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writes:my boyfriend drinks a lot. he used to be really nice, but now he's only in love with me when he's drunk. he's only a sweetie when he's drunk. he only wants to do sexual things when he's drunk. he'll only talk to me about personal things when he's drunk. I'm so confused. should I stay or should I leave him? I'm falling in love with him when he's drunk, but hate him when he's sober because he's a dick. idk what to do with him. I love him.
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reader, hightimes +, writes (15 October 2008):
he's not worth one second of your time drunk and sober are two completly difrent personalities and for right now he's a happy drunk but in couple of years he will be a angry drunk my brother xboyfriend dad and my best friend were all like that they started out happy but enventually they all started getting angry and it on took like 5 years for them to get like this plus one of them r.I.p dillan my best friend killed himself cuase he was drunk and some one pissed him off drunk people do stupid things and they don't mean anything they say
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell, the way he acts when he's drunk is exactly how he acted before. and its just so hard. I love him so much but I miss him. so when he's drunk and I'm reminded of how he used to be I'm really happy. ahhh idk! ):
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 Loving a person only when they're drunk is NOT the same as loving the real "them". People are completely different when they're drunk, myself included.Bottom line: Do you really want to be with someone who has to be drunk to express his love and appreciation to you? I'm not going to say much more, because SirenaBlusera summed it up pretty well. But you should think long and hard about what to do next.masq
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 This guy is bad news, on a number of counts. I know that when you love someone, you see them through the eyes of love, but sometimes you have to think with your head. I hate to say this because I don't want to hurt you, but I can see this objectively, and I can tell that this boy's influence is harmful to you. He's not loving or caring when he's sober, he's hurtful. If he were loving, or caring, he would be loving and caring when sober. I realize you are young and I don't want to sound patronizing but do your parents realize some of the things this guy has done? I know that you love him, but I have the feeling that they're not aware of this, and if they were that they would not want that for you... I'm sure they love you and want the best for you. If you're doing this behind their backs, then deep down, you realize that it's wrong. Don't waste your time with someone who is uncaring and hurtful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Get out now! Drinking at his age? A SERIOUS PROBLEM!
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