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writes:i am 19 years old,since the time i was 16 people have been telling me to join the acting world,the glamour industry and fashion..i personally would love to get into this field too..its like a dream come true..i want to follow my dreams but my parents are totally against it..so right now i am doin something they want me to do and something i chose to do since i would never be allowed to enter the acting world.it was my second option.but now m sick of it,no matter if i face failure in the acting industry i want to give it try and leave my education and take acting as my profession and proabably get a degree through coresspondence..in that way i am doin modelling plus gettin my edcuation degree side by side...but i come from a small town i need to relocate to get into the industry and i am ready to do that,but my parents are not they would drag me back..i think u just have one life and u should do something u want to do and not what others what u do..my parents are very orthodox..i dont know what to do..please help??should i relocate??should i ebter this field going against my parents?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey serena!!!thanks for your reply..i seriously feel if i continue to study medicine and give up acting i will regret all my life because i am doing something that was my second option and i opted for this without even trying gettin into acting..well i have made up my mind about this..i am attending med school right now until i take my decision of entering the acting field..i am not happy with what i am doin since glamour world has always been a dream.and many people have told me to enter this field and personally i think i have the charisma and the potential to be there..but quiting to become a doctor and entering the field of acting i dunno i am soooo confused..what should i do..and i have to take the decision quick cuz if i leave the med school the people will repay my dad the money he spent on my 1 year fees if i dont make a decision soon he will lose the money!!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 That's a difficult decision, and you are going to have to do some profound soul-searching. I've made some bad decisions in my life, and in retrospect I realized they were bad decisions, but they opened up the door to other possibilities. The biggest mistake you can make is to allow your fear and doubts to paralyze you, thus causing you to make no decision.
I would at least finish the curent semester of school. How can you find out what a typical day in the acting field is like? What a typical day in the medical field is like? This would give you insight into what you really want to pursue.
I had planned on becoming an attorney, for a number of reasons. I graduated from college with a degree in Spanish (at the time, immigration law interested me), but I worked for a law firm as a translator and was so dissapointed: "Why the hell did I consider becoming an attorney?" I learned the importance of doing research and talking to people... but, I learned. :-) I hope that my experience helps you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey everyone thanks for your response.but right now i am doin medicine pursuing to be a doctor..i am in the first year of medicine..inorder for me to go into modelling i need to relocate, i will have to quit the course and take modelling as profession and do some buisness course through coresspondence..so do u think i should go ahead,i personally want to do this cause this is my dream no matter if i get the success or not,i just want to enter the modelling field..but i am sure my parents will be devasted with my decision but i cant do it anymore,i know people will talk and may even bad mouth me with my parents but i seriously dont care..what do u guys think i should do???thank you
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (2 September 2008):
Please listen to me, because I'm someone who had to learn a very similar lesson the hard way. The acting field is your dream, and this time in your life is an auspicious time to pursue that. You're 19, and I'm assuming you're husband-less and kid-less?
Maybe others who know litle about the field have said things like, "Don't be an actress, you'll starve to death!" It was similar scare tactics that held me back from a dream. It's not too late even for me, but I wish and wish that I was the determined person I am now, and not the scared, naive girl I was, who listened to all of that.
You live in a prosperous country, and crummy jobs are a dime a dozen... but,on the other hand, if you waste years of your life in a job you hate then you can't get those years back, and you will have to endure the torture of "what if" and wonder what it would have been like had you pursued your dream. You can always get some crummy job... but, you can't get another life to live over again.
Your parents are probably concerned because acting is considered an "unstable" profession, and they want you to have the best of everything and be successful. They love you, they don't want you to be unhappy, and their concerns are valid.
I think that you should talk to professionals in the acting field, and do some research. Ask what lucrative jobs are availiable in the acting field. Rely on the experts who know their field and not every Tom Dick and Harry who says, "You'll starve!!!" and give the big scare speech. Perhaps if your parents see that you've done research and you're informed about what you're getting into, then they would be more accepting of your decision. Definitely pursue your education, but pursue your dream of acting. Why can't you do both?
Try to get your parents to see your side of things, and make it clear that you've done research and talked to people, and they'll see what acting means to you, and that you're prepared and responsible for the challenges ahead.
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (2 September 2008):
hiyah, it must be really hard for you to be put in the position where you feel you have to choose. Sit down and tell your parents how your feeling, how youve spent most of your life doing something where your hearts not in it but you have carried on for the sake of them. your at the right age to make a descion like this, your old enough to lead your own life and follow your dreams, if you explain all of this to your parents they may change there views on it all and the fact that you have sat with them and explained everything is showing maturity and also that your not acting against there wishes.
You dont want to leave it too late. you have to start thinking of yourself, this is your life and if relocating is the best option for you then go ahead and do it! Lifes about making choices and you should be enjoying your life as a young aldut now not living trying to please others.
You only get one chance, you just have to have the strength and courage to get there,
Best of luck- let us know how it goes :)
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