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writes:ok so im with a guy been with him for a mnth and a half and he loves me more then i love him he tells me that if he cld compare his love to everything in the world it wldnt come close, only problem is he is muslim and i am orthodox and my grandfather was a priest and my family wld never accept a muslim. i broke up with him based on religiouse reasons and i felt so bad so i agreed 2 go on a break and i cant break up with him but i have to i care about him 2 much 2 have 2 break up with him again and see him go threw all this again...please help me please
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 September 2008):
Well if you have made your choice to stick with what you think your family wants then you have to be honest with him and hurt him.
You can't lead him on and give him this false hope that you may pick him.
Yes you are going to hurt him but you knew you were going to do that when you go together with him since you had no intention of being with him.
You will hurt him but it is best to do it sooner rather than later.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, princessa +, writes (1 September 2008):
princessa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx 4 the advice
but what i am trying 2 say is that my boyfriend loves me more then i love him and ive broken up with him because of religion....
but he took things real bad so i said that were jst on a break until i make up my mind, i noe that tru love dsnt jst happen but weve also been friends for 2 years before that so i love him like a friend and im scared to hurt him
and im scared to get back with him like what he wants then i have to break up with him again and see him go threw everything again.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 August 2008):
Well would one of you convert? Would either of you risk losing your families?
What is more important, your family or being together?
You have to figure it out and make a decision. Perhaps if you family see how happy you are together then they will try to show a bit of understanding.
I disagree with the other poster. I think you can fall in love very fast, if it's the right person.
Show your family how heart broken you are and tell them that it's because of them. They may surprise you and tell you to go get him back if he makes you so happy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (31 August 2008):
 I think that the other reader is right when he says that it's too soon to call it real love. It could eventually turn into real love but that takes time.
It's unfortunate when our family doesn't accept our choice of a mate. There's nothing you can do to force them to accept him. However, when we are grown up, it is up to us to make our life choices, and to make the best decision. When choosing a mate, you have to be the one to decide who is right for you. I am sure that your family still loves you even if they don't support your choice of a mate, but you have a right to date the person you want. Keep in mind that it's not good to rush anything serious. If the relationship gets serious, ie, you start talking marriage, be aware that the religious difference could be a source of conflict ahead of time. You and your boyfriend or husband may have different ideas about how to raise a family, about how to handle money and career issues. Is this going to be an insurmountable problem, or can you guys work it out? It's between you and your boyfriend.
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