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writes: I'm in love with my little brother. I am currently a senior at my high school and he is a freshmen at the same school.He's casual, down-to-earth, funny, and he has the cutest smile. I've been in love with him for as long as I could remember. I've always flirted with him, wrapping his head around my arms and chest, asking him to say he loves me, leaning my head against his arm, and always kissing him good-night.I'm smart enough never to do "things" to him while he's asleep, but my heart aches whenever I find out he has a girlfriend, or when I see him making out with someone at school or in the living room.What can I do?
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reader, justsaying07  +, writes (6 December 2012):
You are a sick individual. These ppl telling you that this is okay for you to have these thoughts let me assure you: IT'S NOT! Why don't you tell your parents about this "love" and see how they respond. You seriously need to seek help. You clearly have issues..
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (12 September 2008):
 Do NOT, as suggested by anonymous, parade around in front of him in a thong and bra asking him what's your hottest body part. If this was a bloke who fancied his younger sister, prancing about throwing his naked self in front of her, it would be seen as harassment.
I'm sure you are not stupid enough to do this, because more likely than not it would result in your brother feeling very uncomfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): i can not believe you are giving this girl your blessing to go ahead and flaunt herself in a sexual way infront of her brother, this is illegal and has far reaching effects for many people, what happens when you decide you want children, move on young lady and find a new romantic interest
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): well all i have to say is explore yourself and let him explore you as well just to see how you really feel
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): As a follow-up to my September 6 post, I need to ask a few questions. You say you are in love with your little brother. Is this love stronger or more powerful than any feeling you have ever had for anyone else, including other boys? Do you love your little brother more than you have ever loved one of your boyfriends? Is this love so powerful that you crave being physically next to him and actually having him make love to you (have sex with you)?
If the answer to these questions is yes, then you may be experiencing a phenomenon know as genetic sexual attraction, where you attracted to a very close relative. This actually happens betweens siblings and a parent and their child. If you want to pursue this love you feel for your brother, there are several things you can do.
One is to do things that will make your brother see you in a sexual way. Sex always gets boys' attention, especially young teenage boys. So you might try things like letting him see you in just your bra and thong. Or invite him into your room and tell him you want his opinions on some different outfit combinations you want to try, and to see if he thinks guys will like the way you look in the outfits. Then strip down to your bra and thong and change clothes in front of him. You could also try buying a new bra and thong set and change into that by taking off the bra & thong you are wearing so that you will be completely nude. That will get his attention, and if he says anything about it, you can always say something like "what's the matter, you've never seen a girl naked before?" If he sees no, then you can say, "well, look as much as you want. Do I look good naked? Do I look really hot and sexy? Which part of my body do you like best? Do you think if a guy saw me naked, he would want to have sex with me?" All these things will make him see you in a sexual way. Since you are older than he is, your body is more developed than girls his age, so he will probably be very sexually aroused from seeing you nude. Also, ask him if he has any questions about a woman's body and how to satisfy her sexually, and you will be happy to answer them for him.
Then, you can confess your feelings to him and tell him you are in love with him. Ask him if he is willing to have a relationship with you, and if he says yes, make sure you make him promise that he will have to keep it a secret. A secret relationship is the best you can hope for. Also, you will need to be careful how you act with each other when other people are around, like your parents. You want to be sure not to give off any signs that you and your brother are having a sexual relationship. And eventually you will probably both have to move on to other relationships if you want to get married and have children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): You might want to read the story that the Times of London published on July 15 from a woman who had sex with her brother and didn't feel guilty about the relationship. It went on for about 10 years I think. It was based on love, and she has nothing but good memories about it. You can find the article by doing a Google search for "I had sex with my brother," and links to the article will come up.The fact that you mentioned not doing "things" to him while he sleeps also tells me you are having sexual thoughts about him. If that is the case, I suppose you could talk to him and tell him how you feel about him. But the question would then be, what are you going to do after that? If you decide to have a relationship with him, how are you going to explain that to your friends and family? I think you would have to keep it a secret from everyone who know, because they would frown upon it. So you would have to settle for having a secret romantic and sexual relation with your brother. Are you willing to accept and settle for that? And do you think you can count on him to keep the relationship a secret?One way to make this happen is that after you graduate from high school, get your own place, whether or not you go on to college, and have your little brother visit you at your new place or stay with you on weekends and holidays.But eventually both you and him would have to realize that you cannot be together forever, especially if either of you wants to get married have children. So sooner or later, you would have to agree to end the relationship, like the woman in the London Times article said she had to do when her brother got married. Another forum where you can ask for advice on this is the Hip Forums at http://www.hipforums.com. You can register there and ask for advice from others. Most people ther are happy to give advice on people's problems. Best of luck to you and please post back here to let us know what you decided to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): that not love... it's incest, but not love. i think you just really really like him and kid yourself that your in love but trust me i've been in love and that isn't it!! at the age you are your at the peak of your sexuality, which means that the hormones are still racing round and your very horney.
just try and get out of the house and away from him, go out with friend or maybe on a holiday by yourself, hopefully you will discover what true love is then :)
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reader, RD +, writes (4 September 2008):
I think you need a relationship for yourself to see what loving someone else is really like. Chances are you've simply want a relationship and naturally feel close to your brother, and of course you are protective of him. Go out and find someone your own age...that youre NOT related to...and strike something up. I'm sure you have someone in mind. That should solve the problem...guaranteed.If that doesn't work, do what that guy suggested and get help. Professional help, because it's not natural and not even legal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): You lot make me laugh - you really do! If this was a guy posting this you would all be down on him like a ton of bricks instead of pussyfooting around the problem.Fact is poster, you are mentally sick - perverse. Get help now. (I don't suppose for one moment that you will)
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reader, battyc +, writes (3 September 2008):
This is a situation I've mostly seen in fiction, and the conclusion is almost never a happy ending. But I have sort seen this once in real life. My friend was "in lust" with his recently adopted sister when they were teenagers. I don't know how she felt, but she certainly accepted his physical attentions. What came later was one of the unhappier chapters in this young man's life.Of course, it's different because they weren't in love, and you've been smart enough not to try anything funny. But any romantic attraction often turns physical and being young, it's sometimes harder to resist the pull. I know it will be impossible for you to just forget your feelings. But try to date others, even if they resemble your brother in any way--but try not to let there be any trends that give away your affection for your brother. That could make annoying situations later! It's not a bad idea to get counseling to have someone to talk to about it. I wish you the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): Wow. This is strange. I've never heard of a girl feeling like she's in love with her brother. You haven't actually fantasized about having sex with him, have you? Cuz if you have, it might be time to see a therapist to see how to get this issue resolved. I've never heard of this kind of thing happening to a girl.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (2 September 2008):
 I think SirenaBlusera has said it all love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): Get some counselling if you think you're romantically in love with him..
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (2 September 2008):
 I think it's sweet that you have a loving relationship with your little brother. My brother thinks I'm a capital B. Are you REALLY in love with him, though? I think that you have a close relationship, and perhaps you feel torn apart when he gets a girlfriend because you're close to him and miss him when you're not spending time together. Unfortunately, if you LOVE him, as in romantically... you know that it would be a bad idea to act on those feelings. However, I think that you should seek a boyfriend who has very similar qualities to your brother. Loving, casual, down to earth and funny... there are loads of guys with those qualities. Cherish the close relationship you have with your brother, and look for a very similar guy as a potential boyfriend.
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