I love my wife but am no longer sexually attracted to her, what should I do?
Q. Ok, so the last thing I want is to be made to feel guilty, as I already do. All I want is some advice before I lose my mind... My wife and I have been married for 4 years and have been together for 7. We have a 2 yr old son who we both love to piece...
A. 24 June 2011: Wow... :(
To be honest, my answer is less of an answer, and more of just "support". I really hope things come out okay. But I'll give some hopefully helpful advice.
I think an important part of sexual attraction is being healthy yourself... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is getting divorced but his soon-to-be ex wife just moved back in, should I believe him?
Q. Hi. Some background 1st, I guess would be helpful. I'm 25, my BF is 41 and his "soon to be" ex wife is 35ish. (Not real sure) Anyway they were together 8yrs and have 2 younger kids together (6 and 10). We have been dating just over 6months now ...
A. 24 June 2011: Sounds like a cheater..
Find yourself a man without complications. Very rarely will a story that starts bad end well. You have the choice to just walk away here... please do. You will find that the world is full of many very eligible men who don'... (read in full...)
Just had a baby w/my estranged husband who's dating someone else...Should I divorce him?
Q. I apologize for my long description but truly appreciate any and all advice. I am embarrassed about the sitaution I have put myself in but thought you should have a thorough explanation. I just had a baby with my estranged husband who is dating ...
A. 24 June 2011: So what's the story? Any news?... (read in full...)
Nervous about meeting someone new, how should I handle it?
Q. I am almost 26 and one of my friends whom I see from time to time and works in another city texted me and said that she was talking about me to a friend of hers and that she said that she was interested in getting to know me and to give me her ...
A. 24 June 2011: Make light of the subject. Talk about how funny it is that you have people hooking you up when you don't even ask them to (say it with a funny tone, not seriously). Ask her what your friend mentioned of you, and then laugh at the situation and just ... (read in full...)
Why would he be interested in me? He could probably get any girl he wanted
Q. Hiya guys! im hoping someone will be able to help me. Ok well i am a 20 year old uni student and I have been single for about a year now. Recently I was hurt by a guy who i thought really liked me but ended up just using me. After that i was a bit...
A. 24 June 2011: Well, you two are definitely on different confident levels. That can be a problem in itself! The club that he claims to have met you at--do you remember going to that club that night? That was my first thought.
If his first impression of you was ... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation with a girl on facebook that I've not met properly but have a huge crush on her?
Q. There's this girl that I've not properly met but i added her on facebook after a party over a year ago.. I started talking to her on it a few months ago rarely and I really like her. I've got a massive crush on her but because I've never actually ...
A. 4 June 2011: Jk on that last part. You already talk to her online? I missed that... Dude you have no worries. Go get 'er Tiger!... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation with a girl on facebook that I've not met properly but have a huge crush on her?
Q. There's this girl that I've not properly met but i added her on facebook after a party over a year ago.. I started talking to her on it a few months ago rarely and I really like her. I've got a massive crush on her but because I've never actually ...
A. 4 June 2011: This is easy. I started my current relationship in your position ;)
I just Facebook messaged her, and said:
"Hey there!
How have you been [name]? I don't really hear anything about you. I guess that's a good thing you aren't part of [our hom... (read in full...)
Should I pay my boyfriend or should he work for free?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and six months. He has a handyman business. I need electrical and plumbing work done should i pay him to do the work?...
A. 4 June 2011: No way. If he's a true gentleman he wouldn't accept it anyways, but honestly there is no reason to assume you should.
Who cares if you aren't married? I wouldn't charge a girl I had been dating a week let alone a year and a half!... (read in full...)
My best friend is flirting with my boyfriend
Q. i'm 15 and i know some of you may think im too young to have a problem like this but...I have a problem and its starting to make me mad... i have a best friend who i feel flirts with my boyfriend.. she knew him longer than me, and she says she ...
A. 4 June 2011: So what's the question?... (read in full...)
Just had a baby w/my estranged husband who's dating someone else...Should I divorce him?
Q. I apologize for my long description but truly appreciate any and all advice. I am embarrassed about the sitaution I have put myself in but thought you should have a thorough explanation. I just had a baby with my estranged husband who is dating ...
A. 6 February 2011: Wow. Longest excerpt I've read on this site! Haha.
Okay, well, he will not stop dating this girl. He hasn't despite promises, and he never will as long as she wants to be in it. Because sex is such a powerful thing, it's no wonder you are still at... (read in full...)
Boyfriend saved my life and is now handicapped. Should I stay with him?
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It almost sounds unreal, but he saved my life about one month ago. He pushed me out of the way from getting hit by an oncoming car, but he was badly injured. Right now, ...
