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writes:hello iv just turned 19 and iv got back in touch with an old friend, he has always been a gud friend, but recently i have been having more feelings about him and i dont know what to do i think i love him, but i havnt got a clue as to wether he likes me back. Im really shy when it comes to lads and dont have much confidance in myself, cause iv neva had a boy friend or done anythink with a guy past kissing. I really whish he did like me, but how do i find out without making a pratt of myself and lossing a friend.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): well, i am in the same situation but somehow more complicated...wish i knew the a nswer...hehehe
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (3 October 2008):
 I know that it's scary to risk it all, and reveal our feelings, possibly risking rejection. You really care for this guy and hope he feels the same way... I understand your feelings.
What have you got to lose? You're worried about losing a friend... If he is truly a friend, then he will stand by you and be your friend, even if he doesn't like you back in a romantic way. It may make things awkward for a little while, but the mark of a true friendship is that you stand by one another when it's not easy.
You say that you don't have a clue as to whether or not he likes you back. It's good that you're thinking ahead and considering the possible consequences of your actions,and that is one sign of maturity. Whether he shares your feelings or not, if you tell him how you feel, then at least you will have an answer. You won't have to look back and wonder, "What would have happened if I told him?"
Perhaps some of the guys could help me out, because I'm not quite sure what it's like to think like a guy. If you say the word "I love you," and you're not in a serious relationship, it can overwhelm a guy, even if he likes you back. Tell your feelings, but don't be too direct. You could tell him, in a subtle way, that you would like a relationship. For example, you could say something like, "How would you feel about having a relationship with a good friend who is a girl?" Just a thought. I hope that things work out for you. :)
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