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writes:Hello. I need help. Anyway, I'm a tomboyish girl but many doubt my preferences. Some of them thinks I'm a normal girl while others think I'm a lesbian or bi. In truth, I'm into both but 70% of my attraction are into girls. Anyway, I still don't know if I'm bi or what so I'm little bit confuse on that side. But I'm not the wear-masculine-cloths-type. I'm just your normal girl who just happens to like a girl. Enough about me! My real problem is there's this girl that I really like. I don't know if she's straight, bi or just bi-curios but she did had a relationship with both male and lesbian. I don't know much about her when it comes to relationship so I don't know if she's really into girls. I've been contemplating on confessing to her. I want us to be friends so badly this days! It's true that I want to have that kind of relationship with her but if it doesn't turn out like that, it's okay as long as we can be friends. Is it okay to confess? We're a little close but not that much. I'm too scared to say anything! Is it advisable?
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reader, mizzbrannon  +, writes (18 October 2008):
i think you should get to kno her a little more. like find out ifs shes bi or not. because if you tell her you like her and she doesnt like girls you
might scare her away from being friends with you.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 It's your decision to make, when all's said and done. I will tell you, however, that in my experience, you will have fewer regrets if you tells things the way they are. Hopefully your friend will reciprocate your feelings, but even if she doesn't, you'll have it off your chest and a sense of closure, and peace, not having to wonder "what if??"
If she's truly your friend, she'll stand by you whether she shares your feelings or not. Real friends don't abandon one another. I'm totally straight, and lesbians have approached me... I don't want to hurt them, but I CAN'T reciprocate--- I'm straight. I'd still be their friend, though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): I forgot to say:
Thank you to those who will give advices. ^__^
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reader, cheekyme  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 Just get her alone and explain to her what ur feeling, and ask her how she feels about it and if she has feelings bk for you or if you two could have a relationship together and make it work, and if not then you want to still be her friend.
Dont be scared if shes a true friend she will understand and either, try and make a relationship with you, or say she just wants to remain friends.
Its ok to confess because your just doing the right thing, admitting how you really feel!, you dont want to keep quiet and then later on in life keep asking urself why ddnt i just go for it, why did tell her. so i say go for it and..
THE BEST OF LUCK, TAKE CARE
HOLLY X
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