A. 28 December 2010: It's "difficult" for him to walk... but not impossible. He sounds very much like he will get better. If you are a decent woman, stay with him through treatment then make a decision. Best of luck to you. In this case, I disagree that you need to... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between my middle-aged boyfriend and teenage shop girl?
Q. My boyfriend is 52 and I'm in my mid 30's so quite an age gap but we've been together for nearly 10 years. He goes to the corner shop on a daily basis to buy some chocolate and a drink (I rarely go) and over the last couple of months he's taking ...
A. 28 December 2010: I highly doubt there is anything romantically going on, but it definitely sounds fishy. When I started reading, I was sure you were just creating your own scenario.. but finishing the story I'm not so sure anymore. Her behaviors are a bit strange, ... (read in full...)
My selfish girlfriend
Q. What do you if you are on a relationship with a selfish woman? She thinks everything revolves around her. I love her dearly but I have been holding back on getting engaged because of this issue? Is it possible that with time and cpmmunication she ...
A. 28 December 2010: Getting engaged is a huge step. A friend of mine is dating a girl who is completely wrapped up in herself. She can't even carry a conversation because she doesn't want to listen to anyone else's stupid life. And he is blunt with her about it. If... (read in full...)
He says he won't do anything I don't want him to
Q. my boyfriend is 2 years older than me and loves me tells me he will not do anything i ask him not to. i can tell that eritates him though. whatt should i do?...
A. 28 December 2010: Nobody likes to be told what they can and cannot do. If you were told you could not talk to a friend of yours who just happened to be a guy... but you ONLY thought of him as a friend and he was obviously platonic, how would you feel? Let him... (read in full...)
What is the difference between a friends with benefits and a lover?
Q. can somebody tell me the difference between a friends with benefits and a lover: He said that I am his lover.... what does this mean? Does he care about me for the future? or is this just a temporary sex relationship? What do you guys thi...
A. 28 December 2010: Considering you analyzed his choice of words, and thought on them enough to come here, I think it's safe to say you are attached to this man... ... and unfortunately I doubt it's as intense with him. Friends with benefits sounds so dirty and sle... (read in full...)
What is the meaning behind his gift?
Q. Hey, I'd love some advice on the meaning of a gift I received for xmas from my bf of 4 months, please. We said we'd get each other little gifts, but he bought me a beautiful sapphire necklace :) I'm not sure what this means (he hasn't ever told me ...
A. 28 December 2010: Don't get him anything! He knew you weren't going to get him much, and he chose to get you that necklace. Just LET IT BE a present, and be happy! Otherwise, it's like you're buying your own gift with a gift to him, and it might make him second-guess ... (read in full...)
He's still flirting with girls on FB and texting even after just moving in with me?
Q. I recently started dealing with my old high school boyfriend again. So far so good. But I have a minor problem. He spent the holidays with me and he's still here. He only leaves to go to work or go home to get clean clothes. But I noticed he's ...
A. 28 December 2010: First thing to do before confronting about the flirtations, is to define what you two are. I'd ask him... he's moved in so I'd say it wouldn't be a weird question. If he says you two are together, soon he will be "Facebook official" with y... (read in full...)
How can I protect my friend from getting hurt?
Q. How can I help my friend not get hurt? She and this guy (who is three years older than her) have been flirting with eachother a while now. And she's confessed to me recently that her feelings for him are getting stronger. This guy has hurt one of ...
A. 28 December 2010: You already talked to her once. I'd do it one more time, then just let it be. I promise you, when the sleazy ones lie, they are good at it. She will definitely believe her new heart-throb more than another friend, and she'll have to figure it out ... (read in full...)
4 guys, do I just wait for one of them to make a move?
Q. I am 21 years old. I'm in my fourth year of college and life is going pretty good right now. I feel good about the direction my life is going and I'm ready for anything. Everything feels perfect, except one thing. Well, three things that is. Thre...
A. 3 September 2010: Do they all know about each other?
I just want to make sure you aren't being exclusive with any of them and then going behind their back.
I'll assume none of them are exclusive.
Just play it out. It seems that 1 is in the past, and you sho... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend just emailed me!
Q. Humm she emailed me back after I wrote here wanting my coat? This is what she said does it sound like she wants to talk to me again? here is what she said! "I dont have a bf at all. And as for your coat why do you need it now?? Its not winter...
A. 3 September 2010: You're asking so many questions over a simple e-mail. You may be correct; you DO know her better than any of us. Try talking to her and figuring it out.
Me? I think it was a simple e-mail saying she will get the coat back to you but she's had some... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend just emailed me!
