!!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008):
I suggest you dump this married guy; Surely you don't want to share a lover with somebody else; and as for the fact that no guy could make you climax before; well, I suggest you do some retrospection and have some medical examinations.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 Something wrong with you? Yes, there is something VERY wrong with a total lack of conscience, and moral values.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 Oh yes indeed there's something wrong with you. My suggestion for you is to look at the first three words in your third sentence.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (29 September 2008):
 Oh-and look up the statistics-lots of women don't come through sexual intercourse alone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): You should see a doctor about that. But first try out vibrators, toys, etc. Maybe even masturbate. You've got to find out what will make you cum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Is this a joke? I would be very dissapointed if other aunts gave you sex advice with a married man. Why don't you find a single guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): maybe deep down he feels guilty about what he is doing to his wife?? i cant believe you are happy to sleep with him knowing he is srewing his wife at the same time!! Have some self respect and dump him and find yourself someone who pushes all the right buttons with you and only you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Everyone is built a little differently. The pressure point (also known as the G-spot, which is present on both males and females) is something you may want to do a little research on. When enough pressure is put on it, a woman can come. However, this is not easy for every woman and some women just don't come at all. Keep in mind that an orgasm and coming do not always go hand in hand. Coming is not necessarily the be all and end all for women and there are women who don't even find it enjoyable because the pressure can make them feel as though they need to urinate, which may be uncomfortable and embarrassing during intercourse. Do the research and spend time exploring with other men as everyone pleases and can be pleased a little differently than others. You are young and you have a lot of time to figure out what works best for you.
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reader, DrHelp +, writes (29 September 2008):
My suggestion is to get out of this relationship as soon as possible. Getting involved with married men is very dangerous waters and ALWAYS ends up badly.There is nothing wrong with you. Are you just very tense while the act is going on as that can have some bearing on the situation.Where he compared his wife to you is out of order on so many levels it is undescribable as well!Maybe some 'self help' might help do get you in the mood or motivated as well.I hope this helps.Need more info just send me a message.
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