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writes:Hey Guys I'm a 18 year old gay guy and i have 2 really big questions so here is the first one:I am deeply in love with a guy who is in two of my classes with me, since im a total failiure with relationships i asked some "flirt" advices to my friends (who get lucky all the time), so i ended up being a good friend of him, and for the first time everything was going great until i found out he is in a relationship with a girl and a long term one (2 years +) and I DONT WANT TO TURN HIM GAY because he's happy now and i dont want to take that away from him but i cant help being deeply in love with him and i want to stop that, because it is driving me INSANE.so help me¿How can I stop this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): Listen it happens all the times, we cannot do anything about it because u can’t tell your heart who to love but this is the deal he has a relationship of two years with his girlfriend you’re just a friend to him according to what you said. I mean don’t get me wrong but in this case there is nothing you could do to help your feelings go away except for finding a man who would treat you well and make you feel comfortable. I know you wont stop loving him but it would help you deal with your pain of not having the man you love with you.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (28 September 2008):
 I feel your pain, buddy... I've been in love with a best friend who is in a relationship and it sucks.
I wished and wished that I just had a magic love potion to use on him. You have a great heart because you want him to be happy and to be a friend to him.
I want to help you and I hope that my answer doesn't make you sad, but it's like the song says, "I Can't Make You Love Me.." I'm not sure if you're familiar with that song but she sings about the pain of unrequited love.
I'm not sure how to stop being in love, but I can tell you that when we find a mutual love, then the pain of unrequited love will fade. My friend broke my heart, but music is my true love, and I realized this, because sometimes it was the only thing that made me happy. Finding your passion will put the sadness in perspective.
Does your friend know that you are gay? Do you feel comfortable telling him that you are gay? Would you feel comfortable telling him how you feel? I don't know how he would react, but a true friend will stand by you even if you are gay.
I am sorry because I don't know that my answer is very comforting but this does not mean that you don't deserve love. You deserve happines and to be accepted the way you are... gay... you still have much to offer and I hope you find the love you deserve :)
What is your other question, by the way?
You may write me anytime, by the way. I can't promise to write back immediately, but I will write back.
Me puedes escribir cuando quieras... yo se escuchar a la gente y yo te entiendo. Espero que te sientas mucho mejor :)
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reader, taina1980  +, writes (28 September 2008):
sweety you can't turn ppl gay they either are or arent... my bestfriend is a gay male & he goes thru stuff like this all the time... first for future reference, try not to become attached to unavailable men especially if they're straight... second never give your heart so easily... third distract yourself with a hobby or other friends that will speed up the heallin process...4 be patient these things take time... you will eventually come to the realization that you & him won't work....trust me you can do it honey! one day you'll find the person thats rite for you...
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