Q. Humm she emailed me back after I wrote here wanting my coat? This is what she said does it sound like she wants to talk to me again? here is what she said! "I dont have a bf at all. And as for your coat why do you need it now?? Its not winter...
A. 2 September 2010: Maybe because she got in a car crash?
Was this a recent break up? You seem angry at her, and you just said "hope she has fun with her boyfriend"... even though she explicitly said "I don't have a bf at all".
So I'm just a little confused.... (read in full...)
Is love at first sight possible??
Q. Do you beleve in love at first sight?...
A. 2 August 2010: No. You can be very attracted to an individual, but there is no way to tell the personality of someone without meeting them. Love is an unconditional action that transcends anything else on this earth. It is something that can not be found in a ... (read in full...)
Should we get together?
Q. HELP! Ok, so this is an awkward topic for me but I have to tell someone and I'm not very good at sharing my feelings. So, I know this guy, but when I say know him, what I actually mean is he was my form tutor at school for about a year. But now he's ...
A. 2 August 2010: If he is interested, he shouldn't be. 15 and 27 is a large gap at that age. He's almost twice your age.
Don't pursue it, and don't assume he likes you. He probably just thought you were a great student. Also, you aren't in love with him. Love and... (read in full...)
We are friends, had sexual encounter, don't want to lose him, suggestions?
Q. Hello Dearcupids, I hope you can help me out on this situation! Last night I went on a night out with a very good male friend of mine. We don't see each other very often but chat online daily - I would actually consider him to be one of my best f...
A. 1 August 2010: Let us know what happens! Thanks for the kind words.... (read in full...)
I told her boyfriend she was cheating, things got crazy, what do I do now??
Q. I told my friend her boyfriend that she is cheating, right now everyone is affected, her family and some friends. what do i need to do? she is so mad. but his boyfriend wants to know everything she did. ...
A. 29 July 2010: Hmm... well, I think there might have been a better way to handle it. So first off, even though what you did WAS the right thing, apologize to both parties. When that is over, tell her boyfriend he just needs to talk to her about it. "I shouldn't ... (read in full...)
My best girlfriend and I made out a little, am I bisexual?
Q. I have a best friend. She was the first person I met when I moved to my new neighborhood and I met her at church. We have been close for years. One night at a sleepover we were talking about horny we were. We were laying on her bed and then we ...
A. 29 July 2010: I have two female friends that used to "hook up" "all the time" when they were younger. I don't know specifics, I didn't ask. But I know it's more than making out. I don't think it's necessarily common for women to experience this, but I also don't ... (read in full...)
We are friends, had sexual encounter, don't want to lose him, suggestions?
Q. Hello Dearcupids, I hope you can help me out on this situation! Last night I went on a night out with a very good male friend of mine. We don't see each other very often but chat online daily - I would actually consider him to be one of my best f...
A. 28 July 2010: Hmm, well if that is what your vibes are telling you, then follow them. However, I want to throw this out there.
He was always initiating conversation because he was interested in you. Then he talked to you the following day just to not be a but... (read in full...)
It turns out I was in love with her... should I make a move?
Q. Hey y'all. Sorry I haven't been giving advice too much lately, I just haven't been online too much this summer. Anyways, I'm having a little emotional dilemma. My best friend is a woman. Our relationship is closer than any relationship I'v...
A. 27 July 2010: One can only hope ;)
TBH, I was nervous I'd just blurt out too much and freak her out. I'm taking it slow, and hoping the same thing that happened to me will happen to her. Plant the idea... and let it grow. Thanks for the answer!... (read in full...)
It turns out I was in love with her... should I make a move?
Q. Hey y'all. Sorry I haven't been giving advice too much lately, I just haven't been online too much this summer. Anyways, I'm having a little emotional dilemma. My best friend is a woman. Our relationship is closer than any relationship I'v...
A. 27 July 2010: Thank you Lindy. I will let you know what comes of it. I hinted at it today, and told her "I just want you to know, just because it's never actually been said between us before, that I would date you if the opportunity arose."
She kinda laughed ... (read in full...)
My best friend: to date or not to date?
Q. So I posted this question but got no answers. So here it is again. Hey y'all. Sorry I haven't been giving advice too much lately, I just haven't been online too much this summer. Anyways, I'm having a little emotional dilemma. My best fr...
A. 27 July 2010: Thank you Katie. If anything comes out of it, I will update.... (read in full...)
My best friend: to date or not to date?
Q. So I posted this question but got no answers. So here it is again. Hey y'all. Sorry I haven't been giving advice too much lately, I just haven't been online too much this summer. Anyways, I'm having a little emotional dilemma. My best fr...
A. 26 July 2010: Hey Paul,
Thanks for the confidence. I guess the bias might always be there, but because I love her I will always act in her best interest. I actually already talked to her today, but it was very mild. I basically just said "I just want you to k... (read in full...)
Can women determine genital size just by looking at a guy??
Q. Can women tell if you are well endowed just by looking at you or a part of you? Or what are some things women look at on a guy to try and guess what size a guy is?...
A. 26 July 2010: Psht I can tell just by looking at someone if they are big or not. I mean sure I'm not super accurate, but I can tell you if he's small, medium, or hung. It's not foolproof but I'm guessing if I can, then women can.
It's in the size of hands, f... (read in full...)
We are friends, had sexual encounter, don't want to lose him, suggestions?
Q. Hello Dearcupids, I hope you can help me out on this situation! Last night I went on a night out with a very good male friend of mine. We don't see each other very often but chat online daily - I would actually consider him to be one of my best f...
A. 26 July 2010: It sounds like he's been interested for awhile, and took the whole night along with the kissing as proof that you were interested as well.
He's more than likely confused, and also feeling the pain of rejection. Talk to him, assure him that you... (read in full...)
21 year old virgin loser, never been kissed by a sober guy!
Q. Hi im a 21 year old female virgin (almost 22 soon) i never had a real relationship and i never been on a date... i have madeout with guys but everytime ive been kissed was by my guy friends who were drunk/horny. i imagine that since they were drunk ...
A. 26 July 2010: Well, honestly, I would prefer someone who hasn't given away their virginity yet.
But that's for different reasons; I really think it's respectable to find another (like me) that's saving herself for marriage.
I know other guys that for differe... (read in full...)
The intimate details of my past partners are hurting my gf
Q. A few months ago, my girlfriend and i started dating. before this happened, we were friends for almost 2 years. Things are great, for the most part, if it wouldnt be for 2 things. 1- we live 1000 miles away from one another, i just recently was ...
A. 26 July 2010: Hmm... well, first off, I want to say congratulations on dating a close friend. That's usually a very good way to start off a relationship, and I'm sorry you've hit some rocks this early. But when these rocks are over, there should be some clear ... (read in full...)
I want another dog but he said "no" with a load of silly reasons!
Q. Hello I really don't know where to start but I'll try my husband is an only child and I'm not sure if this is where the problem is I can have anything I want materialistaly but any thing else is a no no we did try for a baby without sucsess and now ...
A. 26 July 2010: Maybe he just doesn't like dogs..?
My mom hates dogs. The rest of our family loves them. We don't have a dog because of my mom.
Honestly, I don't think you should get a dog. If he doesn't like them, then you don't need one. How would you feel i... (read in full...)
Can men stay without having sex with their wives for 3 to 4 weeks?
Q. can you please tell me can men stay for a long time i mean like 3 or 4 weeks without having sex with his wife? is this true can man stay without touching his wife for more than 3 weeks as my husband never keep attention on me why is that? is that ...
A. 26 July 2010: 3-4 weeks is NOTHING to many couples. Yes, this is possible. Maybe not the healthiest, but definitely not anything abnormal.... (read in full...)
What does this phone message mean?
Q. i messaged my ex this 'do you like the way you and me turned out in the end?' (which basically meant me and her finishing and we hardly ever speak now) to which she said 'no do you?' I then responded 'no,i feel like a fool asking you this now i ju...
A. 26 July 2010: Well if you were discontent with it, then you should try to remedy that. Obviously she wasn't happy with the outcome either. Her reply was short because it's a little awkward talking to an ex. Your answer wasn't "short and to the point" it was just ... (read in full...)
She refused to stop seeing her ex and sending him flirty texts and "I love you"s. I'm heart broken.
Q. Hey everyone Me and girlfriend broke up after about a year of dating and i am still madly in love with her and I would give the world for and I would fight to my dying breathe to keep her safe and i feel completely heart broken to the point where I ...
A. 25 July 2010: Hey man, I'm going to put in my own opinion from what I read, and it may come as a harsh reality to you.
I think she is completely selfish, and perhaps not the girl you thought she was. It is fine for men and women to be friends while in other co... (read in full...)
I need Edward...for now
Q. Hello, My mother posted a message on this site about me, here is the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-serious-concerns-about-my-daughters-mental.html She asked me to come online and explain my case to you all, seeing as she co...
A. 25 July 2010: I'm torn. I don't want to tell you to do away with Edward, but it is alarming for someone of your age to have an imaginary friend.
Do you physically see him? I would assume that physically seeing him is more alarming than a the occasional sooting ... (read in full...)
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